Women Who Make Eye Contact & Stare, But Are Taken

What it means when women make eye contact & stare but are in a relationship.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has been following me for a long time and has read 3% Man, several times. He recently moved to a new city and notices that lots of women make eye contact and stare as if they are interested. However, when he approached them, a high percentage are taken and in relationships. He wonders if he’s doing something wrong since so many are taken. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “Women Who Make Eye Contact & Stare, But Are Taken.”

So this is an interesting email. This is from a guy who says he’s a longtime follower and he’s read 3% Man several times. And so he just moved to a new city. And so he’s clearly focusing on eye contact and trying to meet some new ladies. And what he’s noticing is that a lot of women will smile, they’ll make eye contact, and basically eye fuck him.

And then when he goes and approaches them, finds out that they’re taken or they’re in a relationship. So he’s wondering if he’s doing something wrong or what the hell is going on. Right, Rocky? Hey, buddy.

Viewer Email:

Hi Corey,

Long time follower. I’ve read the book, several times. I thought this might be an interesting one for your followers who are farther along in their process. I’ve recently moved to a new city. I’m 37 but look 30, in shape, and generally have seemed to grow into good looks in my late 30s and am getting the attention of cute girls everywhere I go consistently. If I walk by a cute girl on the street I seem to have a 70-80% hit rate in terms of eye contact of where I can tell she’s checking me out.

Well it doesn’t mean every single girl that checks you out wants to fuck you. But it definitely means that they pass the physical attraction test, or you pass their physical attraction test. And it’s something to keep in mind about that is that most people tend to settle. They major in minor things. And so you’re going to encounter, especially as you get really good at applying what’s in My Book. You’re going to encounter a lot of women that are taken, and they eye fuck you. And then you make an approach and then they got a boyfriend.

So what does that tell you? If they’re really intensely eye fucking you. Like I remember back when I was living in South Beach, there was one of my neighbors who was really fucking hot. Incredible body. Brazilian. And I would look over and she’d just be staring at me, and eye fucking me and wouldn’t look away. I was thinking, huh? You know, because there were a lot of couples there, and I didn’t see her with any dudes. She was with one of her girlfriends and, you know, over lunch. It’s like I feel somebody staring at me.

I look over and she’d just be staring at me, and she would smile. Usually when women do that, it’s like, “Hey, I like what I see, and maybe you’ll come over and talk to me.” So after I got done, I walked over and started talking to her and asked her out. And then she got all kind of flustered and “Oh, I’m married.” I was like, “Ha.” And I go, “Oh!” And then I saw her a little while later with her man and like a day or two later and just watched the two of them, the body language.

And I was like, “Oh.” It’s not really that happy. Doesn’t mean that she was willing to screw around her husband. Not that I’m going to mess around with that anyways, but the fact that she’s looking and checking me out and eye fucking me. Obviously she was clearly attracted and she was interested, but she was unavailable. And then when I watched her interact with her man, I was like, I guess she ain’t that happy. But you know, those things are going to happen. And so what you’re looking for is somebody who’s ready, willing, able and open to dating you.

I’ve been making approaches based on communicated interest level, as your book teaches, but have had several encounters like this recently where the girls were eye-fucking me very (very) obviously, but when I ask them out they (credibly) have boyfriends (by credibly I mean I like to tease them when they say that, in a chill and nonchalant way, but can tell pretty quickly they’re actually taken). In other words, I’m getting attention from taken women at a high frequency. I will say, I am highly selective in terms of physical looks.

Well, you should take that as a compliment then. Maybe you’re a little bit better looking than the average dude. And so this is going to happen to you more than the average guy. Like I look at myself, I’m just an average dude. And so that means you got lots of women that find you attractive. So you should feel good about that. But, I mean, it’s a numbers game. Don’t take it personally. If they’re taken. Take it as a compliment.

It’s like, “All these chicks are clearly attracted to me.” That should be your attitude. But if they were really happy in their relationships and really content, they probably would not be eye fucking you like that. So in other words, they’re unhappy, but they’re not unhappy enough to do something about it. And you’re going to find that, that’s just life.

The other day, for example: there is a girl that I’ve been seeing at one of the gyms I go to, and she had been eye-fucking me a bit, and then recently been eye-fucking me a lot. I went over to talk to her, and she totally ignored me. Looked at me once, and then proceeded to start her set like, “Why are you talking to me?”

Yeah, that’s kind of rude, but she invited your attention because most women that are happy and that are taken will smile. They’re not going to look you in the eyes and they’re not going to smile. I’m sure you’ve had this experience when you’re walking in a grocery store and you see a really hot woman pushing a cart. You’re thinking, “Jesus Christ, she’s hot.” Hey. No whining. And you’re thinking, “Damn, this girl is hot.” And yet, as you walk by, you’re just waiting for her to look over you. And so she just kind of looks at the aisle and acts like you’re invisible.

Come on. Come on up here. Acts like you’re invisible and doesn’t stare at you. And they do that on purpose. Because that means that they’re taken and they’re trying not to encourage you to approach them. But this girl in the gym. She smiled. She made eye contact. She eye fucked you a bunch over several days, and then you finally approach her because it looks like she’s interested. And then she’s like, uh, get away from me. It’s kind of the attitude. So that’s going to happen. You can’t get butthurt, you can’t get upset about it. You can’t let it deter you because all you need is one good one.

To be clear, there’s no way I’m misreading her (eye-fucking) level of attention. But am I simply attracting enough attention in general that even the taken girls are “moonlighting” for my attention, despite being taken?

Yeah, probably not that happy. Probably not really totally content. Or maybe you’re just a really good looking dude. You’re better looking than you think you are, and women are checking you out because you’re an attractive dude. So it’s all upside here. And you have the balls to approach them and ask them out, even though most of them are rejecting you and being taken.

So that should be a compliment to you. That should be something that should puff you up a little bit and build up your confidence and make you feel pretty good about yourself and your chances and the quality of the women that you’re able to attract. So this is nothing but plus, Dude. And good for you. You should be proud of that.

It reminds me of the tree-branching tendency of women that you speak of.

Monkey branching is what we call it.

Or am I doing something wrong?

Not at all. You shouldn’t apologize for being handsome and attractive and women checking you out, but ultimately being unavailable. Right, Ocean baby.

I understand that dating “is a numbers game” as you say, but I’ve been exploring a lot of these types of situations the same way and they keep coming up as taken ladies.

Thanks,

Bob

You can’t get discouraged. And you say, “Well, I guess I’m just going to stop approaching because every time I approach a girl, that’s eye fucking me most of them tend to be taken.” That can’t be your attitude. Your attitude should be, “Man, I’m pretty studly guy. All it takes is for one of those girls to say yes. And then the magic happens.” So keep doing what you’re doing, man. You got nothing to feel ashamed of because you’re delighting these women with your physical looks.

There’s nothing bad about that. You can’t help it if you’re incredibly charming and handsome and good looking. And the ladies eye fuck you. It says more about them than it does you that they eye fuck you but when they’re taken, so it shows that they’re probably not that happy. And like the girl in the gym, if you went over to talk to her and she just acts like you’re not there, well, then don’t pay her any attention.

And who knows, maybe she splits up with the guy she’s with or whatever, or maybe she comes over and starts talking to you eventually. Go talk to other girls. Who cares? You made the approach as a man. That’s the only thing you owe women is to show up and do an approach and to express your interest, to give an invitation for a date, and then let the chips fall where they may. Right? Right?

Yeah, exactly. Coach is always right. So that’s what I would do if I were you, man. This is nothing but good stuff. Good things to feel positive about, to feel excited about, to feel happy. About. To feel proud of yourself. So who cares if this happens a hundred times. All you need is one girl to say yes. Right, Rocky? Right. That’s all you need is one good one. And then life will be even better. Right? Right.

So, if you’ve got a question or a challenge and you’d like to get my help, go to UnderstandingRelationships.com, click the Products tab at the top of your screen on any page, and book a coaching session with yours truly. Until next time, I will talk to you soon.