Working Through Social Phobia

How to overcome social awkwardness, insecurity & become confident enough to attract the kind of women you want. Every man who struggles with women in some way, has some kind of inner confidence game issue he is struggling with; and hopefully trying to overcome! The experiences I have now are kind of bizarre to most people. When I go out to a bar or nightclub or other public venue, I literally can feel and sense the energy and insecurities of everyone around me. I have so trained my eye of what to look for in human beings and how they interact with one another, that I’m constantly observing. I find people watching to be fascinating. It’s especially fascinating when you know what to look for and can observe the patterns and trends that I speak about in my book in the people you observe and interact with in your own life. You literally will feel like you are psychic at times. When you observe with your own eyes that most men, that is 97% of them to be exact, are absolutely clueless around women, you can’t help but feel 1000 times more confident and masculine than every other guy. It’s an amazing feeling to be chatting with a group of beautiful women as you chuckle inside laughing at other men who try to cock block you and get the attention of the beautiful women who are talking to you; and by simply hanging back and asking a few questions every now and then, the women ignore the other men and only focus on you. It’s Jedi pickup skills! And once you know them, no man anywhere can touch you. They will all seek your counsel and want to know how you do it. The following is an e-mail from a guy who has recently found out about my work and is trying to work through his social phobia, awkwardness issues and feeling fearful around other men and especially women. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey,

My questions are: Is your fee flexible? (No.) I’m a student. I live in New Zealand and can only afford the $60.00 I get from the government. (I guess you’ll just have to save up your money and book sessions when you can. It’s simply a matter of desire on your part. If you feel investing in yourself to ensure your future success and happiness is worth it to improve your situation in life, then you’ll find a way to come up with the money. You can book your first session by CLICKING HERE.) I’d be interested though. I see your title is life coach. How are you different from a counselor? (I have several clients who have counselors and psychologists. They help you with your issues and medication. As a life coach, it’s my job to help you create a plan to achieve your dreams, goals and hold you accountable to it. I teach you the fundamentals of pickup, dating, and healthy loving relationships. I also teach you how to become more successful with women by becoming a more successful man by focusing on being at your personal best in all areas of your life: health, exercise, relationships, wealth creation, career, entrepreneurship, leadership, team building, sales training, discovering/living your purpose, marketing, etc. It’s about helping you identify what’s most important to you in your life and what you want to create; and then helping you implement a balanced plan, strategies and success rituals that will guarantee your success.) I’m working through social phobia. Despite my efforts, anxiety can still show as I learn to control it. First dates will be challenging. Is it ever ok to just admit I’m anxious to a girl? (Sure, however, it’s all in how and the way you say it. Just say, “wow, I feel a little nervous around you. That does not happen except when I’m around really special people.” You acknowledge what you are feeling, but say it in a way that is a compliment about her instead of a shortcoming of yours you are ashamed of. Plus, if she likes you also, she’s probably feeling a little nervous too. If she says she is too, then you can say, “great! let’s kiss right now so we will both feel instantly comfortable.”) Or tell her I’m working through stuff? (Everyone is working thru stuff in some way or another. However, it’s not going to do anything for her interest level in you to basically communicate: “I feel like I am broken, will you please love me?” Keep that shit to yourself and share with only your closest buddies. You know, your actual friends who love you despite your shortcomings, flaws and insecurities.)

I feel ashamed of my anxiety, especially around women. (God created you the way you are for a reason. You need to start trusting your heart and moving towards your grandest goals and dreams if you want to be happy long term in life. The more successful you become at doing something you love, the happier and more confident you will feel inside. Confidence is nothing more than doing something you know how to do and doing it really well. Repetition is the mother of skill. Practicing the fundamentals I teach in my book will build your confidence and sensory acuity.) But also men. I feel unmasculine because I get anxious. I have trouble accepting the way I look. (So what if you’re fugly! Women are more attracted to confidence, not looks. That’s a fact. When you do something for a living that makes you feel alive and proud, women are naturally attracted to your passion and your drive. Plus, you’ll make good money doing it if you understand what really creates wealth. They figure they can share in your happiness and create a love story with you.) Both things screw me up in daily life. I take the wrong energy with people because I lack confidence. (That is why you need to go to a mall to practice your social skills so you can lose your fear of people in general once you realize that most people are kind and friendly and love to give you their opinion on things. That will make you feel fearless.) As a child I was scared of my dad, bonded to mum who encouraged being overly nice. (Nice guys never get laid.) How can I control my anxiety so it doesn’t go through the roof and become obvious to the girl? (You’ve got to practice your social skills and interacting with people in the ways I describe in my book and in this YouTube video.) What are good ways of accepting and being happy with the way I look? What are good ways just to feel good about myself generally? (Stop giving a fuck what others think about you, it’s irrelevant. You can read this article & watch my YouTube video to overcome shyness & feeling inferior. Most other people are weak and lazy. At least you’re reading my site. Most men are too weak to admit they need help. Therefore, they continue to fail. Where they have failed, you will eventually succeed. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Tim