What you should do if you just started dating a woman who is recently widowed and she keeps referring to what her late husband used to do for her, and she expects you to pay for her manicures, pedicures, home repairs, etc., and then becomes flakey, bitchy or disinterested when you tell her that you can’t afford it.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who is recently divorced after a 16 year marriage. He’s newly back on the dating scene and has been dating a woman for about a month.
Recently, she has been expecting him to pay for her bills and other BS beauty treatments. He told her he could not afford to pay for all her expenses and she promptly told him she could only be friends. He told her thanks, but no thanks and good luck in her search. A few days went by and now she is calling and texting him as if the conversation never happened. He asks if she should run like hell from her.
“You deserve to be loved by and in love with someone who appreciates you for you. Not what you can do for them, buy for them, your money, social status, connections, etc. Part of having self-love and self-respect means being able to walk away from people who seem more interested in what they can get from you instead of what they can contribute to your relationship. The purpose of all relationships is that you go there to give. Only spend your time with mutual givers, not those who leave you feeling fleeced emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne