Who are you? Who are you really? Who or what is really behind those eyes you see when you look in the mirror? Are you 100% sure you really know the answers to those questions?
Most people in life are walking around living lives of mediocrity and quiet desperation due to irrational fears, limiting beliefs, false mental constructs, religious dogma, etc. People literally put themselves knowingly and unknowingly into a mental prison that inhibits their ability to move forward and create the life and loves that they’ve always wanted.
Human beings are sexual beings, but for many tortured souls, religious dogma, or for women who fear being labeled “a slut” by their peers, they don’t act upon their desire because of guilt or shame. They deny themselves their birthright by sticking to their dogma or fear of being labeled in a bad way, which initially makes them feel good, but afterwords, always leaves them feeling like they are missing out. You are a magnificent divine being who deserves, and is totally capable of having everything that you perceive is currently missing from your life, as well as the true desires of your heart. The only thing that separates you from the love you seek, the money you want to make, a college degree, a successful business, a great career, a family, etc. is your belief that you are separate from that which you seek or desire.
I have a quote I want to share with you from one of the worlds greatest atomic scientists. A man who spent his whole life studying matter and the stuff that makes up the physical world around us. The building blocks of our reality. Or what we perceive as being reality. As Jesus said, “It’s the spirit that gives life. The flesh counts for nothing.” Here’s the quote I want to share with you:
“As a man who has devoted his whole life to the most clear headed science to the study of matter, I can tell you as a result of my research about the atoms this much. There is no matter as such. Matter doesn’t exist the way that we think it does. What we see as matter originates and exists only by virtue of a force and we must assume behind this force the existence of a conscious and intelligent mind. This mind is the matrix of all matter. This mind is what underlies the intelligence that we see as the world around us.”
Quantum theory Nobel prize-Max Planck 1918
As I discussed in my article you’re not really here, unless you are, the quantum particle’s that Max Planck spoke about, blink into and out of existence 60 million times a second! Everything that we see as the physical world around us, is blinking into and out of existence 60 million times a second, including you and I and everyone else in this world. That’s something to think about!
When you study all of the world’s spiritual traditions, modern science, world history, self-help and enlightenment, this gives you context to understand the nature of our physical world. We know from quantum physics that our physical world, including all of the people, plants, animals, organisms, etc. is all part of the same divine intelligence. The same force that beats my heart, grows my fingernails, makes my hair grow, etc. is the same force that is beating your heart, growing your fingernails and growing your hair. Deepak Chopra says, “we are the eyes of the universe looking at itself.” That means that you are divine. I am divine. Everyone and everything that exists in this world is part of the same divine being. There really is only one of us. However, the part of us that says: I am what I do, I am what I have, I am my reputation, etc. which is also known as the ego or the mind, is also the part of us that perceives or labels everyone and everything else in this world as being separate from ourselves. Perception is reality. If someone adopts the limiting belief that they can’t get over being dumped by their ex-girlfriend, they will only do and say things that are congruent with their limiting belief. They will be unable to recognize or notice the women they could have that are all around them, all the time. They will refuse to do anything that will help them better their situation in order to remain congruent with their limiting belief.
Here’s the way I look at it. Human beings are either aware of their own divinity and connection to each other and all life in the universe, or they are not. You are either aware of your own divinity and act in harmony with unconditional love, liberty and respect and honor the free will of other divinely sovereign beings, or you are not. Human beings perceived separation from each other and everything else in this world is what causes all of the evil, war, genocide, murder, crime, etc. that exists. When Jesus was upon the cross being crucified, he spoke to the Lord in the ultimate act of love and forgiveness for those who put him there. He said, “forgive them father, for they know not what they do.” Jesus made reference to the oneness of all life in many instances in the Bible. But for people who do not study history, science, other spiritual traditions, etc., but instead only use one book as the answer to all of life’s questions, they will not have any context or a real deep depth of understanding of the true meaning of the Lord’s words. In the Koran it talks about “submitting to the will of Allah.” Every spiritual tradition says that the Lord speaks to us through our hearts. Our own personal feelings and gut instincts are our truth. When we listen to our hearts, we are listening to the Lord’s will for us. The founding fathers of the United States of America believed that freedom and liberty comes from the Lord. Not from the state. Not from man. In a free constitutional republic, the freedom of the individual is supreme. The individual can do and become anything he or she wants as long as it does not interfere with, or impinge upon the free will of another divine sovereign being, or their property.
In order to become all that you are capable of becoming, you must first understand who and what you are. A wise person once said, “you can not know the true meaning of your life until you are connected to the divine source that created you.” We are on this planet and in these bodies for a limited time. The purpose of our lives is simply to realize our true potential, become all we can and to simply find a way to enjoy the journey. The Mayans have a greeting that they say to one another: In Lak’ech (een la-kesh), and means… “I am another you, and you are another me.”
The process of self-improvement and becoming all that you are capable of becoming is a big mental game. It’s learning to overcome all of your irrational fears, limiting beliefs and false mental constructs by embracing that which will help you expand who you are, and letting go of that which limits you or holds you back. The stuff I talk about in my book are the techniques and strategies that I have used to overcome my own limiting beliefs, etc. The beauty of what I teach, is that you don’t have to believe a word I say. Because once you apply what I teach, you will see that it works; this is what builds your confidence to become even more. You should download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn the basics of approaching, dating & understanding what women really want in a man. Here is another great quote you should burn into your memory:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” (from A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles, Harper Collins, 1992. From Chapter 7, Section 3)
The following is an e-mail I got from a reader. He got dumped by his girlfriend over six months ago, and is having a hard time letting go and moving on to find someone new. His inability to overcome the breakup is what led him to my work. Now he is in the process of dissolving all limiting beliefs that no longer serve him. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
I’m currently reading your book for the very first time. I’m enjoying it and learning from it very much. In all honesty, I’m completely in love with my ex-girlfriend and have hopes of finding a way to get her back. (Best thing to do in order to have a chance of getting an ex back, is to start applying and practicing the principles I teach in my book on new women you meet so you can perfect your pickup, dating & relationship skills. Then, as you are succeeding with other women, your ex may contact you. If she does, your new experiences and growing confidence will cause you to sound and interact differently with your ex. If you have multiple women in your life who are dying to see you, it will make it way easier to do the right things to get your ex back.)
To give you an idea of what I have realized from your book is that I completely lost my masculine center in many ways, even after missing signs of her lowering interest levels when we were together. When we first started dating, I told her how in the past I would walk out of a girl’s life to never be seen or heard from again. (That sounds like bragging or a warning to her. Never do that.) At that time, it was true! With her, I didn’t stick to it. I couldn’t for some reason. (You chose not to. You had more interest in her than she did you because you did not know how to properly approach and handle your interactions with women. You thought chasing her would win her back like it always shows in the movies or on tv.) Every time I left, I came back on my own accord. When she decided to test me, I failed miserably to the point where she realized it no longer mattered. (She no longer trusted your masculine core because you always went against your word. Therefore, she judged your word and integrity to be non-existent.) I wanted to leave 4 months in, as she was negative and pretty much a drag. My lack of self value kept me with her. I truly feel as if maybe that was the best I could do. (Most other human beings think the same way. They settle for mediocrity and bullshit themselves into believing they are destined to be unhappy and disappointed. Settling for relationships, friends, business partners, careers, businesses, etc. that are less than what they really want becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.)
She was sexy, smart, financially ok and had education. Although, her baggage was so heavy she was negative about EVERYTHING… Eventually that negativity became infectious to our relationship and, even worse, me. (You made the choice to let it affect you. Nothing more.) I was her therapist and her motivational speaker. I gave so much and lost it all. (The only thing you have lost is that which you have labeled as being lost. You can never lose part of yourself and who you truly are. You simply repress parts of yourself you don’t feel good about, are embarrassed about, feel ashamed of or guilty about.) I’m having a hard time getting over her. Hence, why I can’t stop interacting with her. (You are simply lazy, doing what’s easy and comfortable and have yet to make the decision to get off your ass and do the work to find someone who is POSITIVE and better suited for you.)
I miss her all the time, and I constantly think about her. Its getting better day by day, but its been 6 months and I’m still stuck. (Read my article are you stuck in the past?) She flirts and shows things that I deem to be indicators of interests, but I am probably incredibly wrong. (Hard to tell if you are chasing her instead of letting her come to you.) What do you recommend I do? I’m at my wits end. Help! (Start applying my books principles in earnest, and book a phone coaching session with me ASAP by CLICKING HERE. Don’t call your ex anymore. That way, if she has any feelings for you left, she will call you when she doesn’t hear from you. If she does, then arrange a date, a get together or as I like to call it… create an opportunity for sex to happen.)
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