The importance of maintaining your focus on what you want and having high standards for yourself, what you’re willing to accept in your life, and the kind of people that you allow to participate in your world.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares how much my work has impacted him over the past year. He shares how he has been inspired to live a healthier life and be more careful about who he allows into his inner circle. He just finished his first marathon and feels great. He had gotten out of an unhappy three and a half year relationship that was going nowhere.
He says due to what he learned in my videos, he realized that he and his ex girlfriend were two totally different people and that they had serious imbalances in their values and beliefs. He said she tended to hang out with losers, while he prefers classy people. She pisses her money away, while he is very careful with his money. He tended to be a giver, and she tended to be a taker. He shares how he no longer tolerates women in his personal life who display a general lack of enthusiasm and appreciation for the gift of his time.
How are you doing? I cannot tell you how much your work means to me, as I have been following you for over a year now through videos, and I am reading your book for the fifth time. You have inspired me to live a healthier life, be more careful about “who I let into my circle,” and I just finished my first marathon and feel great. (When you love yourself and value yourself, you’ll want to take better care of your body.)
To your point about deserving a girl who “knocks my socks off,” you are absolutely right. I just got out of a three and a half year relationship that was going nowhere, and after watching your videos, I came to realize that it’s best to get out now instead of wasting any more time with this girl. We were two totally different people when we met, and those serious imbalances in values and beliefs only grew worse with time. (When you don’t share the same goals and values with someone, you’re going to start to lose respect for them. You want a teammate and an equal. In all your relationships, you want to be with like-minded people who share the same high standards, goals and vision for their life that you do.) She hangs out with losers, I prefer classy people. She wastes her money, I am careful with mine. I am a giver, and she is a taker. And on and on I can go. (When you give to a giver, the giver gives back. When you give to a taker, the taker sucks like an energy vampire.)
I thought of your advice when watching Adam Sandler trying to court his girl in “Punch Drunk Love.” About an hour into the film, he calls her to meet up, and the excitement in her voice is what got my attention. A few minutes later in the film, they meet and she sees him and runs toward him to kiss him. THIS IS WHAT LIFE SHOULD BE LIKE WITH A WOMAN. (Yes, but you have to have high standards, because most people tolerate mediocrity.) Women should be excited to get our calls and see us. Whenever I witness tepid or “meh” responses from women, I shake my head and remember there is just no way I can see myself dealing with that kind of nonsense. Thanks to you, I fully realize the only woman I could ever be serious with is one who is willing to “jump fences” to see me. We are not “second class citizens.” We are men!
Lastly, I feel like an F-111 pilot because I sit in the cockpit cruising through the atmosphere of life. Yeah, it’s true. I can fly and navigate the aircraft on my own. No problem there, as I am a combat Veteran, SCUBA diver and mountaineer. However, wouldn’t it be great to see a great girl choose to get into my cockpit, sit right next to me, and help guide the aircraft to takeoff? (That is what having a teammate is all about — somebody who has the same goals, values and high standards for their life that you do. You can hold each other accountable, and be great together.) Hell yeah, it would be!!! You are absolutely right about a girl’s attitude needing to be in the right place with us as men. No games, no bullshit, no excuses — just being a man who lives his truth, and finding the right woman to match us. (Most people give up and ignore the fact that the other person is not in the same place, hoping it will get better.)
Anyway, I really cannot tell you how much I appreciate your book and videos, and will continue to practice what you teach. My next message to you will come with more positive energy and news, I am certain. (That’s a great story. Thanks for raising your standards in life and holding that. If you tolerate a B and C player in your life, it’s just a matter of time before they will drag you down to their level. The quality of your life is going to be in direct proportion to the quality of the people you consistently spend your time with.)
Thank you again,
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“You attract how you act in life. What you focus on will expand. Like attracts like. What you tolerate tends to grow. Therefore, in order to create the life and lifestyle that you really want, you must not tolerate people and circumstances in your life that are not aligned with your highest goals, values, ideals, and desires. When you tolerate people in your life who have low standards, you are basically creating a vibration that will attract more people with low standards into your life. What you observe you participate in. By only spending your time with people who have high standards for themselves and who share the same values and goals, you will ensure that you continue to attract more like minded people into your life who will enthusiastically help, support, nurture, encourage, and co-create with you so you can reach your full potential.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne