How and why breakups happen, and what you can do to prevent or reverse your lover leaving you and no longer wanting to be in a relationship with you. Some of the common mistakes men make in relationships that lead to a breakup so you can avoid them yourself.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a guy in his late forties writing in about his similar aged ex-girlfriend who dumped him. His email details several humorous texting exchanges they had after their breakup when he moved out, where both of them acted like two five year old’s on the playground hurling insults at one another. She was telling him several months before the breakup that he no longer made her feel special, loved and attractive. She tried to help him get it right, but as he said, he “was clueless.” She said more guys on the street were noticing her than her man. He obviously did not listen to her. I discuss what he can do to give himself the best possible chance to succeed at getting her back.
I also discuss an email from a viewer who got blown off by a gorgeous woman he met in his gym. Five hours after he and I had a phone/Skype coaching session, which was six weeks since the breakup and moving on with his life, being indifferent, happy and focusing on himself, guess what? She approached him in the gym and asked him why he did not call anymore. Hint, hint! He told her it was because he did not agree to her unilaterally changing the terms of their relationship to friends only and he therefore, was out! He knew what to do next. He took her home and seduced her that night, and ravished her lovingly again the next morning… James Bond style.
“Breakups happen slowly. At some point one or both people who are in relationship with each other stop putting their best foot forward. They may get more caught up in earning a living and providing, than courting each other properly, making each other feel loved and supported. When two people fall in love, they are focused on what they like about each other. Towards the end of the relationship they are focused on what they don’t like or can’t stand about each other. People who got into a relationship thinking it would make them happy, tend to withdraw and stop making an effort after the honeymoon period is over and the infatuation has worn off. They are left with the realization that the other person is not the source of their happiness, and they either don’t love themselves or their lives. Good healthy relationships come from two people who love themselves, stand up for themselves, are open to a relationship, want a relationship, are ready for a relationship, who are emotionally and physically comfortable with themselves, and who love their lives and are looking for someone to share their completeness with. Sometimes, when you are not ready, it is better to remain single so you can figure out who you are and what you want when you are not defined by another person.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne