You Won’t Be Confused About Her Interest If She Likes You

Why women make it obvious when they like you & you’ll be confused if they don’t.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a 30 year old viewer who has been following my work for 11 years. He met a 22 year old woman at a tennis match who is from a wealthy family. He asked for her Instagram and tried dating her after. However, even though she seemed interested when they first met, he’s been unable to get her to agree to a date and she canceled a recent meetup to play tennis again. He’s confused as to why. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “You Won’t Be Confused About Her Interest If She Likes You”.

Well, this particular email is from a 30 year old viewer. He says he’s been following my work for 11 years, so that’s a long time. Thanks for sticking around. He says he met a 22 year old woman at a tennis match who’s from a wealthy family. However, he asked for her Instagram instead of her phone number for some reason. And then he tried reaching out to her and setting a date.

However, even though she seemed like she was interested when they first met, he’s been unable to get her to agree to a date. And I guess apparently he had set another tennis match to play with her because that’s how they met. And then she canceled, like right at the last minute. And now he’s trying to understand why.

Viewer Email:

Hello Coach Corey Wayne,

I’m 30 years old and have been a fan of your work for almost 11 years. I’ve read your book 7 times and watch your videos whenever I have questions or doubts about women. They always help me either reconnect with someone or move on with confidence.

So 11 years and you still only got through the book seven times, so that makes a little more sense. That sounds like you’re a cherry picker or you’re kind of in and out. You follow for a while, then you come back. But you never really took reading the book seriously. And now, like I said, that just kind of makes sense as to some of the small mistakes that you made. But overall, it doesn’t really look like this girl’s that into you just from her effort.

Recently I met a 22-year-old woman who comes from a wealthy family, and her brother-in-law is a well-known singer. We first crossed paths about three months ago during a tennis match. I hadn’t even known she existed before that day, but we had a great time together. She kept making eye contact with me since the morning, but I didn’t approach her at first because I wasn’t sure if she was dating someone or married. Later that evening, after our match ended, I went to grab some water and noticed she was right behind me with no one accompanying her.

I took the opportunity to ask how her match had gone, and after that we spent most of the night talking, having drinks, and laughing with friends. We even played a mixed match just for fun, and after each point we would shake hands and hold hands briefly. The connection felt genuine. I asked for her Instagram, she followed me back, but since then she has barely replied to my messages.

So why would you ask for her Instagram? 11 years you’ve been following me, and you asked for the Instagram. So typically and again we’ve discussed this many times in the podcast with the girls, is that if a guy asks for her number and she’s not interested, she’s going to give them her Instagram. And so when you lead with Instagram, especially after spending all this time together, that just shows that you’re less than being courageous and brave, because the courageous and brave thing to do is ask for the number and get her number.

You don’t want social media because when you do that, you’re kind of communicating. You want to be your fan. Now, granted, she followed you back, but I don’t understand why you wouldn’t ask for the phone number after 11 years. But then again, you said you only read the book seven times in 11 years, and that’s kind of a pretty piss poor effort.

I’m a contractor, and her family later contacted me for a remodeling project. Through that work I’ve continued to communicate with her. Before the project started, I invited her to dinner, but she gave a lukewarm response.

Well, you puppies definitely don’t have a lukewarm response.

This week I asked her to play a mixed doubles tournament; she initially said yes, but yesterday she canceled, saying she was sick and had to go to the hospital. Now she thinks she won’t be able to play.

So I would just, you know, let’s assume she’s sick. So I would say, you know, again, if you’re just still going through Instagram, you don’t even have her number after three months. Or maybe you have a number finally. But the other thing is now you got a business project. It’s kind of muddying the waters. And this is three months after you met her. This is why, I mean, if you spent all that time with that girl, you should have invited her to do something afterwards because he was already like a date. Worst case, you could have asked her out and made a date in person.

Especially when you’re holding hands, you’re making all that intense eye contact. But what do I often say? If you hesitate, you will masturbate. So it looks like it took you a while to work up the courage to ask her out. So that’s part of the issue. Again, 11 years, your game should be better than it is. So you’ve probably been a cherry picker and you kind of come in and out when you need things, right Oshi? He’s not been a very good student, has he? No, I didn’t think so either.

I’ve rarely had difficulty dating, and I’ve dated women from wealthy families and women who are 10/10 without issues. She may not be a 10, probably closer to a 7, but I genuinely like her attitude and the connection we shared.

Well, like I said, you kind of hesitated with that much time spent with somebody. You should have just continued on with the evening, or at the very least made a date on the spot, or even that I would have got her phone number instead of asking for her Instagram. Because with that much time together, that just shows like you don’t have the confidence to do that. And again, after following me for 11 years, you feel more comfortable asking for social media instead of a phone number that just tells me you haven’t practiced enough and your confidence is still, it’s just not there because you haven’t really been practicing it.

Still, she is by far the one who has made things the most challenging: she gives almost no signs of interest and keeps me guessing.

Well, if she really liked you, she’d make it easy for you. That’s the reality. Again, this is in the book. Women who like you make it easy to go out on dates. The lower their interest, the more they’re going to test you, the more they’re going to throw up roadblocks, the more they’re going to be difficult. And that’s what you’re getting. So it’s pretty clear her interest is low. But part of the problem is you contributed to that by not pulling the trigger right away when you met her. And then now you’re like three months down the road after you having met her. And that moment, that first initial moment when you had that connection has long since passed. Again, this is why I say if you hesitate, you’ll masturbate. And that’s what it looks like is going on here.

That’s exactly why I’m intrigued and would like your advice on how to handle this situation.

Best regards,

Bob

Well if she’s canceling a date telling you that she’s sick, then just say, “oh, bummer. Hope you feel better. You know, hit me up when you feel better. And we’ll reschedule the tennis match.” And if she really wants to see you and really wants to play tennis, she’ll reach out. And if she doesn’t, she’ll never bring it up again. And if you’re involved with her family doing business, I would suggest that you just strictly focus on the business and doing that and only contact her if you absolutely need it. And it’s absolutely necessary. But quite frankly, it just looks like she’s not into you and you’re only focused on how much you like her and you’re ignoring the fact it’s been three months since you met and you haven’t been able to get her out on a date.

You even tried making a tennis match with her and supposedly she’s sick now. So she doesn’t reach back out when she gets better then that means that the sick was just a bullshit excuse that she made up and she really didn’t want to play with you. And I would just keep it professional from there on out. And maybe she contacts you. Maybe she doesn’t. The ball’s in her court. She knows you like her. You’ve tried multiple times, but like I said, if you’re sloppy and your game is not very tight and you have a moment like you, it sounded like you guys really clicked when you first met, but because you hesitated and now it’s three months later, that’s why you’re masturbating. Or who knows, maybe she met somebody else.

But the bottom line is, if we bottom line her actions, she’s not doing anything to facilitate a get together. So I would have to assume at this point she either is seeing somebody else or she’s just not interested. And again, the higher her interest, the more you can make mistakes. So they asking for the Instagram wouldn’t have been really that big a deal if she was super into you. If her interest in you is a five on a scale of 1 to 10, not asking for the number right away, showing a lack of confidence, and three months later, you still haven’t hung out with her at all, and now you’re mixing business with it. You know, that’s, it’s just, the moments passed Dude. You missed your opportunity.

And like I said, you can only do 1 or 2 things wrong. And she’s like, “eh, he doesn’t have enough confidence, doesn’t have enough swagger.” She comes from a wealthy family. She’s probably got family members, especially dad. He’s got confidence and swagger, and you’re very sheepish and shy and not courageous and brave just through your actions. I mean, obviously, I pointed it all out as I went through the email. But you know, the book teaches you to go for the phone number, not social media. And so you’re not following it despite the fact you’ve been following me for 11 years. So come on, man, you should be doing way better than this after 11 years.

But again, you only read the book seven times, and I don’t even know how long ago that was that you read the book. So you’re pretty rusty and your game is kind of sloppy and not very tight, because, again, you’re three months down the road and you’re still trying to get this girl out on a date. And if I just bottom line interactions, she’s just not into it. So if she doesn’t reach back out after the canceled tennis match, you know, again, she might reach out because it has something to do with the job you’re doing for her family.

But I’d probably put a fork in this one. And you’ll know for sure if once the job is done with her family, she doesn’t reach out and you never hear from her again, then it’s just on to the next dude. Like I said, if her interest was super high, it wouldn’t have really mattered. But her interest was low to begin with and you just made a couple little mistakes and she was just like, eh, because initially her attitude was like, “eh. Maybe I’ll go out with him.”

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