How To Close The Deal In Bed

How to get past touching and kissing so you can close the deal in the bedroom and get laid. The purpose of a date is to create an opportunity for sex to happen. The best kind of dates that make that possible, are evening dates. Sexual intercourse is the successful culmination of creating an opportunity for sex to happen. Women want you to know what to do to facilitate sex happening. Women like sex just as much as men do. The problem most guys run into when they encounter a woman they have a chance with, is they do and say things that create an awkward energy or moment. When a woman feels safe and comfortable around a man she is sexually attracted to, she will sleep with him if and only if he demonstrates through his actions and words that he knows what to do. Women don’t want to teach you how to seduce them. They want you to be a man, go for what you want without fear and for you to know what you are doing. They want you to understand how attraction and romance works. Guys who don’t know what to do or who are unsure of themselves communicate inexperience and a lack of confidence. If you asked 100 random women the number one most important quality they find sexually attractive in a man, most of them would tell you it’s confidence. So the very nature of a man doing and saying things that communicate a lack of confidence is the exact opposite of what turns women on about men. The following is an e-mail from a reader who appears to be making some progress converting one of his girl friends into someone he is dating. He’s unsure of what to do next so he can close the deal in the bedroom. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hello Corey,

I have a friend I have been liking for a long time and I have been in the friend zone for six years. (Ouch! That’s too long!) She has been exhibiting the signs of at least 51% interest, i.e. touching, playing with her hair, etc. (Smart guys are observant and look for the signs of attraction/interest I discuss starting on page 120 of my book.) Since I have read your book about three times, with seven more to go, I finally had the balls to go in for the kiss on the lips, but I didn’t go for the French kiss. (With kissing, you take it slow. You gently and probingly lightly touch her lips with your tongue as you kiss. If she wants to french kiss back, she will stick her tongue out far enough to touch yours. It may take a kiss or two before she starts using her tongue. It depends on her experience and her level of comfort/sexual attraction with/for you.) So we have kissed a couple of times since then. I want to know what I should be doing to close the deal. (You should continue to take her out on a date once per week. Evening dates! Do what her lover would do, not her friend. A good date is a date where there is an opportunity for sex to happen. Not a lunch date or a movie. At the end of your dates, you should always go for the kiss. Once you start kissing she’ll invite you in if she is open to more potentially happening. The making out slowly moves towards heavy petting and wandering hands. Keep wandering until she stops you. Then slowly back off for a few minutes and continue kissing. Then as it heats up again, try undoing her bra, pants, zippers, etc. It’s like a slow unwrapping of a gift. Sometimes if she feels it’s moving too fast, she will stop you. Then you simply back off for a few minutes, chat some more and then take another run at her to try and get further than you did before. You keep trying to get away with a little more each time until you’re both naked and sex can happen. Often, many women will not finish taking your clothes off. Why? Sex has to be your fault. Therefore, if she’s naked and you’re not, take the rest of your clothes off and penetrate her. When she’s ready and open to penetration, she won’t stop you anymore. It’s a delicate dance. Have fun and practice this. Meeting & dating many different women gives you plenty of opportunities to practice mastering your skills of seduction.) I know she probably thinks I am weak as water and probably is about to kick me to the curb soon. (That sounds confident.) How do you suggest I handle the situation from here on out? Thanks. (Call and initiate ONLY ONE date per week until she asks/wants to see you more. When she wants to see you more, she’ll start initiating contact and hoping you know why she’s calling, and then simply ask her out for another definite date. When a woman contacts you first, it means she wants you to create an opportunity for sex to happen… a.k.a. an evening date that can lead to sex at her place or yours. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Bob

“We take our shape, it is true, within and against that cage of reality bequeathed to us at our birth, and yet it is precisely through our dependence on this reality that we are most endlessly betrayed.” ~ James Baldwin