Update: Am I Seeing Her Too Much? Am I Too Available?

An update to the newsletter: Am I Seeing Her Too Much? Am I Too Available?

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email update from the viewer in my previous newsletter, “Am I Seeing Her Too Much? Am I Too Available?” He appears to have a good success story unfolding. They’re exclusive, she’s stuck to him like a suckerfish, she wants sex more than him and things are tracking very close with my book, 3% Man. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “Update: Am I Seeing Her Too Much? Am I Too Available?”

So this is an update from the Video Newsletter I did, I think it was back in March (03/28/2025) of this year. So we’re three four months ago. And the title of that was, “Am I Seeing Her Too Much? Am I Too Available?” So this is an update. And so it appears that things have continued to unfold. And he’s got a nice, good success story that is continuing to take shape. So he’s now exclusive with this girl.

And as he says, she stuck to him like a sucker fish. She wants sex more than him. And things are tracking very close with the book. So it’s a good, good success story. So you can see a guy, you can go back to the original email and see where he was back in. I guess it was in March. He says March 28th, 2025. So that would be, I assume, March 28th of 2025. Because we’re now, today is actually the 4th of July. So Happy Birthday to Team America. Our Democratic Constitutional Republic.

We’re not a democracy, by the way. People on the left always say, “we’re saving democracy. We’re protecting our democracy.” We’re not a democracy. Democracy is mob rule. We’re a democratic constitutional republic. We are a union of 50 individual sovereign countries. We’re not a fucking democracy. So anyways, back to our regularly scheduled email here.

So let’s see what’s been going on.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach,

Just thought I would send an update to my story, which you covered in the video newsletter “Am I Seeing Her Too Much? Am I Too Available?” back on March 28^th.

Again, I assume it was a Video Email Newsletter from 2025. So when Erica is doing this, she’ll put the link to the original post so you guys can go check that out. And see how he’s progressed in four, five months.

At the time, you mentioned I was doing everything right and that she was either insecure, really into me, or on a rebound, but that I should expect to see her pull back from the heavy pace that she was requesting to see me in our first week of dating. Fast forward four months from our first date, and things are still going great.

But, oftentimes that’s usually what you see. So as a Coach, I’m trying to prepare you for, “What happens if she goes this way? What happens if she goes that way?” So when women do things that you don’t expect, which is quite often, you have the best possible chance to react properly.

She never did pull back, and I’ve continued to let her do about 95% of the contact initiation.

Well, that is a sweet spot.

I hear from her every day multiple times a day.

This is what women do when they’re in love. And this is, what the guys in the Red Pill Community who never get to experience what that’s like with somebody they really deeply love, that’s why they’re so bitter. Why be bitter when you could be better?

She wasn’t really on the rebound when we met, which I know you said was a possibility.

Yep. Because again, when you first meet somebody, you don’t really know what’s going on in their life, who they were with. Did they just come out of a relationship? Or, are they seeing somebody else? Are they on the rebound because something went sideways and they just jumped on a dating app right away? So you just gotta assume the potentials.

But she had recently stopped dating someone just before we met, and she had been seeing him about a month.

So kind of a little bit of a rebound.

But they didn’t have enough time in together to have much of a bond, and it sounds like he displayed a lot of unattractive behavior.

So he turned her off and chased her into his arms.

Things have progressed pretty much along your normal timeline, from her asking me to be her boyfriend about five weeks into dating. I never brought it up of course) and then her saying “I love you” for the first time almost eight weeks into dating. I, of course, let her say it first.

Good job. So this is like everything’s textbook.

So far, we’ve never had a disagreement or any drama. I know better than to fight anyway.

Even when you win, you lose. When it comes to women trying to win an argument. Even if she acquiesces, you’re still going to lose.

And the only thing she ever does that could be a little irritating is to sometimes be a little impatient, which I usually deal with by saying something teasing and playful with a James Bond smirk, and then she relaxes, and it blows over quickly. I’m 60 and she’s 52, just to give you a complete picture. But I do martial arts, moisturize, dress well, and most people think I’m in my 40s.

Well, moisturization is important. I prefer The Green Juice and the oils that come from all the healthy nuts that I talk about in Mastering Yourself. If you’re new here, you can Read For Free at UnderstandingRelationships.com. Just subscribe to the Email Newsletter.

The relationship really is (so far) exactly what you describe as the ideal, and something I never thought I would find prior to discovering your work, at this point maybe three and a half years ago, after my now ex-wife asked for a divorce. 

Well, as I often say, even if you think I’m totally full of shit, if you apply what’s in the book, you’ll get better results than you were getting on your own.

She is, as you say, stuck to me like a sucker fish, and wants sex maybe even more than me, so it’s minimum of one time every time we see each other.

We’re an hour apart, and we both have kids who live with us part of the time, but we’ve made all that work pretty well and see each other three to four times a week during kid weeks. Our custody schedules match 100% and more than that on the off weeks. So I’m just proceeding with your teachings and re-listening to 3% Man about twice a year on top of my initial 15ish or so reads.

Thanks for all you do, and keep up the great work!

Bob

Well Bob, congratulations to you and your lady and your new relationship and all the success you’re having. It sounds pretty easy and effortless, and it just looks like you’ve been a really good student. You took it seriously. You took participating in your own rescue seriously. You spent the time with the book, and so far, everything looks like you got a normal girl there and things are progressing. So hopefully down the road as things continue to progress, you’ll send us another update so we can share with the audience how things are going; now, today and in the future.

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