False Pride, Ignorance & Arrogance

Aug 5, 2015 by Coach Corey Wayne

Young businessman with cigar showing rude gestureHow to deal with people who are arrogant, ignorant, condescending and full of false pride, who seek to belittle you, your success and tear you down in an effort to make themselves feel better about their shitty lives.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who is twenty-three and has had a total of two relationships in his short life. He starts out by complimenting me on what he has learned from reading my book, but then goes on a rant that reeks of false pride, arrogance, ignorance and condescension, as he tries to belittle me, my work and my methods that have helped tens of thousands of men and women all over the world to improve the quality of their lives and personal relationships.

This is a prime example of the type of self-hating and self-loathing kind of people who go through life tearing other people down, in order to build themselves up and make themselves feel better, even though inside they feel like a giant pile of steaming dog-dung. I discuss why you must tune these kinds of people out and can’t let them discourage or influence the pursuit of your grandest goals and dreams. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.

Hi Corey,

So I have been in a hugely successful relationship for three years, but out of curiosity and hearsay, I decided to read your book. (People don’t come to me because everything is wonderful in their life. They come to me because something is off track.) You do come across with some very good points about how to be masculine and not act like a bitch. However, the common pattern I am seeing with you is that you are painting every single girl on earth in exactly the same light. (That is absolutely not true. Obviously, there were some things you read in my book that made you feel uncomfortable. If you were really happy and your life was great, you wouldn’t be here in the first place.) Jealous man  arguing with his wifeThe women you seemed to date in the past come across as self-centered drama queens. (You grow the most from situations where you struggle. When you’re older you will understand that. Pride cometh before the fall. Life will humble the shit out of you.) My girlfriend wouldn’t throw her toys out of the pram or hint to me that her attraction levels are dropping purely because I haven’t acted perfectly for a few weeks or months. (You’re delusional if you think a woman is going to put up with you not behaving properly for several months and not call you out on your bullshit.) What you are saying in your book is that, in order for you to keep your woman happy, you must be a perfect specimen and robotic. (That is absolutely not true. What I teach is a way to get to the place where you are your authentic self.) Don’t act like a human.

I studied economics and psychology at university and now work for a hedge fund thus, I deal with lots of psychological issues in the world of trading. (I coach a lot of psychologists and therapists, and a lot of them tell me they go into it because they are really fucked up and trying to help themselves.) No offense, but you come across as an over analyzing nut. (When you get older and look back, you’ll see how the dots line up. My ability to take things apart is what helped me become a coach so I can look at problems, diagnose them and give feedback for corrective action.) Relationships are meant to be fun and not this constant battle and hard work, (Yes, they’re supposed to be easy and effortless. My life is a drama-free zone and I live the things that I teach), like you write in your book. (You’re trying to throw a label on me and discredit me in order to make yourself feel better about your life.) fashion beautiful young couple My two relationships in life have been much easier than the battles you seem to have had with women. (You’re ahead of where I was when I was young. I am grateful for my struggles so I can help people in a useful way.) My first girlfriend and I got together when I was 16. We broke up when we were both 20 on good terms. Since then, I’ve been in a fantastic relationship with my current girlfriend. We are both 23. She is sweet, loving, pretty, confident, and never gives me unnecessary shit over little details. She realizes I’m human and not perfect, and I do her. (That’s the way it’s supposed to be. You don’t sound like a guy who understands where I was coming from. You don’t have the clients I have, so I don’t expect you to understand what I do for a living. If you’re such a genius, where’s your book?) I just don’t understand why you analyze women in such vivid detail like this. It’s utterly bizarre. (The whole point of what I teach is to help people get what they want. You’re arrogant, condescending and full of false pride, and soon enough, the universe is going to come along and serve you a large helping of humble pie. When that happens, I’d like you to think of me.)

Bob

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“People who are happy, abundant and loving only have encouraging and kind words for everyone, even those who are struggling or not as successful as they are. They build people up and sincerely rejoice in the success of other people. Miserable people, who hate themselves and their lives, go through life looking for opportunities to tear other people down and belittle them in an effort to ease their own suffering and feel better about their shitty lives. The next time you encounter another human turd in the punchbowl, just remember that no one will ever do or say anything that is not a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves in a moment. Don’t take it personally, because it’s not you, it’s them.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

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Published on August 5, 2015

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  1. Corey, why wound you give anyone like this the fucken time of day. You have 1000’s of people that so appreciate all your work. There is always an “asshole” in the crowd don’t waste your valuable wisdom and time. Craig ( I got my man card back) still going strong with Miss Dominican Republic!

  2. Dear Ed ur the best.like u said u have get real a d really feel what life throws at you.i am finally getting peace after being married to a total abusive relationship.he left me at a major life trauma for the big better deal.who inturn got screwed over by her.he left June 23 June and said he just met her bs he is still married to me with no legal separation but as u say no one will do that u do not allow them to.after going into personal bankruptcy 2 due to his constant lies.The universe puts all u need to know in ur lap.bingo.i want to go back to my professional career as a Registered nurse but need the refresh er course even with a bad back in which I can still do my modified duties.but a new franchise opportunities have come up to Canada which is the NurseNext Door and hopefully I can get the financial backing since I have been in healthcare for 43 years in multiple positions and my concern is the patients first and having the elite nursing professionals and best support staff that coordinate for the clients.i will not tolerate bs but to give my clients 100% of themselves and if I have to attend to the needs of my clients my hands will work with my staff and clients.So I am k
    Now living in a nice 2 bedroom apartment which has workout rooms a big pool and my health back.will be having heart surgery then lose another twenty pounds since I have lost over one hundred plus.
    But now I have my mindset of peace.skme people are just drama orientated persons like my husband and he was having his affair before he left and I guess he grabbed about I make so much $$$.but I know I must forgive to move on since he dumped me.like u say they just do 100% of the CALL s or whatever.Afterbeing in such a long term relationship for 18 1\2 is long but u cannot put ur self into self sacrifice.He broke his vows and betrayed me and put me into financial ruin but my gut says I should have shut it down but… cannot change the past.i am getting my home organized and hope my dream of giving back to the community as opening a new nursing g franchise owner with private backers.But I will not be anyone else doormat.I have always been a patient advocate so that is my step forward to my new LIFE and maybe as the universe will send me someone else who will love me as much as I can but with GREAT understanding of each other and a passion for making your LIFE a great experience.Regards to you.WC u R the only one that gives.nkt the ones how to get ur ex back for a cost of thousands of dollars REALLY but when ur down sad people will come around to take advantage of u a u get into crowds that u should avoid because of u R hurting and despair.All people deserve love happiness caring a good roof and good food to eat.too many people judge others who have had misfortune in their lives without caring about how they got there..😉A

  3. You’ve got a big piece of humble pie coming your way, ahahah love this.
    I like as well as you acknowledge that you werent as advanced as he was at his age.

    best

  4. If he were in my shoes he’d understand the value of your work coach. By reading your book and watching your YouTube videos I’ve gained a lot of knowledge that has helped me tremendously in my life. I just want to say thanks and keep up the good work.

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