Getting Her Back When You’re Old, Broke & Physically Limited

How to get your ex back when you’re old, broke & physically limited.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a 70 year old viewer who is trying to get his 67 year old ex back. It’s a success update to his previous newsletter after he got dumped. They started seeing each other and hooking up again and he shares how being broke, physically limited and old requires him to improvise the book for his situation. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “Getting Her Back When You’re Old, Broke & Physically Limited”.

Well, I’ve got an email here. It’s kind of a success story update. This guy is 70 and his 67 year old ex dumped him. That previous email was a Members Only Newsletter. So if you’re Paying Premium Member, you can check out that first Email and the Video Newsletter. And he was making a bunch of mistakes. I’m sure I probably roasted him in the email a little bit. And so he started implementing what I teach, started reading the book a bunch of times.

And because he really liked this woman. And so he also goes into deeper detail on what the status is of their relationship. And so I know, you know, I kind of take this for granted because I’ve always, for the most part, done well. But I know some of you guys are on a budget. Like this guy, both of them are retired. They’re on Social Security, so they’re like fixed income.

And they don’t have a lot of discretionary income or money. And on top of that, it sounds like both of them are, or it doesn’t I guess, they don’t exercise. And the bodies slapping part of having sex. They’re just not able to do that. And they do other things, as you’ll see here. But they’re hanging out, having fun and hooking up once again.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach,

Thank you for doing the Video Newsletter on my email. I happily paid $9.99 to watch it. I want to explain some things.

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I want to explain some things, please read this. Number one, I spent a lot of time trimming my email question down to under 500 words which forced me to not include lots of details.

Number two, I did read 3% Man online first, then purchased a paperback from Amazon, and I am now in the middle of my ninth read. And when I set my email to you, I was on my fifth read when I sent my email to you.

So he’s read it four more times, which is great. So good job Dude. You’re taking this seriously. You’re being a serious student. You know the old adage about you can’t teach an old dog new tricks? That’s not really true, at least in your case. So good on you for doing that.

I also watched the 7 Principles To Getting An Ex Back video several times.

Number three, she and I are both retired and living on Social Security income, which is tough for both of us. I’m 70 years old and she’s 67 years old.

Number four, I don’t cook, and she doesn’t either. I do have cereal bowls and a few forks and spoons for breakfast, and two plates for food delivered, but nothing but a microwave to heat things.

So he’s clearly living a modest living. I guess he doesn’t have a refrigerator. Maybe doesn’t have any way to cook things. You could get a little stove, one of those little portable stoves or something, a little electric one you could plug in. But I mean, the whole idea with making dinner together is it facilitates physical interaction and touching, which can lead to seduction. But as you’ll see, both of them have physical limitations, shall we say.

No cooking utensils or pots and pans. Her neighbor often shares her cooking with her, because, as I said, she really doesn’t cook either.

Well, that’s part of the fun. If you were in college, I’d say, dude, there’s plenty of YouTube videos you can watch on how to make a really simple meal. All it does is take a little bit of research and a little bit of time. But if all you got is a microwave, then that tells you, you probably don’t really even have a kitchen. So he’s living very frugally so he can understand he doesn’t have a lot of money. Maybe he can work a part time job or something like that to get some extra scratch together. Or maybe at 70 you’re like, fuck it, Corey, I worked my whole life. I’m not interested. So of course somebody comes to the door right in the middle of filming, the dog’s bark. Good times.

Number five, I do drive but she doesn’t drive, so for her to get to my place would be around $60 to $70 round trip via Uber. It would be two round trips if I were to pick her up, bring her to my place, and return her home, then drive me home.

So again, he’s dating a woman that can’t drive and I guess doesn’t have a car and so she has to take an Uber. And at 67 years old, obviously she’s probably not going to go get a car. And she’s not, maybe she can’t drive. Maybe she just didn’t take care of herself and she can’t do those things. It’s really important. This is why you’ve got to do cardio and you’ve got to eat right. You’ve got to push weights around. Because if you don’t, when you get older, like these guys are, you’re going to be physically limited and you’re going to be kind of basically be stuck at home. Unless you’re paying for Ubers and things of that nature.

It’s just not feasible time-wise and financially to bring her to my place and return her.

Because she dumped him. So the other thing to keep in mind, if she’s 67 years old, doesn’t cook, lives at home, is on Social Security, can’t afford an Uber over to your place. She doesn’t really have a lot of choices and options, so you’re doing her a favor by going to her. And the fact that you can still drive, my attitude towards that is, why don’t you date some other women?

Why don’t you find somebody that lives a little closer to you, and have some other choices, and have some other options, instead of a woman who’s just basically stuck at home. Because her limitations basically become your limitations. And one is no choice. Two is a dilemma. Three is a proper choice. But maybe he really likes her and is 70 years old. He just doesn’t give a fuck. He’s totally content and happy with that. Whatever floats your boat, dude.

Besides, she doesn’t much like to leave her place anymore.

So she’s a homebody on top of that. So you’re really doing her a favor by driving to her. And for her to dump you, you must have really been acting like a beta male, which I believe you were. Because I kind of vaguely remember doing the Video Newsletter. I’m sure I was roasting you, but it’s for your best interest. Because masculine energy grows through challenge. So it’s challenging you to embrace more of your masculinity and apply what’s in the book so you can get better results. And so he at some point went No Contact.

She only wants to have sex at her place. She was that way from the very beginning.

Well, you trained her that you’re going to acquiesce to that and submit to that. But if you take a step back, you’re able to drive your mobile. And this woman is at home. And she doesn’t want to leave her place, so you have a booty call that you can drive to and get some whenever you want. But other than that, if I were you, I’d be trying to date some women that aren’t as physically limited and aren’t as narrow minded and stuck at home like she is, because if she’s stuck at home and doesn’t want to leave and you continue dating and seeing her, guess what?

Then you’re going to become stuck there too. Life happens when you move. Stagnation happens when you die. You’ve got to use it or lose it. And if you don’t take care of your body and you don’t move around a lot, as you get older, you’re going to have debilitating illnesses and you’re going to be stuck in a cart or with a walker or an electric scooter. And if you don’t care, well, that’s fine. I got plenty of friends and family that are like that. They don’t give a fuck. They have zero interest in physical fitness or taking care of themselves, and their significant others kind of got the same attitude. I think that’s sad. But if that’s how you want to live, that’s your choice. It’s your body. That’s your free will.

Number six, the first place we first met after the breakup was very close to her house and the Uber was cheap enough for her. The rest of the times we met, I went to her place. Subsequent to the email you reviewed, thank you again. We have now gotten back together just a few days ago. She’d stopped communicating for about a week, but then I heard from her.

So what was happening, if I remember right, he kept pursuing her and she got sick of his needy, neurotic act, and even for her being stuck at home, she just didn’t want to deal with it. She wanted some strange, but he was just making it to where it was just too much drama, too much difficulty. And she was just like, fuck it, I don’t want to deal with it.

I think she was testing me, and because I didn’t initiate communications, she eventually did.

Well, as 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back says, the strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it. And she tossed you aside like you didn’t matter, and she could just find another one of you, which quite frankly, she probably could, because there’s a lot of thirsty dudes out there that would be happy to drive to her house, pick her up, or do whatever. But if I were you, you should be dating somebody who’s a little more mobile just because if they’re better, they’re taking better care of themselves, they’ll take better care of you.

A woman who physically neglects herself. Eventually she will neglect you as well. That’s important. Especially at your age. I remember my dad, this is going back like, 15 years before he met my stepmom. He was dating a woman that had all kinds of health ailments. She was on all kinds of pills, and she really liked my dad. And he would drink green juice and do all these different things. And I was, you know, teaching him to do. And she had zero interest in it. And she was just like, you know, I’m gonna eat what I want and if that shortens my life, I really don’t give a shit.

And so she kept teasing my father and ripping on him and trying to demotivate him. And after they’d been dating for a year, he was on, like, 3 or 4 medications. I was like, what are you doing? So her health problems and her way of living started to become his, because he started eating like her. And then he started having the same kind of health problems because he went back against the stuff that I had taught him. But he wasn’t really completely happy in the relationship with her because quite frankly, she was a negative influence on him. But eventually he had enough and he broke up with her.

And then it was only like a year or two later, he got a message passed through another family member that she’d gotten sick. She had some kind of blockage in her colon or something like that, ended up in the hospital and then fucking died. And so she’s like, hey, here’s a list of people that if I croak, let them know that I croaked basically. And so she reached out through the grapevine. And I mean, it shortened her life and she didn’t give a fuck. And I’m glad my dad had the strength to break up with her, because that would have shortened his life. And I fucking resented that as being his son, especially being a life coach.

Like, my dad’s dating this woman that eats like shit. She’s constantly at the doctor, all these medications, has zero interest in physical fitness, zero interest in being healthy. She wants to eat sugar and junk food and all this other crap. And she basically ate herself into an early grave. Now my dad’s current wife, they’ve been together almost 14, 15 years now, I guess at this point. And she’s got health problems, but she eats better and she’s a good influence in him on that. You know, she tries to get him to walk up and down the stairs at their condo that they live in, which is good. She does physical things. She does yoga.

You know, right now they’re doing the great loop on their yacht and having a great time together. And if he just stayed with his other woman, he might have already been in the grave by now. And, you know, they’re both of them, they want to live another 20 years at least. So you got to think about that. Who you spend your time with, you’re going to become more like them if you’re into physical fitness and the other person is not. Then typically over time, you’ll become like them. He was working out when he first met the first woman I was talking about, six months later, he wasn’t going to the gym anymore because she had no interest in it.

And she just, you know, ripped on him until he stopped going because, you know, she was lazy. He was naturally a lazy person and she had a negative influence. Whereas, you know, my stepmom kicks my dad in the ass and gets him to go to the gym with her, which is good. She’s a good influence on him. So you need to think about these things. You’re 70 years old. You know, but maybe you don’t give a fuck. Maybe this is fine and you’re happy with this. But if she’s got debilitating illnesses and never wants to leave her house and she’s kind of a recluse, well, you’re going to become like that the more and the longer you stay with her.

We have had sex again for the first time since breaking up. Not that it’s important, but we only do 69 because of the energy and positions required for regular sex.

So you just don’t have the physical fitness and stamina and aren’t physically able to engage in sex anymore. That sucks. You know, everybody in my family that is, you know, quite frankly, my dad is, what is he, 76 now? My uncle, his brother, is almost 80 and they get it on physically all the time. Even though they’re both overweight, they don’t care. They’re physically active, they’re always moving around. They got lots of friends. They go on trips, they go to Ireland, they have friends that also have a yacht, and they rent yachts like in Ireland or whatever.

They go on these long trips. It’s like they’re very active and it’s important. You’ve got to move around otherwise if you don’t use it you’re going to lose it. You don’t use your physical body to move around. Then your physical body is going to respond accordingly and not be able to move you around very easily anymore. So you got to take that in mind.

The 69 works great because she cums, I cum and we don’t have to expend much energy. We are just making the best we can of old age.

Well, it’s the lazy man’s way to sex and happy finishes. So if that works for you, God bless you, dude. I’m just happy that you got to get the girl back, because when we last spoke, she was done with your ass, and now she’s ready for the cunnilingus.

Once again, thank you. We are back together in spite of my inability to do all those right things that I would have done when I was younger. It worked, and that’s all that matters.

Well, what really matters is that you’re happy. And I’m glad that you’re happy. Congratulations to you guys. But if you want to live long and you want to have good things, you really can’t neglect your body. But again, I’ve got a lot of friends and family that quite frankly, don’t give a fuck either. And it’s your life. You do what you want. God bless you. Congratulations on getting back together. And everybody else that’s watching, hey, you know, this guy’s got a limited number of options. He’s limited financially.

He’s limited physically. All they can do is oral sex. And he’s happy with that. And she apparently is happy with that, too. So if you’re both happy, that’s all that really matters. Because to me, the purpose of life is to enjoy it. And you guys are enjoying your life. You’re enjoying your senior years, your sunsetting years or whatever. And that’s all that matters. Because at the end of the day, we’re all fucking dust in the wind anyways.

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