However, in order to have a chance at getting the person you want back, their romantic level of interest in you must be at least 51% or greater to start with. If its not you don’t have a chance. The strategy is a statement of purpose, what you want and standing up for yourself. It also will demonstrate your respect for yourself.
Before I get into the strategy, let me share the proper mindset from a warrior. I want to tell you about someone whose work you should get to know. His name is Michael Yon, he is a retired US Army Green Beret. He became a war correspondent and blogger about 4-5 years ago after a good friend of his and retired US Navy SEAL was murdered in Iraq.
His friend was working for a defense contractor riding in un-armored vehicles in Fallauja Iraq (I think around 2005-2006). After his body was butchered, burned and mutilated, what was left of it was hung from a bridge in Fallauja. Those images and video footage were shown all over the world as the violence in Iraq spiraled out of control.
Michael has spent more time embedded with the US Military Units in combat than any other war correspondent in the world. People have gotten killed, wounded, blown up, attacked and burned to death all around him. One time after returning to base with the US Army Soldiers he was embedded with, he was reviewing some footage after an IED (improvised Explosive Device) blew up a US Army Stryker vehicle. Several crew members died inside. When he was playing the footage back, he realized the video camera mic had actually picked up the screams of the men still trapped inside as they were slowly burning to death.
He’s seen a lot of shit. He’s seen good men and women die on all sides of the battlefield. So far he is unscathed. He is honest, honorable, a patriot and always tells it like it is. Good or bad. When we were losing the Iraq war he reported it. When our troops and their Iraqi allies turned it around, he reported that too. If you want to be moved and understand what is really going on in Iraq and Afghanistan, free from the spin of the mainstream media, these story’s of Michael’s will move you:
Michael said something once that I never forgot. He said… “the strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away, and mean it.” So here’s what you do. Tell the ex or girl/guy who has said they “just want to be friends” or have found someone else (say this from a place of LOVE): “I want you, I adore you, you mean the world to me, etc.” What ever you authentically feel for them, say it from your HEART. Then say “I’m not interested in just being friends, being your male girlfriend (say this if you are a guy), etc.” “I want you, but I just can’t do the friends only thing. I can’t be around you and not be able to touch, kiss and have you. So if you don’t want the same thing, then we don’t need to see each other anymore. I don’t want you to call me unless you want me. If you do, then you better come over and show me. I don’t want to hear about what you are going to do in the future, just come over and show me. Otherwise its been wonderful getting to know you. I wish you all the best, but I am not willing to settle for anything less than what I want. I’ve got too much to offer.”
Then you must leave (or hang up the phone if you are on the phone with them) and never look back. You must never call them again. You must be congruent with what you said you wanted. You can’t say “I don’t want to see you again” and then call them the next day “just to chat.” Grow a set of balls (ladies a spine) and stand up for yourself and what you want.
If you stick around, you are being weak and proving to them that you are not worthy. They will keep you around in the background and then blow you off for good once things get well established with someone new.
If you have not heard from them in two weeks, then write them off. If they’ve left you only after they found someone new, then you won’t hear from them. They may call you months later if it does not work out with the other person, but you have to move on. Go meet and date as many new people as possible. Its called standing up for yourself. In time you will grow stronger and not care anymore. You do that, and eventually you will meet someone who you love more, and who is better suited for you. I guarantee it!
The ex will respect you if you walk away. If you stick around you are just being a doormat. You will get no respect or what you want being a doormat.
That’s the basic strategy in a nutshell.
“Nothing is ever wrong. We learn from every step we take. Whatever you did today was the way it was meant to be. Be proud of you.” ~ Unknown
Here’s What You Are Truly Capable Of…
When you become a Man who is a “10” in his heart, & you date a woman who is a “10”, this is the type of thing she will write about you when she is your ex…
“Corey is a gift and a blessing in my life. I came out of a relationship where I was so emotionally hurt, that at the time it was almost unbearable. The thought of being with someone else was something I just could not even imagine.
When I met Corey, he didn’t approach me like most other guys, he had a certain presence about him, one that made him stand out from many other guys. We are very close and have both grown into the people we are today because of having the relationship that we have. Corey really understands how women’s mind’s work, and sometimes I am so blown away as I feel he can really read my mind. He always knows what to say and says the right things at the right time – I wish all men were like him!
Corey’s insights and understanding of women has taken my life to whole new levels.
I am a completely different person today compared to the person I was before I met him. I have evolved into more of the woman I am today because of the gift that he has. He has shown me what true love in a relationship really is. It is amazing and is something I did not experience in my relationship before.
With the work that I do, I know so many people do not feel true, explicit love, joy and happiness in their relationships. Corey will teach you how to take your relationship to whole new levels – levels that you may think are almost un-imaginable.
Corey, I cherish you and I love you. Thank you for being one of the most important people in my life. You are an amazing friend and I continually look forward to growing more together.”
This Is What Happens When Corey Coaches You…
This is an email I got from a phone coaching client:
I wanted to take the time to thank you from the bottom of my heart for making my dreams of getting with my dream girlfriend a realty.
Your book and personal guidance have changed my life and made me understand how women think and act. Let me describe my journey to love briefly…
After a short but very intense and exciting relationship I was left from one day to the other. My girlfriend suddenly turned our deep but short love affair off. I did not understand what has happened, neither was I aware of the exact reason until later.
3 months went by and I was still thinking about her and had that feeling inside of me that I can not let the past be, because I felt that she was THE woman for my life. The person of my deepest desire, friend and companion.
I kept thinking of what to do to win her heart again, since I knew and felt that she really liked me a lot back then.
A I was wondering what to do, I received your phone call. We talked about women and relationships.
You were telling me about your book and coaching sessions and I was excited about the fact that you seemed to be very understanding about woman in general. Luckily, I got a copy of your Book ” The 3% Man ” for me to read.
That evening I started reading the first few pages at my house, and my eyes opened up slowly but steady about the information provided to me. Since my thoughts were always around my past girlfriend, the ONE I did not want to let get away, I picked up the phone the next day to share my excitement about the material you have given me with you. To make a long story short, I asked you to coach me to get the woman of my dreams back into my life and actually make her fall in love with me.
Over the next 3 weeks my life turned into a roller coaster of excitement and passion to see and feel how your advice made turn things completely around. From the first recommendation of what to say to the point on how to react with my ex girlfriend, I was able to make her skyrocket her interest in me. No matter what my initial belief was, I was acting exactly as you suggested and my girlfriend turned into the person I wanted her to be for so long.
Over the past 3 months, I have experienced the greatest gift ever given to man, a loving and caring girlfriend which is crazy about me. I have become completely confident on how to read a woman’s mind, understand her thinking, reactions and actions. I can already predict on what she is going to do, say or not do.
Your personal coaching has put me in the driver seat and get me what I was looking for so long.
I get sweet text messages throughout the day from her, romantic dinners at the house, great excitement in the bedroom and the willingness to make our relationship grow day by day with her making the first step all the time.
Wow, what a woman ! Wow, what a coach you are!!!
We are traveling to Europe in a few weeks together and I will introduce my love to my parents.
Just within 2 months I have achieved what I was wanting! This would have never been possible without your help!!!
Thank you very much and I hope you will help many other guys to meet and keep the woman of their dreams.”
Los Angeles, CA
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