How To Attract & Keep An Easy & Effortless Relationship

How to attract and keep an easy and effortless relationship with your dream woman.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who shares a success story eight years in the making after his wife cheated on him in 2017. He shares his journey that led to his current relationship with a woman who loves her mom and dad and is successful.

They both are students and study my work together. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Well, I got a success story here that’s like, eight years in the making. This particular viewer found my work all the way back in 2017, after his wife of 10 years cheated on him. So I often say that there’s no shortcuts to success and it’s not easy. Great things take time. They always take longer than you expect. Especially you guys expect your life to completely turn around in a matter of days or weeks, it’s just not like that. Success is long and coming, and this particular guy, it’s about eight years from the time. So you can imagine going through the divorce, fighting things back and forth. If you’ve got kids, there’s custody involved. Might take you a year or two just to get out of the divorce. When you’re finally done, you’re licking your wounds for a while and you just want to relax, have a sense of peace, kind of get back to living, obviously learning, it’s just going to take time. You got to be patient with yourself. Everybody’s journey is different, especially those of us that are entrepreneurs.

As Elon Musk so appropriately said, “Being an entrepreneur is like eating glass and staring into the abyss of death because you never know if it’s going to work out.” Most of the time, anything in life, it looks like it’s just never going to happen for you. It’s like things are never going to turn around, and that’s the way life is, and you just got to keep grinding and moving forward, no matter how difficult it seems to be, no matter how hopeless it seems to be, because time’s going to pass, no matter what, you might as well be spending your time chiseling away the excess of the things that don’t matter in order to get from where you are to where you want to be.

You’ve got to be patient with yourself because your journey is different from mine, mine’s different from yours, and obviously this particular emailer, but after lots of dating, getting obviously familiar with the work, my book, and what’s really cool is his new girlfriend also reads the book, they watched the videos together. Then when I’m going through a scenario like this, they’re trying to spot where the person went wrong to see if they’re in agreement with what I’m saying, which is that’s why I do these, is basically teaching people how to apply what’s in the book to these specific real world situations.

So today we’re going to do a nice little success story because it’s not an easy journey. Reaching your full potential is not easy. That’s why most people just never go for it. The average person tends to major in minor things. A sane person, would give up when you’ve been spending years at something that’s just not turning around for you, but at the end of the day, your life is zipping by. The time is going to pass, so you might as well focus on spending your time trying to be productive towards making the things that you want happen.

Viewer Email:

Hi Corey,

I’ve been following you since my wife of 10 years cheated on me in 2017. Like you’ve said in your book and in your teachings, 99% of people don’t start taking your work serious or want to make a change in their life until they’re experiencing pain. After my divorce, I sought answers and came across your work. I immersed myself into your work. I read your book over 15 times and listened to thousands and thousands of hours of your podcasts.

Well, what’s the saying? “It usually takes about 10,000 hours to master something.” Anything in life you got to spend about 10,000 hours at it, which is a lot of hours, but if you’re serious and you’re a high achiever, you’ll put in the time and the work. If you’re a low achiever, you’ll complain, you’ll bitch about modern women or whatever happens to be, to absolve yourself from any personal responsibility for your own life and your own success, or your own failures for that matter.

At the end of the day, if you had a bad experience with a woman, well you invited her into your life. If you got involved with somebody in business and they screwed you over, well you made that decision. You got involved with them. I wrote about lots of my screw ups in business in Mastering Yourself. The idea is that you want to learn from your mistakes so you don’t keep repeating them.

I am subscribed to your Spotify podcasts. I have to say, after countless dates, rejections, falling under the illusion of action, being friend-zoned, one heartbreak from not making my girlfriend feel heard and understood. I learned something new from each experience and continued to grow. I’ve officially been exclusive for four months with what I would consider a 3% woman thus far.

She is family-oriented, easygoing, easy to get along with, loves her mom and dad.

That solves like 99% of the problems right there. I’m going to read that sentence again: “She is family-oriented, easy going, easy to get along with. Loves her mom and dad.” Girls that don’t have a good relationship with their parents, especially girls that hate their fathers, I mean, when I go through emails and the guy’s having a hell of a time, he may be applying what’s in the book properly, but he’s trying to use the book to fix a broken woman from a broken home. As I say, the book works on normal women, normal, healthy women that were raised properly. It brings out the best in the best and the worst in the worst really fast.

She’s very active, she’s a big corporate hotshot and makes three times the amount of money that I make.

The only way you’re going to be able to date a high achieving, high income, high net worth woman is you got to have your shit together. A lot of guys don’t, and they get very intimidated by that and they just totally screw it up. Then they blame the woman. They say it’s modern women. I mean, obviously you want a woman that’s feminine, that’s submissive, that can take the armor off of masculinity that she uses to compete. I thought he said she was a attorney, but I guess she works in a corporate world.

So oftentimes you’ll see women that work in the corporate world, and they’re just so masculine. They’re too much boss-girl energy, and most guys, we don’t want that. So if a woman’s raised right by her father and her mother, she can come home and be feminine, submissive and girly with you and set aside the boss-girl energy, but you gotta have your shit together. You gotta be in your masculine core, because if you act like a bitch, women will treat you like a bitch. Especially a high IQ, high income, high net worth woman that comes from a good family. She’s not going to want to average mediocre dude. She’s going to want a guy, it’s not going to matter about how much you make, it’s your mentality, how you carry yourself, how you act, how you show up.

She repeatedly tells me how feminine she feels around me and it’s all thanks to your work.

So in other words, he provides enough masculinity that she feels safe enough to relax and let him lead, even though during the day she’s the one doing the leading.

I make her feel heard and understood when she vents to me about some concerns of hers. She initiates 90% of the texts. I send her a nice text once a week or surprise her with something to show her that I care.

Girls with a healthy self-esteem are going to be happy and grateful for that. Girls with low self-esteem, they got mommy and daddy issues, that came from a broken home are going to go fucking berserk over that and get really upset. Again, easygoing, easy to get along with. Most importantly, she’s got to be nice to you.

It’s still early in the relationship but as of right now she’s everything I could ask for.

The best part about her is that I introduced her to your work and she loves it. We listen to your podcasts together and pinpoint certain things you talk about and use it as an opportunity to grow together.

Well, the family that grows together stays together.

She follows you on Instagram now and has one of your “Come On Man” coffee mugs. I will continue to court her, make her feel heard and understood and make her feel special but at the same time watch her behavior and see how she is as things start progressing.

In other words, he’s saying he’s going to pay attention to her actions.

Like you teach, some women can be amazing when they’re happy but when you start slipping up, their try integrity and character reveals itself. This email is a simple success story and a thank you for all that you do. I will continue to watch, learn, implement your work and not become complacent. Attached is a picture of us.

Thanks again, Corey!

Bob

He sent a nice sweet picture of the two of them together, so they look pretty happy, but obviously it’s early. So what happens after two or three years down the road? Hopefully you’ll send us an email down the road, let us know how things are going, because I’m sure the audience would love to see that as well. Maybe six months, a year, maybe you guys get married or whatever, you pop out a few kids, whatever happens to be. Send us an email. Let us know how things are going in the future.

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