How to flirt, banter and be naughty through text in a way that creates anticipation and excitement that leads to a successful seduction.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a viewer who says he has listened to my How To Be A 3% Man audiobook so many times that he’s lost count. He shares a recent text exchange that he had with a woman he met on the Bumble dating app. He does a great job of being playful, fun, mysterious, naughty and using G-rated sexual innuendo to create anticipation and excitement.
It’s a great real world text exchange of how to properly apply the success principles in my book, so you can learn from it, steal some of his ideas for content and seduce the women you desire. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.
This guy has some really good material, a lot of playful banter, totally G-rated, naughty kind of sexual innuendo — the kind of thing that you can say in front of your kids and they have no idea what you’re talking about. So, for any of you that have kids, or maybe they’re grown up, or you’ve been around kids and you don’t want them to know what you’re talking about — especially if you’re raising them and you’ve got a house full of them — these are the kinds of things, that to understand this language, you can be communicating in a kind of G-rated but sexual way with your girl. And then obviously, the kids have no idea what you’re talking about.
I thought it was great material to share with you guys to give you some ideas. Maybe some of it you can steal and use on your own. Because God knows anything I’ve ever put in my book or I say in my videos, people use all the time. I get emails all the time of people using things that I’ve been using for like twenty years. So, it’s always great to learn from each other, and how people take the principles that are in How To Be A 3% Man and apply it to their own life. The guy’s pretty creative, so I thought I’d share it with you.
It’s really hard to stay mad at somebody that’s cracking you up, that’s making you laugh. Being fifty-one and having all of the experiences I’ve had over the course of my life, women are different and it makes things a lot easier in a relationship if you’ve got a woman who’s easygoing, easy to get along with, is always looking for reasons to joke and be playful, not be too serious herself. Because, quite frankly, when you’re in a grumpy mood, it’s hard to stay mad at your girl if she’s teasing you and messing with you about it. It’s just hard to get angry or stay angry at somebody that’s sweet and playful and they’re making you laugh.
A lot of times when I’m doing phone sessions with guys, they get into these situations with women where they get backed into a corner. And because the guys are in a fearful state and they’re worried about losing her — maybe they’re trying to reattract her or they’re trying to reattract their wife, or their girlfriend, or a woman that had lost attraction for them — women, when they sense the weakness in a guy, they try to intimidate him and back him into a corner, and sometimes they will feign disapproval. And that’s why it’s important to know who you are, what you’re about, and to be comfortable in your own skin. Because when that happens, if you’ve decided ahead of time that you’re going to be in a good mood and you’re going to be playful, you’re going to mess with her, even when she gets really grumpy. Especially when you notice that her being grumpy is inappropriate and there’s just there’s no reason for it.
If your life is a drama free zone and your girl is trying to bring some drama into your life by being grumpy, you’re going to mess with her and you’re going to tease her. I mean, obviously, sometimes she might have something that she wants to talk about and then you can ask and open her up in the ways I talk about in How To Be A 3% Man and also the video I did years ago, “How To Communicate With Women Effectively,” which you should definitely check out.
But as a man, you’re driving the fun bus. You’ve decided ahead of time you’re going to be happy. You’re going to be playful no matter what. And you want a fair maiden in your kingdom, or the women in your harem, or whatever lifestyle you choose, to have a good attitude because you only want to have fun. Life’s too short. There’s plenty of reasons to be upset and unhappy in the world. So, why not decide ahead of time that you’re going to look for reasons to have fun and have a good time. Have fun and try to learn something. That’s one of the greatest philosophies that you can use as you go through life, always trying to get a little better each and every day.
And whether it’s your girl or maybe a girl at the grocery store that’s being grumpy or bitchy to somebody, I always use humor. If somebody is being ridiculous and inappropriate, I’m going to say something kind of like smartassy, but also kind of funny that makes light of the situation and just bring a different vibe, because I don’t want any fucking drama when I’m cashing out my groceries. Or if I’m in a restaurant and somebody’s being a prick next to me to the bartender or the waitress, I don’t want that fucking vibe in my world, so I’m going to have something to say about that in a fun and playful way that changes the mood, just because I want to have a good time.
Thanks for all you do. I’ve listened to your How To Be A 3% Man audio book many times (I lost count).
Obviously, you can read it for free at UnderstandingRelationships.com. All you’ve got to do is subscribe to the email newsletter.
You’ve changed my life in so many ways I wanted to express my gratitude to you. From me and all the other men that you have helped. Attached is an interaction that I had with a woman from Manhattan on bumble. I thought you might want to share this with one of your coaching newsletters.
Well, you’re in luck. Thanks for sharing. And anybody else, if you’ve got a good text exchange you want to throw throw my way, you want to share with the audience, send it in to Questions@UnderstandingRelationships.com.
I think it shows exactly how a man should interact with a woman to get her excited.
Thank you for giving me the confidence to be the man that I am.
So, this is right after they match. On Bumble, the women have to message you first, and that’s one of the things I like about Bumble, is that it starts the women out chasing you, which is perfect because this is what they’re naturally inclined to do anyway when they haven’t been infected with the feminist disease and the feminist programming.
Her: “Hello Bob, it’s nice to match with you! I love your healthy lifestyle and try to do the same myself, so we have that in common. I look forward to connecting with you.”
Him: “Hi, Jessica. That was so weird, I was just looking at you and then bam, you messaged me!”
And what I like is obviously she’s a playful woman as well, which this goes a long way. Because you can date really sweet, playful, good-natured, good attitude women who are easy going easy to get along with, or you can also date very feminine, but moody and grumpy and bitchy women. There’s all kinds. Me personally, I tend to be grumpy at times. I like women that are easy going easy to get along with, because if I’m in a grumpy mood, the last thing I need is a chick that decides she’s going to be in a bitchy mood. That’s just my personal preference.
Her: “I’m your genie in a bottle.”
Him: “I love that outfit, Genie.
Her: “Ha, you mean like a harem outfit with a veil? I actually have one, believe it or not! Lol”
Him: “Actually, I meant the cool dress in your profile Lol, but we can do the genie game too.”
And so, he sends her a gif of a guy rubbing a little magic genie lamp, and a genie pops out. Pretty cool.
Him: “Your profile says you have kids. How many and how old?”
Her: “Ha, that looks fun. Yes, let’s. I’m glad you like my dress. Maybe I can wear it for you one day? I have a 14-year old and a 17-year old. Great fun. How old are yours?”
Him: “You’re fun. My three sons are 21, 25 and 28.”
So, they both have kids obviously, which is cool. And then, the other thing you’ve got to recognize, especially for guys that are a little older, as women get into their late 20s and get into their 30s, they’re going to have a lot more confidence. And I’ve noticed that women seem like when they get around their early 30s, they become really aggressive towards guys, especially when you’re out, and they approach more men. Whereas just ten years before when they were really young and super hot, guys approached them constantly and they never really had to approach dudes. It doesn’t mean they didn’t, but definitely when they get into their 30s, they’ve got to work a little harder. Let’s be honest. That’s reality.
Him: “Do you share custody, (are there times we can play genie games without kids?)”
So, I like that because it’s kind of a clarifying statement. He’s trying to find out what are things like with the ex? In other words, has she got an ex that’s causing all kinds of problems and drama. So, it’s a good kind of question to ask.
Her: “Oooh, I like the idea of playing genie games with you! I have to hope you’re a gentleman when I say your wish is my command. Yes. I have them most of the time though.”
Him: “Of course I’d be a gentleman. Unless you’re being a bad genie and need a little spanking to bring you back in the line.”
That’s good. I like that.
Him: “Genie, you have my permission to call me Master.”
Her: “Ha, yes master, help me become a better genie. Unhook my floaty skirt and have me bend over!”
Him: “Your wish is my command. How does a genie mom best date a gentleman?”
So, they’re a little distant from each. They don’t live right next to each other. They’re in different cities.
Her: “Hmmm. We will figure it out! Anything to please you.”
I like it so far.
Him: “Genie, you are making things happen to me that I cannot control. Do you have magic powers?”
Her: “Mmmm good, all is as I planned.”
Him: “Here’s my number. Are you available to talk tomorrow night?”
Because again, this is Bumble, and once you match, the woman has to message you within twenty-four hours, and if she doesn’t, the match disappears. And if she messages you and you don’t match, you don’t message back within twenty-four hours, the match disappears as well. But once you each message each other, then you can send as many messages as you want.
They basically don’t allow any ghosting or any fuckery or leaving people hanging, which is kind of nice. Plus, like I said, it creates the conditions where the women are chasing the guys and initiating things anyway, which is what they’re naturally going to do typically by the second, third or fourth week if you’re following what’s in “How To Be A 3% Man.”
Her: “Yes, that would be great. You have my attention, Sir!”
Him: “My good genie. What time is best for you after 8:00 p.m.?”
Her: “Yes, that’s great, say 8:30? I’m excited to talk to you, I love how naughty you are!”
And he sends a little gif of a banana that probably does something naughty.
Her: “Ha! It’s cute.”
Him: “8:30 is perfect. I too have enjoyed our fun chat this evening. Very fun! We could video chat also, if you’re down for that. Good night, genie.”
Her: “I’d love to video chat with you! Good night Bob and sweet dreams.”
So obviously, the next night, I assume they had a video date, that’s where it sounded like it was going. But typically, what you do is you have a video date, because now you can see what they look like. You can see their pictures, you can read their body language or physiology, versus just talking on the phone. And when you’re doing online dating, you have to think in terms of, you want to make sure the girl looks good and the conversation flows. It’s almost like a date, you’re just not there physically in person. So you can see each other, you can read her body language a lot better versus an audio call.
And then if everything clicks, you set up a time to meet up for drinks, or happy hour or maybe even dinner. It’s totally up to you. Or maybe a walk around the park, because I know some people in certain countries are still locked down and a lot of places are closed at night. So, there’s not a lot of stuff that you can actually go out and do right now, which sucks. But that’s the nature of the world we live in, unfortunately.
But I thought it was a great text exchange, kind of playful, a little naughty, but totally G-rated. And these are the kinds of things you want, because from that he’s able to communicate that he knows the secret language of women. He knows how to flirt and be playful and banter. He’s got kids from another relationship, she has kids from another relationship. So, so far, so good.
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“Love is playful and fun. Not serious. Men should decide ahead of time to be in a good mood and choose to be happy, no matter what mood their women are in. It’s a more efficient, easier and effortless physiology to be in a fun, playful and peak state versus being grumpy, angry, irritable and moody. Women often test their men by feigning irritation or disapproval with their actions and words. Men who don’t know any better fail these tests by trying to defend themselves, getting all serious, rationalizing and apologizing and trying to keep the peace when their women back them into a corner through intimidation. Smart men use women’s grumpy moods to tease them playfully, make fun of them in a loving and good-natured way and to get them to open up and talk about what’s bothering them or to simply help them change their state by being so funny and charming, that their women can’t help but laugh, apologize for being grumpy and become sweet and playful themselves.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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