How to get your ex back and determine if you want to stay together or go your separate ways for good.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a viewer who shares how he got his ex back after they broke up after living together for only two months. He says he got complacent, stopped dating and courting her properly, which led to her cheating on him with a coworker.
He eventually got her back, but didn’t want to stay with her long term because of everything that had happened. He shares how every area of his life is better as a result of what he learned from my work. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.
If you are familiar with, (hopefully), and you’ve read How To Be A 3% Man, my first book, then you know that there were women that I wrote about that I screwed up with and eventually later on got the chance to date them, even though I didn’t stay with them long term. Personally, for me, when you want somebody and you’re obsessed about them, and then they don’t want to be with you, or you lose them because of your behavior and they ditch you, then you turn it around because you apply what’s in How To Be A 3% Man, and then you actually get to experience having a relationship with them and you’re the one that rejects them down the road, that is really good for your self-esteem.
And it was really good for my self-esteem, because I went from believing that I wasn’t worthy to knowing that I was worthy, because I got to have the experience I wanted, as opposed to just thinking, “Damn, I missed out on that girl. It’s probably going to be a few more years until I meet somebody else that I have that kind of connection with, and that kind of chemistry, and obviously that kind of attraction with.” And that’s not a fun thought.
But when you can walk away from that and say, “Man, that was amazing, it was great to have that experience, but I don’t want it anymore,” you feel better about yourself. And that helps your confidence and it helps your self-esteem, because now you’re at choice with your life. You get to choose who stays and who goes.
And so, I’ve got an email success story from a guy who got an ex back, and you’ll see that what she did to him is unforgivable and it tells us everything about her character, but at the end of the day, he got to experience attracting her back, and then ultimately he didn’t stay with her.
Then, he talks about how everything in his life is great now. He’s read How To Be A 3% Man. I believe he’s also read Mastering Yourself, my second book on self-reliance. And then, obviously, we’ve got the third book that just came out, Quotes, Ruminations & Contemplations, available everywhere and in audiobook format.
How are you? I wanted to share my story about getting my ex back. This was in 2019. My ex and I decided to move into an apartment after two years of dating.
He seems to have waited a good amount of time, which was great. I don’t know if he was familiar with my work back then. That may have been what led him to my work, I can’t remember.
We both thought it would be swell, but we ended up breaking up after only two months into the lease.
Now, why would that happen? Well, we’re about to find out.
After moving in together, I became complacent and stopped dating her…
So, before I tell you what happens, when I’m doing phone sessions with guys that are having problems in long term relationships, it’s usually one of two reasons: they stopped dating and courting her, or they didn’t communicate with their properly. In other words, she didn’t feel heard and understood. And when a woman feels heard and understood the legs open, and when they don’t, they close.
…which caused her to cheat on me with a coworker. We had a big argument and I kicked her out that same night. I was left to pay for an apartment that I could barely afford.
Good for you for having the guts to kick her to the curb. Why? Because she belongs to the streets, baby! The streets were calling! But again, this is what happens when you don’t date and court a woman properly. A woman with integrity who knows how to communicate like an adult will work it out with you. A woman who doesn’t will go fuck somebody else.
It is what it is, but this is why you date. This is why you test drive the vehicle before you sign on the dotted line, because it can be very expensive if you make a bad purchasing decision on the person that you choose to spend your life with.
I had to work a second job just to stay on top of things. I would be depressed for weeks and even begged for her back…
Damn, dude, and it started off so good.
…suggesting things will be different, but she shot me down multiple times, (I know, cringe moment).
Well, at least you recognized it, and that’s the important thing. That’s what self-reliance is, is saying, “I’m a screw up. I messed up. I’m going to take 100% ownership of all my screw ups, and I’m going to resolve to become a better human being.”
I then found your work, (3% Man)…
Which you can read for free on the Members area of my website.
…and listened to the audiobook religiously 9 times.
Do it 10 to 15 times, bro. If that’s all you’ve read, you’re cutting corners and you’re going to pay later, I promise you. It’s not going to be pleasant. I’ve done thousands of phone sessions over the years, and guys that don’t read it to 10 to 15 times, they think “I’ve got this.” Wait until you get into a relationship again. Then you’ll know how well your knowledge is. It doesn’t usually come out just in pickup and dating.
During this, I worked on myself and started to hit the gym and eat a cleaner diet. After 16 days of focusing on myself, I got a text from her asking if she had any mail. I told her yes and to meet me at a bar down the street from where our apartment was.
I would have had her come over, right out of “7 Principles To Get An Ex Back,” but he met her at a bar. See, the thing with “7 Principles To Get An Ex Back,” it’s not iron clad in stone, it’s all guidelines. But the important thing for the guidelines to work is you must understand the philosophy. If you’re trying to apply it like a robot, your results are going to be less than ideal. You’ve got to become the person you want to attract, and you have to fill in your knowledge gap.
Keep in mind, at the time, I had been posting very actively on social media showing my training in the gym and at the gun range.
Well, by the time you guys see this, I will be sweating my balls off on the gun range with the Mochabear, running and gunning, because it’s like Africa fucking hot down here in the swamp. But you know what? It’s going to be exciting. I love it!
When we shoot so much, the guns get so hot you just you have to set them down, let them cool off for a bit. And that’s what I love about training with Jon at Kinetic-Consulting.net is because, especially when you’re doing private lessons, he really pushes your ass. I mean, we’ll sometimes go through five hundred rounds of 5.56 mm and five hundred of 9 mm in just four hours. It’s a lot of fun, but you get better really fast. Anyway, I digress. I love talking about guns and with people who love guns.
I met her at the bar, and we started to catch up. Our interaction felt very familiar and we just talked like each other’s best friends. Later into the night, I would tell her that I “accidentally” left her mail at the apartment and invited her to join me in my car to come pick up her mail and hang out at the apartment for a little while. We hung out and I opened a bottle of wine and had music playing. After some more talking, a new song came up that she loved. I then stood up and grabbed her hand and invited her to dance.
The magic formula is hang out, have fun and hook up, and it works, even for the ex.
While dancing, I just knew she was ripe for it and I went for the kiss. She kissed me back with intense passion. Needless to say, we had an incredible evening. We went out 2-3 times again after that. During those dates, I was able to read ALL THE SIGNS that a woman subtly puts out there for guys!
Yeah, I’m telling you, when you learn the body language and you act like a man, going to parties, being out in public, the things that you see and the things that women do around you is like, there’s a lot of naughty girls in this world. That’s all I’ve got to say about that.
Things like, she would look at my lips and I would kiss her. She would lightly bump my hands while we walked, so I would then take her hand and hold it! Inside I would be chuckling because this was the first time ever I was able to accurately read a woman’s body language!
I was 24 years old at the time.
It takes out all the guesswork. The cheat codes are in “How To Be A 3% Man,” my friends. And the life cheat codes are in “Mastering Yourself,” even though a lot of people tend to get butthurt at the politics.
After the 2nd date, I can tell her attraction level was already at a 9. She was in love with me, but I was still hurt that she cheated and I didn’t want to be in a relationship with someone like her.
Because she belongs to the streets!
After reading your work, I found out she was a bad communicator…
Well, she does belong to the streets, after all. Don’t try to turn a hoe into a housewife. Are you a hooker?
…(I was too, but I’m better now), devious, passive aggressive, insecure.
That sucks, but it’s not your problem. It’s not your fault. She was that way before you met her. That is the work of her parents and her family. So, congratulations to them for fucking their daughter up. Unfortunately, there’s a lot of people that do that in this world, but we’re working to change that.
So, before she reached that magical 10 in the attraction level, I told her that I didn’t want anything serious and that I was also seeing other women on the side.
Well, I mean, fair’s fair. After all, she was seeing another man on the side. She had a side piece, one of her coworkers.
She took this to heart and got angry with me.
Revenge is a dish best served cold.
Then she became flaky and would call me randomly with drama from her friends/family in the middle of the night, (which I did not answer any of the calls/texts late at night. I would get back to her the next day.)
Yes, because your life is a drama free zone, so let the drama blow over and then be like, “Hey babe, how are you?” the next day.
Eventually, she ended up moving back to the east coast with her family. Fast forward to today, I’ve read many of your works and all the other books that you recommend. I quit my stable 9-5 job to pursue my dreams in the firearms industry.
God bless America. Here’s the reality, it’s the sacred duty of every American to be armed, to be safe and to be competent with firearms. That includes rifle, that includes pistol. Period. The Founding Fathers intended that everybody, the whole body of the American people, as they said, be armed. We are the militia of the people.
There’s somewhere over a hundred million people that have guns now. It’s the largest private army in the world. That’s how we keep our freedom. And whether you like it or not, whether you like guns or not, everybody is supposed to be armed. So get your lazy ass to your local gun shops. Get yourself a nice pistol with a nice red dot on it, get yourself a nice rifle set up and train.
There’s so many retired or former Special Forces guys that are in the gun community that know what they’re doing, and they will teach you how to be amazing. I don’t want to say too much, I might get myself into trouble. But anyway, they will teach you how to handle yourself properly, so your guns become an extension of you. It doesn’t matter whether you like it or not, that was the Founding Fathers’ intent. Cry more, because I don’t care, you anti-gun weenies.
I now work for an ammunition manufacturer.
Freedom pellets. I love freedom pellets! I’m going to go through a lot of them right now while you guys are watching this. It’s a blast, literally.
And I also help people train to be better shooters to protect their families and the people around them.
God bless you, bro. It’s the sacred duty of every American to be armed, safe and competent with firearms. If you’ve got the money and you’ve got the time, get your ass to a local gun shop and then go take some classes on how to properly use it, properly store it, unload it, load it. Anyway, I can’t say what I really want to say.
I’m in the best shape of my life, and I’ve never felt this much clarity before with my personal life and in business. I meet girls pretty much anywhere and can strike up a conversation with ease. I just want to say thank you for all that you do. You literally make the world a better place, one student at a time.
And by the way, we did a documentary on the history of the 2nd Amendment. So, if you’re so inclined, it’s called “The 2nd Amendment,” and it’s on my YouTube channel. It’s on the home page. It’s the whole history. And it’s also in “Mastering Yourself.” One of the reasons why the soy boy leftists get so upset when they read my book, they don’t like empowered, self-reliant people. But, cry more. Nobody cares.
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