Is It Really A Success If You Ripped Off Another Guy’s Girl?

How to know if your relationship is really a success if you stole another guy’s girl.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success story from a 26 year old viewer who has been together with his new girlfriend for about 4 months. They’re in love and all over each other. However, when they met she had a boyfriend, but he continued texting, flirting and chatting with her anyway. Eventually she left her boyfriend and now they’re together.

My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “Is It Really A Success If You Ripped Off Another Guy’s Girl?”.

Maybe seeing too many movies with the damsel in distress. I mean, you think of Titanic. I mean, that’s a prime example. She’s with this rich jerk, doesn’t appreciate her. And of course, free spirit Leonardo DiCaprio comes along, sweeps her off her feet, and then he dies in (the water from the shipwreck) Titanic. And the other guy, he makes it to live another day, but Leo doesn’t make it. So this particular email a guy writes in, he says, “I’ve got a success story Coach.”

He’s 26, and so he’s been with this new girlfriend for about four months. And when they originally met, she was in a long term relationship, had a boyfriend. And so I guess he stayed in touch and flirted with her, texted her. In the meantime, he was dating and hooking up with other women, and at some point she left her boyfriend and they started seeing each other. Now they’re together in a relationship for four months and they’re goo goo gaga over each other.

However, you wonder how much his being in her life caused her to leave the other guy for him. Because at the end of the day, a girl who does this with her current boyfriend more than likely statistically is going to do it with you. 95% of the relationships that come from cheating tend to end in cheating. However, there are always exceptions. My old business partner was married. He his wife was pregnant, I don’t know, 3 or 4 months long, I think it was, with their second kid.

And a girl who worked for us who was really cool, really charming, a lot of fun. Younger than his wife, much more attractive and. But she lived with her fiancé. And so in the nature of our business, we would get foreclosure properties from realtors or something would come up on MLS or HUD foreclosure. And so my partner, he would go, what we used to do is we would go look at the houses, we’d check out our comparable sales that we saw in the neighborhoods.

And when we walk through the house, we try to figure out how much work does it need to put it in like new condition; carpet, paint, caulk and paint, maybe, what it ain’t, that kind of thing. Does it need new windows? Does it need a roof? Does it need AC? Like what does it need? And then you’d back out the repair costs, your holding costs, your closing costs, and how much you wanted to make on that particular property. And then that would determine how much you would offer for it.

And so he was like, “Hey. I’m going to go look at a couple houses. You want to come?” So she’d hop in the car and they’d have great conversations. They had a lot of chemistry. They had a lot of fun together. I mean, they’re both fun people. And at some point I remember him telling me the story like it was yesterday. He’s they were sitting there talking. I can’t remember this was at lunch or dinner, or maybe they were in the car together. And he says, I think I’m in love with you.

And she says, I think I’m in love with you too. And so the affair started, and she eventually went to her fiance, who she lived with, and dropped a bomb on him that she was leaving him for her boss. And then my business partner dropped the bomb on his wife, who’s again, three, four months, five months pregnant with their second kid. “Hey, see you later.” And they got divorced, and they dated and lived together for many years. And I think probably ten, 15 years after they got together, they eventually got married.

And last I heard, they are still going strong many decades later. So it does happen. However, you’ve got to look at how the woman behaves. I was talking to a guy yesterday. He’s dating a woman that he’s in a relationship. She’s got kids from another relationship. So it’s kind of like the Brady Bunch thing there. She’s pregnant with a kid with him. And at the end of the day, they haven’t been doing well. And part of the reason why is even though things were going well, she’s still got male orbiters and guys she said she was going to stop talking to.

She continued to talk to. And he just keeps finding new dudes that she’s inviting attention from, telling that she’s not really happy. And I mean, at the end of the day, that’s how she operates. So that kind of woman is definitely not going to be loyal. But if my business partner’s case, he was a successful, family oriented guy. She was family oriented. She became a stepmom to his kids. I don’t think they never had any kids of their own. Um, but they had a great relationship.

And in some cases, people are more compatible and they’re happier and those things are going to happen. But most of the time in those cases, if you’re in a situation like that, you’ve got to look at the behavior, you’ve got to look at the circumstances because there are women that just don’t give a damn. As soon as they’re unhappy, they’re giving out their number, they’re going and having drinks.

They’re going and having dinners, lunches, hanging out with the guy who’s just a friend you don’t have to worry about. And in my business partner’s case, he was living with his wife and they just, you know, he wasn’t 100% happy with her. She wasn’t 100% happy with her fiance. And just in the process of working, they just had a lot of chemistry and they started enjoying spending time together more so than with their significant others. And then they left their significant others.

And in their case, they lived happily ever after, at least so far. But she wasn’t always like giving out her number. And it was like something that happen over, you know, they knew each other for several years, so it wasn’t like they met. And a couple weeks later they’re hooking up. So you’ve got to look at things in a case by case basis. I mean, my job as a coach is to help guys get what they want. If they want to get involved in situations like this and risk a Hialeah divorce, it’s like whatever.

Because the other thing was my business partners, everybody knew each other. He knew her fiance. She knew his wife, knew the kids. I think she maybe even babysat for the kids at times. So it’s like he’s also basically running over the babysitter, you could say. But I mean, those things are going to happen. Life is messy. And you could look at that and say, well, you know, because I knew them both, I knew the relationships they were in before.

And quite frankly, both of them are way happier with each other than the people they were with before. And they were always loyal to one another. So, and like I said, last I heard, they still are and they have a blast together. It’s one thing they’re always doing laughing, joking, having a good time. It’s just easy. They didn’t really argue. They didn’t really butt heads on anything. She was a pretty easygoing chick, very feminine, more feminine than the wife was, and it worked out for them.

But in most cases, it’s like, guys are coming to me. It’s what you see when it doesn’t work out is the girls just always giving out attention to other dudes. As soon as she’s not happy, she doesn’t fucking care. She’s giving out her number, she’s hanging out with guys. And so you have to look at those things. What is the context of the situation? I’m not here to say it’s right or wrong. Whatever. This stuff happens. And so I’m gonna I’m gonna go through these instances.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach,

I hope you’re doing awesome. I am a 26-year-old Spanish guy, very successful at work. I came across your work about a year and a half ago, and it had amazing effects on my dating life. Before, I had mediocre, inconsistent success, but since then I have been able to date and sleep with multiple beautiful women. Let me share with you my recent story.

Even though I had a lot of success, I struggled to get over my ex-girlfriend, whom I had been with for 6 years. We had broken up a year earlier, but I wanted us to get back together. However, I was too afraid to apply the famous 7 principles to get an ex back and be rejected after inviting her over for dinner.

He decided to reinvent the wheel is basically what he decided. It’s scary for guys like they can’t handle the thought of the downside risk. And so they try to find the middle ground and it’s like, I know what works and what doesn’t. And it’s been perfected over multiple decades at this point. So it’s going to give you the best possible chance for success because a woman is supposed to submit to the man. And 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back puts a woman in a position where she will do that. If it’s possible, it’s the best option that you’ve got.

I decided to use the three H’s instead.

Hang out, have fun, hook up. In other words, he continued to pursue and date probably.

What a mistake and waste of time. Even though I was still able to escalate things and sleep with her at some point, she was rarely available and cancelled several dates.

Because it wasn’t her idea. He’s pursuing her. Again, I went through beating my head against the wall, doing what he did, and realizing after many different situations like that that it didn’t work. And what worked most effectively is what’s laid out in 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back. But if you want to reinvent the wheel, it’s your life. Have have at it. Good luck to you.

After two months, she told me that she liked to spend time with me but did not really care about me anymore.

Ouch. Because he cared more about her than she did about him. He was constantly pursuing somebody that was like.

I left for a four-month internship to the US, and we agreed on getting in touch when I come back to Spain. Two days after leaving, I met an Italian girl at an event. She immediately caught my attention, she was physically really attractive, funny, smart and playful.

Again, my business partner, the woman he ended up getting together with, she was like that. She was a lot of fun. I always laugh and joke and having a good time. Compared to his wife, she was more bubbly and more happy. And you know, at the end of the day, men want peace. A woman that makes our dick hard, not their life hard, and a woman that brings joy. And so he went where the joy was.

Again, right, wrong, indifferent. You say that was a really shitty thing to do. Obviously they knew each other. He literally ripped off a dude’s fiancée that he knew. I think they even double dated at times. So that’s just it’s awful. But her fiance was a really nice guy and he was really cool about it. But again, that’s a risky thing.

All I was looking for. During the event, she always wanted be around me. From what you teach in your book and my personal experience, I could tell her interest level was high. However, similarly to the situation you share in your book, she had a boyfriend for a long time, so I did not proceed further and stayed in my composure the whole time. She eventually went back to her country after a week. Nevertheless, we kept texting almost every single day.

I love it when the dogs start barking. That’s just great.

While I could not apply all the principles of the book for obvious reasons, I kept the philosophy behind and courted her properly.

At the end of the day dude, you’re courting somebody else’s chick. You never mow another man’s lawn. That is a risky proposition. Now, my brother’s case, he had a friend of his that he worked with when he was in college. Who at where they played at this really nice restaurant. And unbeknownst to my brother’s friend, he really clicked with this hot hostess. And so she invited him back to her place one night. And who was waiting there? Her crazy, stalkerish ex-boyfriend.

And my brother’s friend had no idea. So the guy steps out of the shadows, shoots my brother’s friend in the head, kills him, says see what you made me do? He turns the gun on himself and blows his brains out in front of her. And that did not end in a happily ever after situation. And, you know, unfortunately, my brother’s friend, he had no idea she was even with anybody or that there had been a, an ex that was kind of stalking her. So it’s what about those things? That’s awful. It’s an awful thing.

I remained playful, mysterious, charming etc. Meanwhile, I dated…

I mean, let’s look at the Odyssey. It’s doing well. The Battle of Troy, which is part of the movie. It was all about a woman, the face that launched 10,000 ships, some dude ripping off another guy’s girl, and he wasn’t happy about it. And how many men went to their deaths because of that? Thousands.

Meanwhile, I dated a lot of girls in the US, with some memorable successes. It enabled me to quickly get over my ex-girlfriend. I ultimately came back to Spain. Even though she absolutely knocked my socks off, I remained a 3% Man the entire time, never put pressure on her for breaking up like 97% men would have probably done.

Well, what you say is, “that if you were single, I would love to take you out on a date, but you’re with a boyfriend, and I love the connection we have. And if it don’t work out, hit me up. I’d love to take you out sometime.” And then you walk away and you never look back. You don’t keep texting her. But he did.

Long story short, she broke up two months after I came back. We met one week later, became a couple two weeks later, and shared the three beautiful words after four weeks.

I assume he’s saying I love you. I love you baby.

We have now been together for 4 months, and I can tell you that we are crazy in love with each other.

So he’s in the honeymoon phase.

I will continue to read your book and watch your videos to be the best version of myself, for me and for her.

Thanks a lot for your work Coach, cheers! 

So again, we go back here, he says, I’ll just read what he said again. “From what you teach in your book, in my personal experience, I could tell her interest was high. However, similarly to the situation you share in your book”. I don’t know which one he’s referring to. Maybe an old business partner that was dating a married woman and hooking up with her while she was still married. You might be talking about that.

And ultimately, she went back to her husband for a period of time. The guy finally backed off and let her be, and eventually she left her husband. And they were together for a few years. But it didn’t work out And he ended up dying about a year ago of cancer. So at the end of the day, we’re all on the Titanic fucking rearranging deck chairs, so you might as well enjoy it. Just hopefully you’re not risking a Hialeah divorce for a piece of puswa.

You really shouldn’t mow another guy’s another man’s lawn. It’s a bad way to go. Too much downside risk. But I know some of you fuckers love to live dangerously and don’t care. Coach the chocha. I could not resist. “However, similarly to the situation you share in your book, she had a boyfriend for a long time, so I did not proceed further and stayed in my composure though the whole time. She eventually went back to her country after a week.”

And so here’s what he did, which I would not have handled it this way. But I mean, he did what he did. What’s done is done. “Nevertheless, we kept texting almost every single day.” So he was available. He’s probably opening her up because her boyfriend was checked out. And so he made an emotional connection with her that she hadn’t made with her current boyfriend in many years.

Just like my business partner, they were hanging out and she’s talking about this and talking about that. And probably for a long time, she’d been talking that way to her, her fiance, and he didn’t fucking care, wasn’t really listening anyways. And eventually a guy came along and did care. You’ve got to date and court your girlfriend or your wife, because eventually somebody else will. And that’s what happened here.

So at the end of the day, I know he says, well, we weren’t dating, but you were talking to her all the time. You were letting almost every single day you were talking to her and you were letting her reach out and you enabled monkey branching. Let’s be honest here. That’s what happened.

You stole another guy’s chip. But who knows, maybe you’ll be like the exception to the rule, the exception to the statistic. Like my business partner and former assistant who used to work for both of us, who’s now been his wife and be with him for like 25, 27 years. So that worked out for them. It happens.

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