If you are a woman who would like to improve your skills at attracting the type of man you’ve always wanted, keep a man interested in you or increase the level of intimacy in your relationship, then this will be the most exciting message you will ever read.
When I was younger, it was very hard for me to attract the type of women I always wanted. Every couple of years when I would meet someone who really liked me from the moment she looked into my eyes, I would usually get 1 to 3 dates before she would lose interest and stop returning my phone calls.
Why did this happen? The reason it happened was because my actions, my words and my body language communicated to the woman that deep down I did not feel I was worthy to be with her. I acted needy and insecure which simply turned women off because women love men with confidence. Not just confidence in life, but confidence in their own ability to sexually attract the type of women they want. In other words, women like dating men who act, think and behave in ways that communicate that he deserves to be with her. If she tries to walk all over him and mistreat him, she knows he will walk and never look back.
As I became aware through relentless learning of the things I was doing and saying that was turning women off, my sensory acuity increased exponentially. I realized, sensed and could see with my own eyes and literally feel that most women are just as messed up as most men. However, when it comes to understanding relationships, women have a better understanding of men, then men do of women. The average woman can easily keep most guys totally snowed and unaware of where they stand with her. Most men are weak and do not offer women much of a challenge.
So the guys who really understand women and know how to properly handle their interactions with them are very rare. Only about 3% of all men really understand women. So if you are a woman and you’ve caught yourself a good man, there are several things you need to understand about men and our needs if you want to keep us interested and wanting to see you more and more as time goes by.
We men want our freedom when we are in a relationship. And I don’t mean freedom to run out and screw anyone we want, I’m talking about the freedom to be who we are and to pursue our dreams and purpose of life.
When I acted needy it drove women away. Because I was insecure about myself, I needed constant reassurance of a woman’s affection for me. This inhibited her sharing her feelings and emotions when she felt like it. Instead, it forced her to say things not because she wanted to and because it was a gift from her heart, but because she was trying to make up for my feeling of lack inside. That is not natural and would turn anyone off.
As a man, after making love we tend to feel empty inside. Our purpose and our love has been achieved and given. It’s in the space of emptiness that a new desire will take shape. You must give us the space to go and pursue our dreams and think about you during the day. If you call or text us to say you were thinking about us, don’t get bent out of shape and be mad that we did not get back to you right away. Because if you do, it will make us feel like being with you means losing our freedom to be who we are. If a man feels he will lose his freedom to be with a particular woman, he will always choose freedom over the woman in the end.
After slaying the dragons all day we love to lose ourselves in our beautiful, sexy and feminine goddesses when we return home. Be our joy. That way, we will forget about all our problems of the day and focus fully and completely on loving you.
This is an e-mail I got from a woman. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of her e-mail:
How are you??? How do you get a guy you have been chatting with from internet dating for some time now to get to give you more attention (give him the space and time to miss you. Make sure he pursues you back also. If you pursue him too much he will pursue you less)? To fall for you more and sort of commit to you??? (you must give him the space and time to feel he is free to be who he is. Call and text him when you wish to give the gift of your love and sweetness. NOT because you need reassurance that he loves you. The purpose of all relationships is you go there to give). Even when you are on the right track but you just to be secure I guess. In short, how do you get a guy and keep him interested in you (read my book. Even though I wrote it for guys, the same wisdom applies to women)???
Another great resource for you is Christian Carter’s website catch him and keep him.com. One of my girlfriends turned me onto his website several years ago. I send all my women friends and girlfriends to his website to sign up for his free newsletter.
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