In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a guy who shares how my work has helped him to connect to and find his inner man. He says he has listened to my audiobook twenty-five times. He no longer feels the urge or need to have a stiff drink at night or a cigarette. He says his life is now a series of highs that he’s never experienced before. He has women tracking him down through other friends and acquaintances that want to meet and date him.
He also shares the positive effect that his natural, centered masculine alpha presence has on both his ex-wife and ex-girlfriend and caused them to feel attraction for him. The women from his office all respond to him positively and smile when he comes around, including the tough, grumpy account manager.
It’s another great success story that illustrates how powerful, charming and attractive a regular guy can become to women, just by becoming the best version of his authentic, masculine alpha male self. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
Well, Well Mr. Corey Wayne,
You do indeed know your stuff. I’ve been short of time to be able to provide updates, so I’ve got a lot to tell. I’ll try not to drag on for too long, however let me tell you a story, a story of a boy who found the inner man.
(Maybe it’s rediscovered the inner man. We all have this inside of us. It’s just, society has beat us down to the point where we don’t feel comfortable being who we are. The beauty is, the more authentic you are, the more real you are and the more comfortable you are being who you are, the right people will love and value that.)
Now I do like to normally embellish my stories for entertainment purposes, but not this time. The facts are clear and the truth tells all. So to begin, I have now read and listened to your book perhaps 25 times,(That’s why you’re doing well, because when you’ve read it 25 times, you embody it. You know it backwards and forwards. You could teach a fucking class on it. When you learn the fundamentals, you just instinctively do the right thing),
though I have lost count now, but will continue to do so.
(This is somebody who’s a serious student. He said, I want to get better and I’m going to do whatever it takes. I’m going to exceed the 10-15 times that Corey said to read it.)
I have become a fan of old Cary Grant movies.
I can’t get enough of them, and I make the time to watch them.
(One I really liked was “Charade” with Cary Grant and Audrey Hepburn. You should check it out.)
It’s like reading your book every time I watch one and seeing everything you say, in them, and it’s a real eye opener. I no longer feel the need for a cigarette or a stiff drink at night either.
(When you experience your emotions fully, and you are who you are fully, you put that out into the world, you’re unapologetic, there’s nothing you need to numb yourself from.)
Life seems to be enough of a high at the moment.
I’ve spent some time in thought trying to figure out the source of my previous behavior, and I now get it and it throws back to a very loving, but extremely overprotective Mother who was doing her very best, however in doing so, embedded in me some undesirable behavior.(She probably tried to make you really, really nice, so you wouldn’t go out and hurt girls in a way that she had probably hurt by maybe her father, or maybe your dad, or some other guys she dated. And it made you too nice. When you’re too nice, you don’t stand up for yourself, and you’re a pushover, women don’t like that. They don’t respect it. And women can never love a guy they don’t respect. Plus, it gets reinforced on TV and in the movies all of the time.)
I guess you could say, that was my normality that I took to my relationships.
Now the shift is beyond words my friend, and I can’t believe the difference you have made to how I am right now, and of course the learning curve just keeps going.
I attended a function recently at which my ex-wife was also invited, along with her new squeeze.
(If you run into your ex, just wave, say hello, don’t go out of your way to talk to her if you see her across the room, and then go about what you were doing. If she wants to come over and talk to you, great. The mountain doesn’t chase the wind.)
I could feel her watching my every move as I went about my business, and the look on her face every time I caught a glimpse was priceless.
(She can’t take her eyes off of you. There’s a different vibe, a different energy coming off of you that she doesn’t encounter very often.)
I think perhaps her boyfriend was a bit upset at it all, as he left early, but it provided a great opportunity to talk to her and let her know that there was no more anger, and that I was happy for her that she had found someone that she could be truly happy with.(Isn’t that awesome? Just you being awesome, and happy and acting like a man causes her new boyfriend to lose his shit and storm out of there. Just you being you caused another dude to bounce, because he can’t handle it.)
Another of the things that you have taught me well and I can tell you now, the tension between us completely melted away at that very moment. But wait, there’s more!
My ex-girlfriend was at a separate mutual function, and I caught her also unable to remove her gaze from me throughout the night as I interacted with my friends in the large crowd. So much so in fact, that she positioned herself at the highest point of the structure so she could watch me move around.
(She was stalking her prey.)
It was so strikingly obvious, that I couldn’t wipe the smirk from my face. Well it wasn’t long before I got the ‘Corey Wayne text book style’ “Hey babe, what are you doing?” message a few days later.
(She’s not going to say, hey babe, you looked really hot the other night. This way it just seems like she’s calling to check in. But the real reason she’s reaching out is because she wants to see you.)
How things can change. You might be interested to know that now somehow I have the office girls at work wrapped around my little finger, even our toughest and most grumpy accounts manager.
(That’s the beauty of being totally centered in your masculine energy. All the feminine women around you submit and become playful and nice. It makes them feel safe and comfortable, because it’s a real man. It’s the effect of a silverback gorilla.)
It’s almost criminal. They’ll do anything for me, and when I enter the room will just look up at me kind of like they’re waiting for me to speak.(You’ve got some groupie love there at the office.)
I always get a laugh out of them now. With not a word of a lie, and I’m not even trying with them, as they are all married or with partners. Maybe that’s the secret. Try less?
(Less really is more. You’re just being a man. You’re happy, you’re enjoying your life, you’re smiling, nothing gets under your skin.)
I don’t know how or why but it’s just crazy, and I’d be untruthful if I was to say I wasn’t enjoying it just a little bit.
(It’s your birthright dude.)
But wait! That’s not all! The ladies, well what a problem you have created for me. I get texts in the middle of the night and constant texting during the day. It’s tough, I mean, I’m supposed to be working or sleeping, but apparently, the ladies don’t mind waiting.
(The paradox of choice… you get too many options, then you have a hard time making up your mind.)
In fact, like you say, making them wait just a bit works.
(It’s a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. Most of the guys they interact with are just all over them, throwing their cocks at them all day and night.)
It’s like some kind of magic hoodoo. And this part you may not believe, but I tell you it’s true as sure as the sky is blue. Just last night at ungodly-o-clock I received a text from a guy I work with who was out for the night that went something like this…
(When you get in this state, people that know you will talk about you, and women will hear about you and want to meet you. They’ll talk to people that know you and say, “Hey, give him my number.”)
“Dude! I’m talking to this chick who is hot as for you. Her name is Jessica and her number is…” I mean, can you believe that?
(It happens dude. Guys like you are so fucking rare. Women are going to go out of their way to get your attention.)
I somehow have recruited scouts that do my work while I’m sleeping, Lol.So my problem? Well I’m finding it hard to let them down softly. I don’t have time or even the desire to see them ‘all,’ and I have strong moral values. It’s a problem I never expected to have and am totally unprepared for.
(It’s not your problem that the ladies like you. There’s no downside in that. You’re not obligated to go out with all of them. You’re not obligated to apologize for the fact that women like you.)
Perhaps maybe, if not done already, you could do a video in the future on how to say no in a way that the woman feels valued.
(Tell them the truth. Say, “I’m dating a couple of girls,” or “I met somebody I really like and things are going really well, but if it doesn’t work out, I’ll get in touch with you.” Even when you say that, they’re still going to like you even more.
Most women just disappear when they find another guy. That’s how they treat the average dude, because they’ve got lots of choices and options. But the average guy, when they tell them that, they won’t go away.)
The things you teach really should be used with caution such that we don’t leave a trail of broken hearts.
(You want to be responsible, not be a dick and take revenge on all the girls that screwed you over. But if you’ve got choices, go out with the ones you really like. Then you get to the point where you only want to date unicorns, and the unicorns don’t come along very often.)
So who’d have thought it? A big turn-around indeed. I still have a lot to learn, but I feel great. I have made a small donation. It’s not much, but it’s about as much as I can give for now. Thanks again.
(Thanks for being awesome Bob, because you’re changing every person you encounter.)
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“Authenticity and an unshakable belief in oneself are sexy and attractive to others. In a world that is full of people who are wearing phony facades that mask who they really are, authentic joyous people who have come alive on the inside are a rare occurrence. A masculine alpha male lives an authentic life on his own terms that feels good on the inside, despite how it appears to others on the outside. When you love, value and accept yourself, you no longer require or seek the approval of others.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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