My Friends Girlfriend Is Hitting On Me. What Can I Do?

What it means when a friends girlfriend is hitting on you.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has a friend with a girlfriend that appears to be disloyal. She reaches out to him with texts, videos and memes. She’s invited him out for coffee and he noticed her staring at his lips, but he didn’t act upon it. However, he does find her pretty and wonders what to do about it. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “My Friends Girlfriend Is Hitting On Me. What Can I Do?”.

Well, this particular email is from a viewer. He’s got a friend who’s in his friend group. He doesn’t know him that well, but he says he’s a really good, solid guy. However, this guy friend in his friend group has a girlfriend that looks pretty convincing that she’s a disloyal woman. And so she just started reaching out to him, texting him, sharing videos from time to time, sending memes and has invited him out for coffee and friendly type things.

And this is kind of how women who cheat, act and operate. And I’m sure, I mean, it looks like the guy who is in a relationship with her has no idea what’s going on. And it’s just a good email because you can see how women with low character and low integrity operate. If they’re not happy. They’re going to go out and, “Oh, he’s just a friend. You don’t have to worry about him.”

And of course, she doesn’t take everything all the way. She puts herself in a position where she could potentially get seduced by this guy if he’s open to it. And obviously he feels guilty, but he also is always found her pretty. Now you see a bunch of Disney movies where these kinds of scenarios happen.

And of course, they get together and live happily ever after and everything’s all sunshine and roses. But in the real world, you might end up with a Hialeah divorce. So, and by the way, just so you can see, the Great Wall of vagina is back. We finally got the studio set up. The only thing I don’t have in here is the rug, and I could just tell the acoustics are a little slightly different without the rug.

I’ve got all the sound panels and everything, so I’m going to put the rug in later just so you guys know. Because I saw some people in the comments going oh, R.I.P to the wall. It’s like no, we moved everything. These these panels are extremely expensive to get made. I had them custom made. It’s like seven years ago now. So the great wall of vagina continues.

So back to our regularly scheduled email.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach,

I was wondering if you could give your opinion in how I’m handling something. In my friend group, there’s a girl I’ve always found pretty and having similar interests to me. She’s been in a relationship for like 4 years with another guy from the same group, who isn’t a close friend to me, but he’s a good dude, I appreciate and respect him.

Well, if you really appreciate and respect him, you should not be meeting his girlfriend out for coffee or anything one on one, because you know he’s in a relationship with her. But remember, human beings, we make our decisions based upon our emotions, and then we use logic and reason to justify that. So you shouldn’t be meeting this girl. But at the end of the day, it’s pretty clear you like her too.

And so you’re enabling the behavior whether you admit it or not. But if it wasn’t you, she’d be doing this with some other guy. And it’s important to see how women with low character operate. If she’s obviously not completely happy, she’s probably likes you, too. That’s why she’s inviting you out to do things in a friendly basis.

But as far as advancing it to the bedroom or anything romantic happening, she’s leaving that ball in your court. But she’s just basically saying, “Hey, I’m here to to potentially cheat if you want it.“ Now in the movies, you live happily ever after. But in real life, statistically, 95% of the relationships that come from cheating tend to end in cheating. It’s just the way it is.

Last year, around July, she started reaching out to me a lot. At first sending many TikToks and Instagram videos daily, about things that actually sparked good interest in me. I just liked them, replied naturally, and occasionally sent some videos back.

Yeah, if I was doing this with one of my friends, wives or girlfriends, it’s like they’d be going, “You’re hitting on her.” It’s like, this is so obvious. But I’m sure he was BSing himself a little bit like, “Oh, is this okay? I like her, she’s pretty. I’m better looking than that guy.” Those are the things you tell yourself. “I’m a better dude than him. I’d treat her better than he does.”

Then she started texting me at nights, 10 to 12 pm, and bringing up random conversation topics until I had to go to sleep, while she wanted to continue chatting and sometimes sounded frustrated because of that.

Well, I mean, at the end of the day, if she’s a single girl and she’s texting you at 10 or 12 p.m., you just text her back, “come over.” She hasn’t been to your place before, send the address because you clearly know her. You’ve got social proof. She’s basically down to hook up.

One day, she invited me to take a bus together to a birthday of someone in that friend group.

Again. “Hey. I’ll see you there at the party or whatever.” You just shouldn’t be doing this.

She shared sensitive information about her family while walking to the bus stop, and while in the bus, I could tell her eyes were all bright and she kept looking down at my lips, then up at my eyes, while I was talking.

Well, that’s “The Kiss Test” (How To Be A 3% Man, Part VI: The First Step, Page 154) right from the book. I don’t have the book because they’re all. That’s another thing, there in one of the boxes. So it’s a long process of unpacking. You know, I didn’t think much about it at the time.

I didn’t think much about it at the time. Some time later, we met alone again when she invited me to go grab coffee at afternoon. This was all just friendly in my mind.

Sure. Sure, dude. Sure it was.

But you may correct my past self.

Well, you know what you were doing was not right.

After that meeting, her reach outs got much more infrequent, and more subtle. It was never a big deal to me, and I never initiated anything, it’s always have been nearly 100% her. She always responds when I post my cat though.

Well, maybe she’s a future cat lady because as she gets older, she’ll run off all the good men in her life, chase them out with her fuckery then she’ll be a cat lady. Get her a cat lady starter kit.

And when we see in person I still get similar vibes as before, she looks happy to look at me. She’s not active in social media at all, but recently she suddenly posted a love song she knows I really like, and my apartment mate told me she followed him randomly right after that, though she barely knows him.

Yeah, she’s trying to keep tabs on you and what you’re doing, what you’re up to. Maybe your roommate will post something incriminating or that she can get a little Intel off of.

She sent me a video that reminded her of me days later.

That’s a clear sign of interest.

I replied shortly, she replied back and I just hearted it.

Because when you heart something that’s like the end of the conversation.

Right after that she posted a close friends story of her cat, the next day pic of her. I feel like she was trying to fish my attention.

It’s like, yeah, you think.

My roommate was like a devil in my shoulder telling me to reply to these things.

Well, your roommate’s a man of low character as well probably.

While I’m just being nice if she DMs but not validating her with the posts. Because although I’d like to have fun with her sometime, I’d only make an effort if she directly communicated to me that she broke up with him.

Meaning her boyfriend.

I’d take it take as indirect way of saying, “I’m free and want to see you”.

Well, it’s pretty clear this girl is willing to cheat. And again, this is how disloyal women operate. “Oh, it was just coffee. We just took the bus ride together. We’re both going to the same party. Why not ride along with somebody that I know. He’ll keep me safe.” These are the kinds of things she’d probably say as an excuse to the boyfriend.

I wouldn’t feel good at all otherwise. And I wouldn’t want to be in bad terms with the friend.

How would you handle this?

Hope you have a great day.

Well, there would be nothing to handle. If she texts you in the future or a post, just heart it at back instead of engaging in conversations. If she invites you out, I would just politely decline. Tell her you can’t or she knows you’re going to the same party. Just say, hey, I’ll see you there. But it’s just a bad way to go. And if she ever breaks up with him.

I mean, if you barely know the guy, then go on a date. But if he’s in your friend group and you go out on a date and you don’t tell him and he finds out about it, he’s going to be pissed off. He’s going to be like, “You tried to fuck my girl. You tried to steal my girlfriend.”

If it’s a close friend, you just say, hey, your ex-girlfriend. It really seems like she has interest in me, and it seems like she wants me to ask her out. But I wanted to come and talk to you first to make sure you’d be okay with that. If you are, and I have your blessing, that’d be great.

And if you guys are still talking or there’s a chance of reconciliation and you want me to just to back off and and reject her, I’ll do that too. Because our friendship is more important than a girl.” But if he’s just an acquaintance, in that case, it’s kind of like all’s fair in love and war. But you’ve just got to think what happens if they break up, and you show up in your mutual friend group and she’s there with you?

When I read this email, it reminded me there was a famous song by The Cars. I think it came out in the 70s or early 80s goes something like this. “She’s my best friend’s girl friend. And she used to be mine.” So these things do happen. They happen quite a lot. But, you know, down here in South Florida, if you do this kind of shit in Hialeah, you’re going to end up on the evening news in part of Hialeah divorce with a boyfriend or the husband that’s not too happy of you creeping around his back door.

To borrow a line from the Gordon Lightfoot song, “Sundown. You better take care if I find you been creeping round my back stair.” Something along those lines. So if it was me, I mean, because the other thing, if you date this girl, this is exactly how she’ll treat you when she’s not happy. She’ll give out her attention. She’ll invite other guys to do things that look like it’s just friendly.

And then if they get seduced, she’ll go, it’s just kind of happened. I just couldn’t say no. He just started kissing me and one thing led to another, and then his penis was inside of me. So that’s the way it is. Women of low character. I wouldn’t mess with them. If you are going to date these kinds of women, they’re great for fuck buddy, friends with benefits, sex playmate. Wear a raincoat.

But you don’t wife them up. You don’t make them your girlfriend. You don’t have kids with them. They’re just they’re low character people. They put themselves into situations where bad things can happen and they do it on purpose. And then this way, she can go, “I was just hanging out. I was just friendly coffee.” But we all know what she was doing. So I just wouldn’t give any energy. Part of it is you’re encouraging her behavior. You meeting her out, you engaging in texting.

It’s just, you know better, and you know you know better. But at the end of the day, I know you like her so if it doesn’t work out, it’s probably best to hit it and quit it. I wouldn’t date this girl or wife her up because when she’s not happy, this is how she behaves. She invites attention from other men and if the other men seduce her, she can just go, “Oh, I couldn’t say no. It just happened.” So she can absolve herself from any accountability or responsibility. It’s the way it is.

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