
Why you should only date women who are easy going & easy to get along with.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who dated a girl briefly 2 years ago before she dipped. He said he didn’t read the book at that time. Recently she reached out and they started dating again. He met her parents a few dates in. A few weeks later she started getting angry and jerking him around and then canceled a date without explanation. He wonders what went wrong. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.
Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “She Must Be Easy Going & Easy To Get Along With Or She’s Out”.
One thing I do see a lot of guys doing is putting up with a lot of crap from difficult women that are the opposite of easygoing and easy to get along with. They think they can use 3% Man to fix broken women, or to cause women who have a crappy attitude to all of a sudden become easy, nice, flexible, and it’s just not like that. So this particular email is from a guy who started dating a girl about two years ago, and he said he didn’t read the book at the time, so she dipped for whatever reason, blew him off or whatever. And all of a sudden two years later, she reaches back out.
And obviously he’s been through the book since then. And keep in mind he hasn’t heard a peep from this girl in two years, and she’s all enthusiastic and wanting to talk to him and being extra nice. And there’s a good chance when things like that happen, that she’s on the rebound, that she got dumped or broken up by somebody and she’s calling the guys that she knew, and that’s what it looks like. So he gets much further this time. They go out like 6 or 7 times. He even meets her parents. They hang out. They have dinner one night at her place, I guess her parents place.
And so he’s thinking he’s making progress. He didn’t sleep with her. They fooled around a lot, but he says, “oh, well, she’s conservative. I tried two steps forward, one step back.” Each time he got a little further but he still didn’t get to the Promise Land. And then she started complaining that he’s not texting her enough, and it makes her feel like she doesn’t care about her. And so he starts doing exactly what she said she wanted him to do. And not only did that not cause our attitude to get any better, then what happens is she started jerking them around, taking hours to reply, sometimes ten 12 hours to reply.
He has a date set up, uh, that he’s supposed to go over, and they’re going to watch a bunch of movies together. And then literally an hour and a half before the date, she says, “oh, some came up, I can’t make it.” There’s no, “Oh, hey, I’m sorry. Let’s reschedule.” Just no mention of a reschedule. So she blows him off. And the late great Doc Love, his attitude was when a woman does that to you, she’s out forever. “You get one chance per girl per lifetime.” Because again, you want a girl who’s going to treat you with respect.

Not somebody that thinks it’s okay to waste your time and blow you off an hour and a half before with no explanation like that. So maybe the other guy came back in the picture. Maybe she’s just a nut. But the one thing if we take a step back, which you’ll see, is she’s not easygoing and she’s not easy to get along with. And so if it’s me, I wouldn’t be interested in seeing her or talking to her again, but is a good email to go through because there’s lots of detail in here. But the guy, he basically jumps through his butt to do what she says she claims she wanted and needed, and her attitude doesn’t improve.
It actually gets worse. So again, this is why the book is laid out the way it is, because it brings out the best and the best right away, and it brings out the worst and the worst. If you got a chick that’s got a bad attitude and difficult now keep in mind she blew this guy off two years ago and so he’s giving her a second chance. And it’s good for a few weeks before she basically torpedoes it with her crappy attitude. So again, this is really, really important. You want a woman that’s gonna make your dick hard not your life hard.
And this woman’s basically just being a difficult, rude pain in the ass. And there are women out there that are like this. They’re just not nice girls. And it’s not your job to fix them or to save them or to change them. When you see this kind of crappy behavior, you call them out on it. And if they don’t change, you move on to the next. You don’t keep trying to fix them because you like the girl, or she’s hot. Because you can ignore reality, but you can’t ignore the consequences of ignoring reality. Ocean stop it. Enough.
Viewer Email:
Hey Corey,
I’d really appreciate your perspective on this so I can calibrate the right masculine response and not slip into over-pursuing or emotional reactions.
So Ocean is like scratching the carpet because she’s going to lay down here on the floor, and it’s kind of annoying. She’s still doing it. Difficult woman.

About two years ago, I had a short situationship with this girl. Only a few casual dates, some kissing, and then we ended. Back then I didn’t read the book. I moved on back then. Around a month and a half ago she suddenly reached out to me again with very high enthusiasm.
Again, two years go by. She’s probably on the rebound from somebody. Probably somebody else got tired of her shit and blew her off.
She was the one initiating messaging, asking to see me, constantly reaching out. I stayed relaxed, followed your principles, set dates calmly and let her invest.
Again, easy going, easy to get along with somebody who’s nice to you. They have to be nice to you. They have to be easygoing. This is not up for debate.
Very quickly after some great dates she brought me to her home and introduced me to her parents twice. They welcomed me warmly, invited me to eat with them, we sat at the table, her father even showed me his hobbies, and had a great conversation with her mom since we have similar jobs, and they said, “come again”. She proudly showed me her world. Her interest and investment were clearly high, she even insisted.
Again, that doesn’t mean that she’s normal and healthy. It just that’s a nice thing to do because she seems to be interested. Now what happens is, again, the book brings out and causes a woman to really like you more. And some women are just messed up. They can’t deal with it and they become an ass, basically.
She even insisted on paying for some dates.
Maybe she’s a liberated feminist woman.
But in the first three dates I paid after that she paid some so nothing abnormal. I drove on dates then one time she insisted on driving to town one hour and a half away to some sushi place etc. She was perfect. Everything was naturally balanced.
Ah, she wasn’t perfect, Dude. Just the fact, you know, a woman that’s insisting on paying like that, that just seems a little controlling, a little masculine. You know, maybe she’s reading the book, “The Rules”, following some feminist leftist female dating coach that basically they teach women to jerk men around on purpose. That’s how you get them hooked. Just jerk them around, cancel dates, that kind of thing.

We had around 6 or 7 dates total. There was a lot of kissing, cuddling and emotional closeness, but no sex yet. She is more conservative physically but very affectionate and connected when I’m with her in person. Also I used the two steps forward method one step back and slowly. We went a bit further each time. Each meeting deepened the connection organically. I didn’t chase, I just led with ease and let her come to me.
Remember, this is a woman who blew you off, and so you should be following what’s in 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back. And what that means is she’s got to do all the reaching out to you, because again, you’re willing to give her another chance because she blew you off two years ago. She’s the one that reached out to you. She’s the one that’s got to fix it. She’s got to be the one to prove that she’s easygoing, easy to get along with and nice to you.
The only thing she brought up on the last two dates was that I don’t text her much in between dates, and she said it made her feel like maybe I don’t care.
Well, it’s always better to answer a question with a question. You say, “well, if you wanted to talk to me, why didn’t you reach out? If you don’t feel like we’re talking enough, why aren’t you reaching out then so we can talk more or see each other more? I don’t why would you get mad. Why would you mad about that?”
I didn’t get defensive. I reassured her calmly that I do care, that I like seeing her name on my phone, and I’m happy to be in touch, but I personally value in-person connection more than constant texting.
Yeah. If a woman is expecting you to text all throughout the day, just say, “I can’t do that. I don’t have that.” That’s a needy, insecure girl and somebody that’s very immature. It’s like dating a fucking child.
She said she understood but I guess she didn’t? She wanted me to always text and probably felt we must do 50/50 to ask every day, “how are you, what are you doing?”
Well, you’re making an assumption here.
Which I don’t like. It gets boring quickly and it creates unnecessary obligation, everything must be spontaneous and from the heart.
That’s true.

I also put in a bit more messaging effort after that but kept my frame to not do more to break the rules of 70/30.
Meaning, you should never be reaching out more than 20 to 30% of the time. So again, she’s basically saying, I want to hear more from you. And again, I would have answered that. “Well, if you wanted to talk more, why don’t you reach out more? I don’t understand.” “Well, you should reach out to them.” It’s like, “well, I’m not a text guy. It’s like, what do you want? What are you saying? You want to see each other more? Because we can do that.” And when a woman complains about that, typically the best thing to do is once a week surprise her with a random text or a random phone call, or a random FaceTime chat. Don’t just start texting her all day, every day.
Timeline of last week where things shifted and she started taking hours to reply all week even if she initiated.
So what looks like happened is he started texting her every day throughout the day. And she started backing away and her interest started dropping and he continued reaching out.
Monday three days after our date I sent a warm message wishing her a good first workday after her break from work and how the weekend was.
How does she respond to that? What do I always say. The phone is for setting dates, not getting to know somebody. But he’s doing; he’s jumping through his butt to please her. And what happens?
She responded angrily and after that she was upset about the texting issue again and ignored me intentionally with a 12 hour reply delay and again I stayed calm and wanted to make her feel heard and understood.
Well again, that’s fucking rude. You’re doing exactly what she asked for and she’s pissed off at you. So if she cops an attitude just say, “number one, don’t talk to me that way. Number two, you have a phone. If you want to talk to me, you can reach out. I’m saying good morning, which is what you said you wanted. And you’re giving me an attitude. I’m not going to date you if you’re going to have an attitude. Simple as that. You reached out to me after two years, and I’m willing to give you another chance to win me over. But I’m not going to put up with an attitude.

Like I reached out being nice and sweet, and you come back with being mad and angry at me.” You should have checked her on that behavior immediately. But again, this is why we follow what’s in the book, because it brings out the worst and the worst. This is not normal behavior from her. Maybe she’s a little loopy, a little nutty. Maybe she’s on some kind of, um, medication. But you know the reason why she’s treating you this way is she doesn’t respect you, and she clearly doesn’t respect men because that’s not okay.
Tuesday, I invited her to meet for drinks. She said she couldn’t and maybe on Tuesday she’s free, and I said no problem u do your thing and we can always meet some other day, and she said but if we can’t meet tomorrow then only Saturday will work, and I said don’t worry, just contact me if you can meet if not Saturday it is. She agreed.
So again, right away now he’s starting to reach out. Remember, she started this by doing all the pursuing. And if you’re following what’s in 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back, she’s supposed to do all the reaching out. And so he’s straying away. He’s letting this woman derail him sticking to the book and 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back. And look what he gets. He gets a total fucking attitude. And instead of her asking him out now, he’s reaching out to her and now she’s copping an attitude and jerking him around.
Wednesday, she said she can’t and that we can meet on Saturday.
So I don’t know if that means he reached out to her or she reached out to him. He doesn’t really say.
I answered calmly, “No problem, it will be even sweeter then because we won’t see each other for a bit longer and then told her that If she’s free earlier, just let me know and we can align our time and meet.” She also asked once that week how I was, and I asked about her grandfather after a heart issue. Light natural check-ins, nothing needy.
Keep it positive, keep it light. And now you’re asking about her grandfather, who’s potentially got heart problems and might die. That’s not the kind of thing that would elicit good feelings. So you see how easily he got totally derailed here, and he’s ignoring her shitty attitude.

Thursday, she confirmed a movie night at her place for Saturday. The Harry Potter marathon was originally her idea.
So again now he’s reaching out just about every day to, you know, “hey, have a good day.” He’s doing exactly what she said she wanted. So now she’s in charge of the relationship. He’s making her the man, and it’s not going to end well.
Friday, I told her “Have a good day at work” and she wished the same to me as a light, positive touch.
Again, this is unnecessary. Phones are for setting dates. You’re strained from the book to be a people pleaser and you’re being a little bit of an ass kisser. And again, it’s going to blow up in your face.
Everything seemed set for Saturday. I ended the conversation there. Saturday one hour and a half before I would leave, she canceled suddenly. “Hey, something came up, I can’t today.”
That’s just like a blow off. Fuck you. This girl’s fucking nutty. She’s a nut. And again, this is why you stick to the book, because it identifies the nuts. Remember, it didn’t work out two years ago, and he said he hadn’t read the book then, but she’s totally torpedoing this.
I stayed calm and simply replied, “No worries, let me know when you have time.”
Well, if she says, “hey, something came up I can’t today.” I mean that I wouldn’t even heart the message because that’s just fucking rude. That’s the kind of thing where you see that you’re like, you know, I did exactly what this girl said. I reached out more, I was nice, and when I was nice to her, and look what I get back, I get a fucking attitude back. It’s like, that’s totally disqualifying. So that’s why. And after that message, I wouldn’t replied at all. I wouldn’t even have hearted it. I’d just been like, what a fucking rude cunt.
After that message, she has not replied and hasn’t even opened it for almost 24 hours now.
Which she’s clearly doing on purpose.

Total silence. No attempt to reschedule, no apology, no warmth.
Yeah, because she’s a fucking asshole, that’s why. And she’s a nut.
This is a huge contrast compared to her previous high investment, introducing me to her parents, being emotionally open and affectionate, talking about traveling together and future plans she had in mind.
So again, none of that fucking matters. You’re looking at what happened in the past. The only thing that matters is what’s going on right now. She’s acting like a nut. This is not normal behavior to go from being sweet to being a cunt to you just like that. Maybe the other guy came back in the picture. And that’s why she’s torpedoing this. Because she wants you to go away so she can move on with the other guy. That’s what it really looks like.
I’m not bitter or emotional about it. I stayed centered. I just want to execute correctly from here: either she comes back with genuine effort or I let her go with grace without chasing.
So if she does reach out in the future, sends a few text replies back and forth. “Hey, it’s great hearing from you. I gotta run talk to you later. Hey, it’s great to hear from you, I gotta run, keep in touch.” And if she gets angry and pissed off, you know and gives you an attitude.
Just say, “look, you cancelled our date with no explanation. You’re rude and I don’t appreciate it. I don’t date rude, nasty girls. So you need to apologize, number one. And if you’re not truly apologetic and remorseful about your behavior, I don’t want to see you anymore. I hadn’t heard a peep from you in two years. And you’re really nice at first. You introduced me to your parents, who are lovely people, and then this past week you’ve just been a complete asshole to me. And it’s like, if that’s how you are, I don’t want anything to do with you.”
My question. When a woman shows high interest and investment, introducing to family, emotional closeness, and then suddenly starts delaying meetings, cancels last minute and goes cold without rescheduling, is the correct move now to remain 100% silent and let her reach out no matter how long it takes?

Dude, she canceled a date on you and she disrespected you, and you’re going, “hey, should I line up for another helping of that?” Have some self respect dude. Again Doc Love would have been like, “that’s it, she’s out forever. Delete the number. Move on with your life.” I wouldn’t give this girl a time of day. If it were me she would be out in my book. Because you gave her a second chance and what she really showed you is she’s kind of a nut.
Or would you send one final light ping?
Why would you send a ping and reward her with more of your time when she blew you off without explanation? Why would you think that would be a good thing to validate for her? That just shows you have no self respect. It’s like you can’t allow people to treat you like this, or women to treat you like this just because you’re trying to get in their pants.
Or would you send one final light ping after some days and then completely walk away if she doesn’t invest?
It doesn’t matter. I mean, she disrespected you, so the only way you’ll ever see her again is if she reaches out and brings up getting together. If she reaches out and says, “you never texted me.” It’s like, “you blew me off. We had a date set and you blew me off an hour beforehand without any explanation. And quite frankly, I don’t really want to see you again unless you’re very apologetic and willing to make it up to me. So I’m not going to put up with you and your attitude. I don’t know what happened, but your behavior is nutty and I don’t like it and I don’t want to deal with it. You have to be nice, easygoing, easy to get along with, and you’re not being nice to me. And I don’t date girls who are not nice to me. Pretty simple.”
I want to handle this the most high-value way possible.
Man. The Red Pill Platitudes are just flowing in this email.
No resentment, no chasing, but also no waiting forever. I’d appreciate your guidance on what you would do from here and how you interpret such a sudden shift after deep initial investment from her side.

Looks like she’s a nut. That’s what it looks like. Or she’s on some kind of meds. Or maybe the other guy came in the picture and this was her way, just to completely torpedo it so she could blow you off and then move on, or get back together with the other guy. That’s what it looks like. So you were her rebound, and then when she no longer needed you for a rebound, she tossed you aside, made you feel like shit. She made you feel like you were doing something wrong.
Again when a woman shows you an attitude like that when you’re only 6 to 7 dates in. It’s like you got to check her in that behavior, not just be Mr. Nice Guy and put up with it, because you should have put her in her place. Just be like, “don’t fucking talk to me like that. If you want to keep seeing me, you got to be nice. You need to apologize or I’m out. You blew me off two years ago, and I was nice enough to give you another chance. But if this is the way you are, I don’t want anything to do with you.”
Also why put so much weight on texting and being grumpy about it and not meeting in person more, we don’t live very far away.
Because she’s a nut. That’s why the book worked as designed, it brought it out really quickly. And yet you’re trying to ignore that, thinking you’re going to be able to use the book to fix her. I don’t know what happened in her family, but she was not raised right. And, you know, if I’m a betting man, she’s probably on some kind of meds.
Also she liked this video, so I guess texting is the issue, but I never ignored her and when she reached out, I replied normally, never took too long, and was always open to see her or listen about her day if she had anything she wanted to share.
Yeah, this one was just an asshole to you, Dude. You’re being a nice guy. That’s the problem. You’re being too nice. And she knew you were too nice. And that’s why she started walking all over you and treating you like shit. Because probably somebody else came back in the picture that probably prompted her to reach out to you after two years. And so he sent an Instagram video. It looked like it was a Vin Diesel guy or Vin Diesel the actor, probably some AI generated thing, talking about texting. But that video was talking about if a guy likes you, he’ll reach out, he won’t ignore you.

And in that video, the person that he was talking about was ignoring the woman. And the woman kept chasing even though he wasn’t replying. And so that’s not the case here. You know, this guy’s kind of blaming himself for her shitty attitude and the fact that she’s a nut. It’s like you just have to recognize that she’s a nut. You know, you were following the book, and then you got derailed pretty quickly when she demanded you text, and then you started being extra nice. And as soon as you did that, she was a rude bitch to you. So again, she’s loopy. She’s a nut.
If it were me, I’d delete the number and I wouldn’t even reply to any of her messages in the future. Or you could just say, “hey, I don’t think we’re a good fit. I don’t like how you treated me. Your behavior has been pretty nutty, and I like to date normal, healthy girls, not some chick that just goes berserk after a few weeks of dating. So good luck to you. It was nice meeting your parents. At least they were nice to me. Take care.” That’s what I would say. I wouldn’t have anything to do with her.
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