What it means when you want to date a woman you really like, but she says that she wants to be “friends first” before dating and considering a relationship. How to determine if you’ve really got a chance or if friends first really means rejection.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has been bullshitting himself into believing he has a chance to turn his girl friend into a girlfriend, despite her repeatedly telling him that she’s only interested in being friends only and friends first before a relationship is a possibility. He’s totally confused by her intentions and meaning.
“We tend to project our desires, dreams, ideals and hopes on to people who either don’t measure up or who will let us down. We often only see what we want and ignore the fact that what we want does not feel the same way about us. We often bullshit ourselves into believing that things in life are either better than they actually are or worse than they actually are, but very rarely do we tend to see things as they actually are. Most people will do more to avoid pain & disappointment, than they will risk to potentially experience pleasure & reward.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne