How to master the subtle art of letting women chase you, chasing women and causing them to fall and stay in love with you.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss two emails from two different guys. The first email is from a guy who started off strong with a woman he was really into and who was really into him, but lately she has become cold, distant and is pushing him away. He has basically chased her almost completely out of his life and talked her out of liking and falling in love with him.
The second email is a success story of a guy who is was guilty of turning women off the same way, but shares how he turned his life around, and attracted and keeps his current attractive, alpha female girlfriend. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the bodies of their emails.
First Viewer’s Email:
I met a girl in Late December and hooked up with her the first time I met her. She seemed interested, so she texted me back and we’ve hung out, dated, and hooked up a lot during the first 4 weeks we got to know each other. She’d blow up my phone and text me every day. She’d invite me to her work. She’s a bartender.
(In the beginning you were doing everything right, and obviously she was really into you, but like a lot of guys, you talked her out of liking you.)
We had the ‘exclusive’ talk, and she told me she can’t give me a relationship.
(In other words, you brought up being exclusive, which is feminine energy. Remember, feminine energy is bonding, connecting, opening up to receive love, dating and relationship labels, and you’re acting like a woman. The reality is she wasn’t ready, but you were trying to lock her down. Love is allowing, and you’re trying to force things.)
She said she’s still in love with her ex.
(That’s her excuse, but the reality is you’re turning her off by acting like a beta male. You’re seeking validation in her. You were this one guy when she met you, and then when you got focused and fixated on her, and this is your dream woman, you completely changed. Now you’re acting like a different guy, like you can’t go to sleep at night without seeking her validation and knowing she’s still into you or worrying about whether or not she’s going to go back to her ex.
It’s all about emotions. She’s just using the ex as an excuse. And another thing to consider is, somebody who was with an ex for several years, and it was recently that they had a breakup, you will see them going hot and cold. But I can tell from your email that you pursued too much. Instead of the relationship being her idea, you’re trying to lock her down to a commitment.)
Also, she knows I’ve never been in a relationship and told me I’m not ready.
(She’s starting to recognize, this guy doesn’t have any game. He doesn’t know what he’s doing.)
A couple days before Valentine’s Day I asked her out, but she said she was working.
(You’re really into this, and she’s not that into it. You’re treating her like your girlfriend or your wife, and to her you’re just a guy that she’s been kind of occasionally hooking up with and fucking. Obviously, she’s kind of turned off at this point.)
I got really desperate, and on Valentine’s Day I asked if I could come into her work and told her I got her something, flowers.
(C’mon man. Have you read the book yet? Read my first book “How To Be A 3% Man,” 10-15 times.)
She said it was going to be really busy, and she was training someone that night, possibly an excuse.
(In other words, she’s like “I don’t really want to see you dude.” And you’re trying to force yourself into her life. You can tell she’s slipping away, so you figure if you give her flowers, she’ll like you more. The flowers are a bribe for sex and a relationship. That’s really weak dude.)
She told me not to take it the wrong way, and it’s not because she didn’t want to see me.
(Translation: it’s because she doesn’t want to see you. That’s the reality. Women don’t want to hurt your feelings. It’s not that they lie, they just don’t think most guys can take it.)
Funny thing is, she went really cold on me at the beginning of February.
(That’s not a surprise at all.)
We hooked up, and I slept at her place on the 31st of January. Ever since then, she isn’t texting, and we barely talk anymore.
What should I do, coach?
(Read my first book, “How To Be A 3% Man,” 10-15 times. You should immerse yourself in that asap. Stop being a lazy-ass, thinking you’re just going to cherry-pick some information from the videos.
Another thing you should do is review “7 Principles To Get An Ex Back,” because this is not working for you bro. You need to get radically focused on your mission and your purpose in life and let this woman be. Let her wonder what happened to you. I wouldn’t call her or text her at all anymore, because you’ve done way too much.)
It feels so weird because we would talk and sext almost every day. After the last time I slept with her, she’s gone really cold.
(You need to stop pursuing her. Dating is like a game of tennis. You hit the ball over the net, then you wait for her to hit it back. And if she doesn’t hit it back, you walk off the court and go play with somebody else.)
Second Viewer’s Email:
I’ve been meaning to shoot you an email, but kept putting it off. I don’t really have a question but rather wanted to say “thank you!”
I’ve been following your work for a year and a half now, and when I found your YouTube videos, I was in the process of opening my business, I was single, and was not having the kind of success with the kind of women that I thought I should be having or that I knew I deserved.
(That’s what started me on this journey in my twenties.)
I was lucky enough to get into a few long term relationships over the years, but was always dumped or cheated on, and I pleaded, begged, etc. for them not to leave. I know, I know, “Bad way to go, dude!” Ha-ha.
(Yep, that’s horrible.)
I had always been the “hopeless romantic,” buying things for women, flowers, gifts, cards, etc., thinking the way to a woman’s heart was through endlessly kissing their ass, even though I knew and felt deep down that this was totally wrong.
(You were using gifts as a bribe for sex. I mean, that’s what they show you to do in all the movies, right? You see the women acting like men and the men acting like little girls. It’s disgusting. But if you do it in real life, you’ll get blown off. It doesn’t work in the real world. It’s a fucking turnoff. That’s why all of the women are like, “Where the hell are all the real men?”)
I was not centered in my masculinity, and I would chase and chase and chase. I subconsciously didn’t feel like I deserved the kind of woman that knocked my socks off, and unfortunately this was portrayed throughout my interactions with whatever woman I had my eye on.
After watching a bunch of your YouTube videos, I bought a copy of your book and read it countless times, as well as purchased the audio version, and I listen to it all the time in my car still to this day.
(This is why you are successful. You read it over and over again. This is why the most successful people in the world are always trying to get better. They’re always looking for an edge. Two things successful entrepreneurs always do is, 1) They innovate, and 2) They’re great at marketing.)
Because of you and doing the work on my part, I now have the confidence and knowledge to succeed with women, and in my business and life, like I never had before.
(Because you’re focused on doing what a man should do, your purpose and mission first and foremost. When you’re focused that way, women are a compliment to your already awesome life.)
I’m currently in a relationship, (she asked me), with a very attractive, independent, alpha female that can’t get enough of me. This woman literally knocks my socks off! I’ve never dated anyone that I connect with on a level like this in my entire life, and she says the same about me.
(Life just seems so much more awesome when your heart is filled with love. It totally changes you forever when you get to experience it for the first time. It totally changes your paradigm and it helps you focus on your mission and your purpose as well, because it builds your confidence.)
It’s literally SO effortless and the sex is AMAZING! I wait for her to contact me, and when she does, I set up our next get together. Whether it’s a quiet evening indoors or an adventure out on the town, I always try to keep her guessing and mix it up.
(A woman who is in love with you will be calling or texting you 2-3 times a day. There’s just no reason to pursue at that point. It’s counter productive. The man pursues in the beginning, but as the woman picks up the ball and runs with it, she takes over because this is innate with all women.
It’s an instinctual thing. When a man has shown his worth through his actions, it makes her feel safe and comfortable to let him lead. She feels she can trust him. She can trust his masculinity.)
We’ve been together for 6 months, and she’s still constantly sending me sweet texts, singing my praises, making sure I don’t go without anything, and always making sure my manly needs are met, aka LOTS of indoor Olympics!
(Women like that are rare. Good job dude.)
I wouldn’t be where I am today without you, Coach! You changed my life! Thank you so much for your book, for all of your hard work, your knowledge, and your insight.
Wishing you all the best that life has to offer!
A Devout Student
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“While it is true that a man is expected to chase and win a woman’s heart, this really only applies to the beginning of a relationship. An alpha male that is centered on his purpose and mission in life seeks a woman to complement his already great and complete life, so they can share their completeness together. Beta males who don’t know any better try to force too many interactions, are impatient, needy and seek a woman’s validation and approval, because deep down they don’t believe they are worthy and deserving of her love. An alpha male knows he is worthy and acts in such a way that it makes a woman feel safe and comfortable enough to submit, follow his lead and later on in the courtship do most of the pursuing, because her natural, innate instinct to bond, connect and open up to receive love kicks in once he has demonstrated through his actions that he is worthy of her heart, trust and love.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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