Have you ever taken the time to write down your grandest goals and dreams? Did you know that most successful people have taken the time to write down their goals? Not only do they have their goals written down, but they review them on a daily basis, and are continually monitoring the results they are getting in order to change their approach and adapt as necessary as life presents its obstacles and challenges. It says in the Bible, “without a vision the people perish”. Every man in order to feel most fully alive and be sexually attractive to women, must have an exciting and compelling vision he is creating for his life based upon goals and dreams that inspire him to take relentless action towards achieving them. As life presents its obstacles and challenges, the alpha male takes them in stride with a sense a humor, and a smile on his face.
Did you know that most people who are unsuccessful have never taken the time to write down their goals and dreams? If you want to be truly happy and fulfilled in life, you must have something that you are striving for. As I talk about in my article “You Must Crave Success“, compelling goals and dreams are dreams that inspire you. The type of dreams and goals that are aligned with your true purpose in life. If they are aligned with your true purpose, they would be so emotionally compelling, that the thought of achieving them brings tears to your eyes and makes your heart feel warm inside.
I started writing down my grandest goals and dreams over 20 years ago! Some things I put on my goals list were achieved in a few years. Other goals took the better part of a decade to achieve. The reason you should write your grandest goals and dreams down is, that is the only way they will become real. You could even have them with you at all times in your smart phone. People who write their goals down and review them every day, are people who review their goals every day because they are actively working on a daily basis taking action to achieve them. People who write their goals down but do not review them every day, usually don’t review them because they are not taking very much, if any, action towards their attainment.
Why do people not chase after their goals and dreams? It’s fear. Fear that they are not enough, or in other words, that they do not have what it takes to succeed. Another fear that keeps people from taking the action they know they need to take, is fear that they will not be loved and accepted by their peers. People also fear success. They fear that if they succeed, they will lose it all; therefore, they do not try at all or never really give the effort it takes to break through and succeed.
Lebron James, the Miami Heat basketball player, and arguably the most gifted and physically talented person to ever play the game, has failed in both of his trips to the NBA finals. Just recently, he tweeted on September 20, 2011: “@KingJames: My Biggest Fear is losing it all!”. Much has been made of Lebron’s disappearance at key moments where his team needed him to step it up. I could spend one hour on the phone with Lebron, and I guarantee you he would never disappear again when he is needed most. He has some limiting beliefs running around in his head (probably that he is not even aware of) that are in conflict with his goals. He therefore is sabotaging his success at key moments because of his irrational fears.
Take some time if you have not done it already, to write down all of your grandest goals and dreams. If you are a man who would like to become more sexually attractive to women, then you must come up with a compelling vision for your life based upon goals and dreams that inspire you. If you hate your job or career and believe that getting the perfect girl will make you happy and solve all of your problems, you are mistaken. A woman is going to find you most attractive when your daily life is filled with action and activities that excite and inspire you. So if your life does not currently excite or inspire you, get busy discovering what does, and while you’re at it, you should invest in yourself, and book a one hour phone coaching session with me personally by clicking here. Aren’t you worth it?
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“People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals. That is, goals that do not inspire them.”-Tony Robbins