Why 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back Works

Why 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back works to get her back & wanting you romantically.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who was always getting rejected, ghosted and blown off by women he really liked due to being very clingy and needy. He shares a success story several years in the making with a woman who friend-zoned him and tried keeping him there, but he was a good student and eventually she seduced him.

My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

In this email, I got a success story that was several years in the making with this particular woman this guy dated, and this was before he found my work. He said his main problem in the past, he tended to be very clingy, very needy, chased the women away, got friend-zoned.

So this particular woman reached out after they hadn’t seen each other, I think, close to a year, yet she was still interested in being friends. Then he got busy, he got focused on his mission and purpose, started applying what was in the book, became familiar what was in 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back, and basically at the end of it, you’ll see, because he’s like putting her off. He does such a good job here that she ends up seducing him. So going from platonic feelings to her being all handsy and being all over him and seducing him.

So it’s a good success story for those of you that got dumped or you were dating a girl you really liked and hoped it to turn into something more, but you turned her off because you displayed too much unmasculine and unattractive behavior.

Viewer Email:

Dear Coach Corey,

I hope you are well.

I just wanted to send an email success story. I have been an avid student and follower of your work for many years now. In the past I was guilty of clinging on to relationships and being very needy, but I found your work and many years later I feel it’s working out for me.

Well, as Confucius said, “Success depends upon prior preparation and without said preparation there is sure to be failure.”

What I never really had the opportunity to apply was your 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back, because most of the time I had simply moved on and not looked back.

Well, that’s what you’re supposed to do. You get to a place and you want sex and romance, she wants platonic friendship, she wants you as her Harry Honda while she goes and hooks up with Chad Thundercock, well that’s just not the way things should go. So when a woman offers you blue balls and friendship, you walk away and you never look back because you got up from the negotiating table, a deal is not possible, you tell her to get in touch if she ever changes her mind, and then you move on with your life. Unless she reaches out, you’ll never, ever speak again as long as you live. That’s what no-contact means. It means the negotiations are over.

Kind of like with Russia and Ukraine. Trump did everything he could. It’s pretty clear that Putin doesn’t really want a cease fire because, as Trump said, he thinks he’s winning. So the fighting continues. So you can’t negotiate a deal unless all parties are ready, willing, able and open to making a deal. It’s the same thing when it comes to this. If she says, “Hey, how about some friendship and blue balls?” You’re like, “No, thanks.” You’re never going to entertain that. No self-respecting, high value man is going to entertain that. He’s just not.

The few times that exes had reached out, even ones who dumped me, I was never interested and was moving forward with my career and business.

Many years ago, I was dumped by someone called Jessica – I’d been very needy and clingy and so she left. This is when I began to apply your teachings. She offered friendship which I politely declined and moved on. I’ve dated several women since then. She reached out a year ago and we met for coffee (Yeah I know, but I was still a beginner at this point and had not really internalized the material).

So normally, because this is what women try to do and they try to keep you in friend-zone, is they try to get you when you invite them over to make dinner at your place, because when you invite a woman over to make dinner at your place, sex and romance are on the table. She knows that you know that. You don’t have to talk about it. It’s just obvious, but if she’s really trying to keep you in friend-zone, she’s going to try to get you to go to lunch, meet for coffee, meet on neutral ground, do a group date with a bunch of people you know, that kind of thing. That’s why you’re just not going to entertain that, because if she fucked it up, if she walked away, she’s got to fix it, and you told her only to get in touch if she was interested in sex and romance.

So she’s reaching out, you assume that’s why she’s reaching out, but if you acted like a bitch in the past, she’s going to try to see if you’ll cave to doing platonic things. That’s why the farthest distance that you’re willing to travel is to wherever you are in your house, to go to your front door, to let her in when she comes over to make dinner. Other than that, you’re not meeting her out and you’re not picking her up, but if she comes over three dates in a row where she initiates contact and you just simply invite her over to make dinner, s long as you hang out, you have fun and you hook up all three times in a row, then you can meet her out and pick her up, but you still got to let her do all the calling, texting and pursuing. Then you just set the dates because again, you’re entertaining, potentially giving her another chance. You’re not trying to get another chance with her. You’re open to her changing your mind as to why you should give her another chance. Completely different mindset shift.

As a man, you got to be the leader. That’s the position the man needs to take because otherwise, anytime you agree to do what she wants, you get yourself stuck in friend-zone. So this is what this guy did. He went to meet for coffee and he got nowhere. So what did she say while she’s there having coffee?

She said she wanted us to be friends. In this instance, I respectfully declined the friendship and told her I still desired her romantically, and that she should reach out if she ever changed her mind. I put it behind me and moved forward – facing many challenges in my business as magician. I picked myself up and moved forward getting engagements all over the world, working with great people and really committing to my passion. 

Once in a while she would reach out – On my birthday and on Thanksgiving with romantic messages saying how she was glad we reconnected and that she hoped our paths would cross again. I would politely reply but not really engage – Since I knew she was only interested in friendship and pursuing her at the expense of my purpose wouldn’t serve me.

Plus, it sounds like for the most part, he wasn’t even around. He was out of the country and he wasn’t living there anymore.

One year later, my career found me in our old home town where she was also visiting at the same time. She reached out and asked to meet for coffee. “Hey… I heard you will be in town. Would you like to meet for coffee? If you’re too busy or not interested, I understand.”

Notice what she’s doing. Just the same simple test. “Will he do the friendship thing, or will he insist on a romantic thing?”

I actually was too busy to see her at the time since I was working long hours in the studio and so I replied, “Great to hear from you, but I’ll be so busy I won’t be able to this time.” She replied, “OK, enjoy your time here.” 

Surprise, surprise, she showed up alone at one of my shows in town, chatted to some of my friends and then left.

See how that works? It’s like the little girl running down to the ocean as the waters receding to stick your toe in. Then another wave comes up and she runs back up. It’s like she’s testing the waters, showing up. So of course, you’re going to hear that she was there, she talks to your friends, but then she leaves before you have a chance to interact with her, because she’s hoping you’ll reach out and pursue her.

So she comes to your event like that and doesn’t come up to you personally? As far as you’re concerned, you don’t do anything with that. You’re never going to reach out. You’re never going to pursue, because if she really wanted to talk to you, she would have come over and talk to you, but instead it’s like a game to her. Can she get you to re-engage, pursue and chase again? She should be earning another chance with you, not the other way around. Plus, he’s busy.

She looked amazing. When my work was done, I resumed the text conversation as follows:

“Hey, you caught me at a busy time. Why don’t you grab a bottle of wine and come over? We’ll cook dinner. It’ll be great to see you.” She replied, “Sounds like a good time,” and we agreed for her to come over on Monday.

So again, remember she shows up offering coffee. He says, “I’m too busy.” She shows up at his event and leaves. I guess they were texting in between that, so maybe she texted him and then left, but he doesn’t really go into detail. The bottom line is, she’s showing up. She’s pursuing him. He’s not reaching out to her. He’s not chasing her. She’s coming on to him.

She rolled up looking super hot in a summer dress and we walked in the countryside at sunset then cooked dinner, then sat outside looking at the stars, then another walk in moonlight. This was like three or four dates in one and we ended up on the couch. She said, “Last time we talked you said you didn’t just want to be friends. To me you are more than a friend.”

So she’s hinting. She’s dropping hints, saying, “Hey, I’m not here just to be your buddy or your pal.” He’s just kind of hanging back. He’s letting her initiate. He’s letting her touch first, that kind of thing. He’s following what’s in the book. This is what good students do. They actually apply what I teach, and of course, they get good results. He didn’t cherry-pick.

She then grabbed me and we started making out. She then said, “Are we gonna do this or what?” And we retreated to the bedroom.

Needless to say, it was a great evening, and I did nothing but follow your book – Which mainly involved doing nothing and letting her do all the work. I basically allowed her to seduce me.

Bob

Because it was her idea. Women like a guy that’s a challenge. So she came back, and what was really most attractive about him? His indifference. His inaction was attractive because in the past, he was needy and clingy, chased her out of his life, and now it’s almost like he doesn’t even really care to be around her, even though when she reaches out, he’s happy to hear from her, he facilitates the get together, but coffee dates and other bullshit like that, he’s just not going to entertain. So she comes over because the sexual anticipation built in her, it was frustrating her that he wasn’t chasing and pursuing. So she finally threw in the towel and came over and seduced him because he acted like a man consistently. Attraction is not a choice. She always liked him, but by acting like a beta so much he turned her off, but there was still interest because he walked away, he never looked back and there was still some sliver of interest, and over time it crept back up on her and look what happened.

This is exactly what I talked about in the book, my girlfriend that had the daughter, the same kind of stuff I was going through with her. Then over the last 25 years, I perfected 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back because I perfected it with myself and the women I was struggling with back in the day, and having been doing this for over 20 years now at this point, professionally, tens of thousands of people I’ve done phone sessions with over the past 20 something years and countless emails and dudes all over the world in every cultural, spiritual background, religious background applying it, it’s perfected. It’s going to give you the best possible chance to succeed and get the girl back that you may have screwed up with or chased her out of your life.

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