Why Women Think Men Who Show Their Emotions Are Weak & Unattractive

The harsh reality of why women think men who show their emotions are weak and unattractive.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who didn’t follow instructions. He read 3% Man, twice before meeting his now ex-girlfriend of almost 2 years, and only once more after they met. He’s now reading it for the 4th time, but he got lazy and complacent and stopped dating and courting her properly. He became overly emotional and adopted the female role in their relationship and made her the man. He needed constant reassurance, attention and validation from her. He saw the signs she was losing interest, but his over-inflated ego ignored them until it was too late. He wants her back and has the mindset that he needs to prove himself to her to get her attention. He has many questions and asks what he should do now to get her back. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my video coaching newsletter. And the topic of today’s newsletter is going to be, Why Women Think Men Who Show Their Emotions Are Weak & Unattractive.

Well, you hear a lot in modern society, I guess if you will. You hear it on TV. Even women in general think, “Oh, talk about your emotions. Talk about your feelings. You have to be more emotional. You’ve got to open up.” And the reality is that’s feminine energy. And so, when women do this, in a well meaning, and well intentioned way, they’re basically telling men to act like girls, to act like women.

And so, I got an email here from a guy who basically got dumped, because, part of the problem obviously didn’t read The Book. He says he read this twice before he met his now girl ex-girlfriend of almost two years. And then one time right after they met. And then other than that, he hasn’t gotten involved in the work at all. And it wasn’t until he got dumped that he went back and looked through it and he was like, ah, it was so obvious.

And he kept doing things that turned her off. And he was in a state of fear. And what he says, basically, his ego wouldn’t allow him to admit that he was doing and saying things that were turning her off, even though he could see it, he ignored reality. And as Ayn Rand would say, “You can ignore reality, but you can’t ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.” Because masculinity is calm.

And he was anything but calm. You’re supposed to be more masculine than the woman. And when you act more feminine, it ruins the sexual polarity. It turns her off. And that works not only for heterosexual relationships, but gay and lesbian relationships as well. You’ve got to have the polarity. It’s the differences that attract us to one another. When we become too alike; just like there’s a Verizon commercial that’s running now.

And I talked about this in a video newsletter that I did last last week. And you have this, very effeminate, dorky, insecure, overly emotional guy who’s freaking out about his phone bill. And then in walks his beautiful but masculine and very stoic wife, who, of course, has all the answers because she’s the man of the household.

And even both his daughter and his son have more masculinity than he does. And he’s having an emotional meltdown over the phone bill. And that’s just a microcosm of what you see in TV and movies today.

And if you’re a little child, especially if you don’t have a good relationship with your parents, or you don’t have a good example at home, and you grow up and you see commercials like this, you see TV shows like this, you see movies like this where men are just overly emotional, irrational, insecure girls, basically, you’re going to identify with that. You you’re going to model whatever you see most.

Whatever you do, often you do best. Whatever you observe, you participate in. And without realizing it, the women that are watching the women act very masculine and stoic, will tend to over time, become more like that. And the men will tend to act more like the dude that’s acting like a total fucking bitch in the commercial.

And then when you get together in the real world, where attraction is innate (in all of us because the creator designed us this way), you cannot go against biology as much as you may want to, or you may have your ideology, women respond to what they respond to.

And when you behave in a way that is not masculine, they’re going to lose interest, and they’re going to lose respect for you. And in this case, this guy got dumped. But it’s just a good example of what not to do. And as I go through it, I’ll point out why it turns the woman off. Because unless you’ve been taught this stuff, unless you’ve read a book like mine, you’re just simply not going to know these things. It’s like being in a prison, but not even know that you were born into a prison, in essence.

Viewer’s Email:

Hey Corey!

My girlfriend broke up with me after a year and half together. I have read your book 3 times and watched lots of your videos. Twice before the relationship and once after. Right now on my 4th read.

So two years later after the fact. And he admits after he’s gone through, he points out everything that he did wrong that turned her off. And that’s good, because you can’t solve problems unless you can talk openly and honestly about them. And as the late, great Don Shula said, “Strong men blame themselves, weak men blame others.”

The weak bitches like the overly insecure dude in the Verizon commercial. There’s lots of guys in the red pill community that basically act like that. They’re mad. They’re upset. They’re pissed off that women don’t like them. “Modern women, this, modern women, that.” Everything is a woman’s fault. It’s never their fault.

And they get emotionally very upset when I bring this up in the videos, because the one main book that most of those dudes all follow, and it’s their Bible, is a book written by a dude who’s mediocre. He’s a dork. He never got the kind of woman that he felt he deserved. He settled. And he’s pissed off about it. He felt he deserved a hot chick and the great life, and he didn’t get either. And for many decades he’s been in a boring marriage.

And so, that whole worldview, everything that permeates his work, is of a frustrated dude that never got the kind of woman that he felt he deserved. It’s in everything that he teaches. That’s the mindset. That’s the perspective, that’s the reality filter that he’s pushing. And anybody that adopts it, adopts the same butt-hurt type of philosophy. That’s why these guys are so mad and so angry.

Because deep down, they’re afraid. We have two primary fears as human beings. Fear that we’re not enough. In other words, we don’t have what it takes. And fear that we won’t be loved. And when you’re driven by that, you’re driven by your fears, your reality basically becomes everything that you fear happening. Because you make it happen.

And so, this guy got emotionally hijacked by his fears, and he literally chased this girl out of his life, and completely went from acting like a man in the beginning of the relationship, to acting like a woman. And she left him. This is as predictable as the sun coming up in the East and setting in the West. This is biology. You can come up with all the garbage and the theories that you want about women, but at the end of the day, if you adopt the philosophy that is pretty common in the red pill community, you’re adopting loser think.

You’re adopting the mindset of a guy who never had the life that he felt he deserved, never got the chick that he deserved, and he’s really fucking pissed off and frustrated about it. And so, when people adopt his philosophy, they become just like him, pissed off and frustrated and angry at women. And you can see it in the podcast. These guys are all hostile towards women.

It’s like, why would you want to have a show and have a bunch of girls on that do Only fans, are strippers. And the type of women that, quite frankly, are in a minority of the population. And present to your whole audience, like, “Oh yeah, this is modern women. This is what’s out there.” Whatever you believe. As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.

And if you’re pissed off and you’re frustrated and you felt like you never got the kind of girl that you deserved, and you adopt that kind of philosophy, you’re stuck in it. You can’t get out of it. You’re bitter, you’re angry, and you’re not getting the success that you want.

Whereas, like Don Shula said, “Strong men blame themselves.” Everything that’s in your life. You invited the girl into your life. You’re the one that decided to stick your dick in her. You’re the one who decided to put a ring on her finger. You’re the one who decided to get married in a blue state. That was your choice. That was your best thinking. You can’t blame the woman for that.

You chose to marry her. You can’t fix it unless you can talk openly and honestly about it. And as long as you’re going to blame other people, or modern society or modern women. You ain’t fixing shit and you’re going to continue to be miserable. That’s reality. I’m sure they’ll be a lot of dudes crying in the comments, but. That’s okay. I’m used to it. Maybe at some point they’ll grow up.

But what’s good about this guy is he accepts it. He accepts what he did wrong, and that’s why he’ll be able to fix it. Even though he’s dealing with the sting of a breakup and getting dumped. Because, again, he went against biological reality. And it’s like, back to the propaganda in the program, like the Verizon commercial.

It’s like, whatever you do, often, you do best. Whatever you observe, you participate in. And so, when you stop reading My Book, and stop trying to master this stuff, and then you get soft, and you get into a relationship for about a year and a half, two years. And you’re constantly consuming every fucking day of your life TV commercials like that, TV shows like that, movies like that. Where women act like men, and men act like women.

You’re going to naturally feel that that’s the way to operate. Even though it’s creating chaos in your personal life, and your life in general. Because if your personal life is a mess, it really spills over into every other area of your life. So, back to our regularly scheduled email. I hope you guys enjoyed that diatribe.

In the start, I got my dream girl because I was following your work and in the beginning, I expressed my feelings towards her, after which she said she was not sure if she wanted to be with me as partners. 

(But as friends.)

So, you could tell he obviously wasn’t really doing a good job of applying what was in The Book. I mean, granted, he went through it twice. So if you only memorize or remember 7 to 8% of what you go through, and you’ve been through it twice. What does he have, 14% of the book? Best case 15% of the book, 16% committed to memory? And then he read it one more time, gives him another 7% or 8%, maybe 20%. You’ll have some attainable success, but you want sustainable success.

And so, he gets overly emotional, and talks about his feelings. Because what does every girl say to you, for you guys, pretty much most dudes have done this. Talk to your female friends, or your female relatives about a girl that’s things aren’t going well with. What do they all say? “Tell her how you feel. Tell her how much you like her, and how important she is to you.”

Well, women don’t care what a good dude you are, or how nice you are. They care about how they feel about you. And the way he was making her feel in the beginning was turning her off, and she tried to friend zone him. Tried to say, “Ehh, I’m not sure.” Because he was squishy. He wasn’t consistently masculine, and that was something he was supposed to be overcoming. And that’s why I say read The Book 10 to 15 times. But he stopped as soon as he started getting laid.

Because he was like, “Ah”, he’s lazy. Most people are lazy. That’s just the way it is. This is January, right? What does everybody do? “New year’s resolutions. I’m going to lose weight. I’m going to join the gym.” The gym is busy for about three weeks. And then after that, most, what 80% of those people that join, they don’t come back. They keep paying their dues, but eventually they cancel, and they don’t stick with it. And then they just get bigger and bigger and bigger.

That’s the way it is. Most people major and minor things. It’s not easy staying committed to this. Nobody really wants to read a book 10 to 15 times and do all these things that you have to do to be an attractive man. But, you got to realize you’re constantly bombarded by propaganda, even listening to commercials. You’re being propagandized by an inaccurate archetype.

And if you’re not consuming things that go against the archetype and teach you truth, eventually the false reality is going to become your reality, and it’s going to just totally screw up your life and make you miserable.

But it’s much easier to say, “Hey, it’s modern women. All modern women suck.” Because then ,”It’s not your fault. There’s nothing to do. There’s no work to do. You’re just awesome. And it’s just, Women suck.”

Again, that’s the main red pill guru that wrote the book, that’s his whole perspective. It’s not his fault that he’s a loser. It’s not his fault that he’s a fucking dork. It’s not his fault. All you have to do is look at the dude on podcasts around women. He’s weird and he’s awkward. He’s not comfortable. He has no game. He has no charisma at all. Zero.

He’s been on countless podcasts. He’s a fucking douche. And he gets roasted. But if you want to follow a guy like that. You shouldn’t be mad. Because again, you’re making the choice to participate in that kind of content that’s not really doing anything to move your life forward, other than to spin you into an endless circle of anger, and being pissed off at women because that’s where he lives. That’s his life.

He doesn’t seem to be wanting to do anything to fix it. He just wants to bitch about it and complain about it, blame it on modern women, and keep deflecting. And disassociating himself from the fact that he’s a mediocre dude. That’s life.

So, she didn’t feel like she wanted to be with him as partners because again, he’s squishy. He’s acting like a girl, not acting like a man, and letting her slowly come to him. Because again, he’s started to overcome the propaganda. Read the book twice. Three times. But over time, you’ll see, he went right back to where he was.

I followed your advice and communicated to her that I was not looking for a friendship and told her to contact me if she changed her mind, which worked.

Yeah, because he’s acting soft and she’s saying, “This dude’s a bitch. I can walk all over him. Let’s just be friends. I’m not really feeling it.” He says, “Hey, I’m not interested in platonic friendship. Call me if you change your mind.”

And he walked away. Because most guys that behave that way, won’t stop behaving that way. But he did, so it interrupted the pattern. He was willing to do something that was very masculine, which is, “Yeah, I’m not interested in blue balls. No thank you. Call me if you change your mind.”

We had the most beautiful relationship for the first year, where both of us were giving to the relationship and not looking at what we were receiving. 

He says, After a year. This is where he says, “I fucked up. It’s my fault. I’m the man. I’m the leader. I’m the one with the penis. It’s my job to make this shit happen.”

After a year I got complacent, lost my purpose, and stopped courting her.

You don’t date and court your wife, or girlfriend, eventually some other guy will. That’s just a fact of life. Women want to be in a love story. That’s a fact of life. It’s biology.

I was acting like the woman in the relationship.

Remember the Verizon commercial.

Seeking validation and constant reassurance of her feelings.

You just imagine that guy in that commercial. He’s got a mustache. It’s very effeminate. He’s probably gay. He sounds gay. Not there’s anything wrong with that. But if you’re going to present an image of a heterosexual man, present us one that’s accurate to nature. Because that kind of dude, women are not going to find him attractive. Basically stop dating her and was weak overall.

After a year I got complacent, lost my purpose, and stopped courting her. I was acting like the woman in the relationship, seeking validation and constant reassurance of her feelings.

In other words, he’s constantly trying to find out where he stands with her. “Do you still like me? Do you still care?” Totally driven by fear. Remember, fear that we won’t be loved, is one of our two primary fears.

And since he’s driven by fear, he constantly needs reassurance that he’s loved. Because when he sees her interest drop, he’s like, “Do you still love me? Oh, good. Mommy gave me an attaboy today.”

I basically stopped dating her and was weak overall. There were signs which I did not know how to read and mistook them for her insulting me, because of my insecurities.

Again, this is what happens when you don’t read The Book enough and you’re constantly consuming propaganda, whether you want to or not. If you’re interacting with media. You’re getting propagandized. You’re being taught to act like a bitch, if you’re a man. And if you’re a woman, you’re being taught to act like a dude.

She had told me on multiple occasions that showing my emotions too much was weak and unattractive.

Yeah, you’re supposed to be more masculine than she is. Here you have yet another woman confirming what’s innate. Red pill theories. Doesn’t matter. This is innate. Innate. Innate.

All the signs were there, I was just too blind to see them. “Women who like you, make it easy for you.”

Yep.

After ignoring all the signs of my relationship going in the wrong direction. She finally had enough and said she needed some time for herself and to figure out who she was.

In other words, she’s felt like she’s changing who she is, so her boyfriend doesn’t get upset and have a meltdown. And so, she’s no longer acting like a natural woman. She’s acting like a man because he made her the man, which he admits to.

It doesn’t feel natural to her. And of course, if it doesn’t feel natural, what is the instinct going to tell us? Get the fuck out of there. This is not modern women. This is called biology. This is innate.

After that I was in a complete hole, but my brother recommended seeking advice from your books and videos.

Sounds like a good brother.

In hindsight I know exactly everything that made her attraction towards me go down and how I pushed her away. I followed your 7 principles on how to get an ex back.

That’s an Article and Video I did 10-12 years ago at this point.

After communicating that I wanted to continue seeing her and work things out, she had already made her mind up by that point.

That’s why the strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it. It takes two people to make a relationship work, and she’s saying, “I’m not going to change. I’m not going to do anything to make it work. I’m out.”

She left when her feelings were pretty much gone. And so, at that point, you don’t keep chasing, you don’t beg, you don’t plead. You’re just like, hey, she doesn’t want to play in the sandbox with you anymore. Okay, well go play in the sandbox with somebody else.

I am now in no contact after telling her, I do not want to be just platonic, and for her to contact me if she changes her mind. She ended things saying, “I just need this time for myself. I really appreciate you and everything you have done for me. I will always care about you and if it’s meant to be, and we both want it, maybe we’ll meet again.”

Oh, that just sounds so nice. I think I’m going to barf. But, this could be a woman in Saudi Arabia saying the same fucking thing. It doesn’t matter where you are, or what your cultural and religious background is. If you act like a bitch, women will treat you like a bitch. Doesn’t matter what your red pill guru says. You can’t go against biology.

I know I should not contact her and that it should be her idea if she wants to contact me, but I want to let her know I can be the man,

“Mommy, I can do it. I can be the man.”

she fell in love with and be a real man again.

Dude, that is the exact opposite mindset. That’s the mindset of the sniveling little bitch of a man who’s in the Verizon commercial. You’re not going to get any pussy with that mindset. That is weak ass, inferior thinking. Men, real men, don’t have the idea, “Oh, I’m going to prove myself to her.”

It’s like, no, you need to act like a man consistently. Because what you showed her is you were undisciplined. You quit. You quit reading The Book after two times. As soon as you started getting your dick wet, you’re like, “Pfft. I don’t need to read this.” And then you suffer the consequences. And here you are. “Oh, I got to prove myself to her.”

Like, no, you’re not. You try proving yourself to her. This is just your mentality going, “Oh, I have to continue chasing. Mommy. Mommy, give me an attaboy.” This is typically what happens when you didn’t get enough strokes as a kid. You didn’t hear enough “I love you’s”, you didn’t get enough hugs from Mom and Dad.

So you have to understand how that’s going to affect your thinking. Remember two fears. Fear that we’re not enough. Fear that we won’t be loved. And what you fear, you attract. And what you look at disappears. And this guy kept moving towards the things that he was scared of. Instead of just letting her be.

It has been two weeks since the break-up and I have started taking care of myself, (going to the gym, focusing on my studies, connecting with friends again.)

Yeah, this is something that needs to be a permanent change, not just change for a little bit. Like he basically did this in the beginning. He changed for a few months, got into a relationship, but he didn’t really take the time to own it, and master the material, because he’s fucking lazy. And he got away from it, never went back to it, and he didn’t pick The Book back up again until he was in ultimate pain.

The pain of the breakup, the pain of getting friend zoned. The pain of his girlfriend blowing him off. Even though, as he said he saw it, he recognized that it was happening, but he didn’t want to admit it to himself. He didn’t want to take responsibility at the time. “It’s not my fault. I didn’t do anything wrong. It’s her fault.” It’s so easy to blame other people. It’s so easy to blame women.

Only a bitch is going to blame modern women. When I see dudes on podcasts bitching about modern women, it’s like, that dude’s a bitch. That’s a guy that ain’t getting laid enough, ain’t had a good enough quality woman that stuck around to make him feel loved. He’s never truly had a woman totally head over heels in love with him.

Real men don’t sit around crying on the internet about women that dick them over. I mean, that’s just the absolute most pathetic thing a man can do. Create a YouTube channel to bitch about women. What the fuck. That’s an example of masculinity I’m supposed to follow and admire and look up to? Are you fucking kidding me?

I’ve started taking care of myself, (going to the gym, focusing on my studies, connecting with friends again.) But I feel like she was the one for me.

Well, rejection breeds obsession, remember that.

And it’s difficult to leave behind this relationship. 

Well, that was your whole problem. You couldn’t let go of it. You couldn’t give her space. You couldn’t let her come to you. You acted like the sniveling little weasel in the Verizon commercial. That’s pathetic. It’s disgusting. It’s not cute. It’s not in any way, shape or form attractive. You look like a bitch. You act like a bitch. You get treated like a bitch. Simple as that. So, he had a couple of other questions that he added to his first email.

Follow up:

I have a question about removing pictures from social media. 

Don’t do anything. Just leave them there. Who cares? Keep adding ones. And then she could just be further on down the list.

She has multiple pictures of me still on her Instagram and I have one of us together on my page.

So what? Leave it alone. Don’t touch it. Don’t do anything.

Should I be the one to remove the picture from my page, or wait for her to either remove them or contact me again?

Bob

Don’t do anything. Because again, everything is, “How do I get her attention? How do I get her attention? How do I get her to pay attention to me? How do I prove to her that I’ve changed?” Like be consistent. Be disciplined. Don’t put on an act for a few weeks or a few months like you did in the beginning to get her.

Because if you don’t really take it serious to learn this stuff and commit to it, you’ll go right back to it. I’ve done countless emails over the years, of guys that don’t do that. Guys that do well, follow instructions, guys that don’t, they act like a bitch. It’s the way it is. You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink. Everything’s laid out for you, dude, your solutions are in The Book.

You’ve got to master this. You can’t just half-ass it. It’s not going to work. You got attainable success. But you couldn’t sustain it because you didn’t listen to me. That’s the harsh reality. And for those you guys, “Oh, he only cares about making money.” You can read The Book for FREE on My Website. You don’t have to pay me anything. Put your name and your email, in the email sign up box, at www.UnderstandingRelationships.Com. And as soon as you hit Subscribe, “poof”, it’ll open up right for you, and you can start reading.

And then, once you see that what I teach actually works, and like the other dunces on the internet, once you see it works, then you can buy an Audiobook, Paperback or Hardcover copy. Nobody else does that. Well, why is that? Because they don’t have solutions that they’re confident enough in, to give their stuff away, and trust that the people are going to come back to them, and pay them later on. And that should tell you everything about what they’re teaching.

One last thing I want to say this guy. The other thing is 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back. It’s all laid out. Just follow that script. It’s simple. And you start meeting and dating other women, and get yourself some choices. This obsessing on, “Oh, she’s the one.” You didn’t care to fix things until you got dumped. And you should really take some time to reflect on that.

Why didn’t I do what I knew I needed to do? Why did I wait until it got so fucking bad, and then I was dumped, to actually go, “okay, I fucked up. I got to fix this?” You’re the guy. Nobody’s coming to save you. Your red pill guru ain’t going to save you. You got to save yourself, man. You’ve got to be worth saving.

You want to be a high value man? Become the kind of man that women will seek out and find. That’s the thing, you don’t have to go to another country. Again, “Ah, you got to go to another country.” It’s like, that’s ridiculous. That’s weak, loser ass thinking.

Women are the same everywhere. You act like a bitch, they’re going to treat you like a bitch. And you see guys, they go and they get a foreign bride and they come back, two, three years later, she’s dumping him. She got her citizenship. Now she’s taking half his shit. Because he acted like a bitch. This is an eight. You can’t fight biology.

So, if you’ve got a question or a challenge and you’d like to get my help, go to UnderstandingRelationships.com, click the Products tab at the top of your screen and book a coaching session with yours truly. Until next time, I will talk to you soon.