Women are playful and they like to tease men in a good-natured way to see what he’s made of. This is especially true if she grew up in a family and had brothers. Boys and girls in healthy families will always be playful and tease one another. When these women grow up, they want a man who is just as much fun as her brothers are. Usually, it’s just good natured fun.
Men that feel insecure about themselves usually will get butt-hurt when a woman or someone else makes fun of their appearance. The best way to handle this is to tease her back and be playful. Love is fun. It’s not serious. So don’t take yourself or your appearance too damn seriously.
If you can get to a place where you don’t care what other people think about you, then your thinning hair, bulging gut, big nose, etc. won’t bother her as long as it doesn’t bother you.
The following is an e-mail I got from a reader who gets very uptight and upset when women makes fun of his thinning hair. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
One of my breakup or disengaging rules is when a woman makes fun or comments about my thinning hair (that is just plain silly. You need to stop giving a damn what other people think about you. Women just want to have fun and be playful with you. Usually, when a woman makes fun of your thinning hair line, she is doing it because she likes you! She’s simply trying to engage you in playful banter to see what you are made of. If you get angry or upset or feel insecure about it, she will see you as uptight and not a good catch). I’m sensitive about the topic, but it looks alright as I keep it well groomed and I have a very good sense of style.
In all, I’m confident about my image but often second guess it as a result of my hair line :/ still I’m not about to shave my head (I like a shaved head. Women think my facial hair and shaved head is sexy. No matter your hairstyle, just wear it with confidence. If you do a really bad comb-over, women will know you are insecure about your hair and may often perceive you as weak. Confident alpha-males don’t give a shit) to satisfy a woman who I think is immature. I’m just looking for a woman who loves me for who I am from the inside-out (if you don’t care about your thinning hair, she won’t either). I’m a successful guy and I have a future this image of happiness.
P.S. Thanks for your recent advice, it was tough to disconnect but the right decision.
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