In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss two different email success stories from a guy in his fifties and another in his twenties who detail how my book, “How To Be A 3% Man” helped them to recover from their breakups and find love again. The guy in his fifties had been through two divorces and was in a state of depression when he found me on the Internet. His son shares some details of how he turned his life around.
The second email success story is from a young guy in his early twenties who shares how he met his current girlfriend after getting dumped by his high school sweetheart and got serious about his purpose and finishing medical school after implementing what my books teach. Two great success stories to inspire you to take action, so you can create the life and lifestyle you’ve always dreamed of. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the bodies of their emails.
First viewer’s email:
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My dad is in his late 50s and had previously been through 2 divorces. He had gone into a depression for about 3 years as he could not find anyone else to be in a relationship with.
After three years, he didn’t find somebody new, and he was thinking it’s fucking over for me. I’m never going to find anybody else. If you lost a job, you’re looking for a job, you keep getting turned down and things aren’t going anywhere, you’re going to think, is that it? Is no one going to hire me? The same thing happens when it comes to dating. Even though you may be dating and meeting a lot of women, it’s just not clicking with anybody, and after awhile, those thoughts are going to creep into your mind.
You’ve got to find a way to appreciate and enjoy your life. The old saying goes, it’s always darkest before sunrise, and here’s a guy three years after his second divorce, he’s in his fifties and probably thinking, “I’m getting fucking old. I’m not as good looking as I was when I was younger. Women aren’t looking at me as much or paying as much attention. The online dating isn’t working like it did ten years ago.” Those thoughts are going to creep in.
He kept having extremely bad luck when it came to women. He would never go out and rarely smiled. He was very unhappy and lonely.
That’s the thing that’s very important. If you’re single and you want to meet somebody, you’re not going to meet them sitting at home. Yeah, you can use dating apps, but the reality is you’ll be more effective with dating apps if you’re also meeting women out in person.
I personally have always preferred meeting women out in person. That fucking swiping left and right shit, sending messages, talking on the phone and meeting for dates is a lot of fucking work versus just meeting a woman in person, clicking with her and getting her fucking number after a couple of minutes. Then you can have a conversation for a little while, and then meet for a date. You know right away. If you know what’s in my book “How To Be A 3% Man,” you can see it in her eyes and you can tell if she’s into you or not. From a time perspective, it’s just a lot more efficient way to spend your time, and it’s better for your self-esteem and your emotional and mental health to be out there interacting with other human beings.
If you’re sitting home by yourself, you’re just you and your thoughts. This guy after three years is just sitting at home, he’s not going out, he’s kind of giving up, and it’s not going anywhere for him. Just getting out and interacting with other human beings or hanging out with a friend or family member, or maybe a couple who has a good marriage or relationship that you admire, just hanging out with them and watching them interact, that vibe or energy will help you feel more confident. When you’re interacting with other human beings, it makes you feel better. We all need other people in our lives. So get the fuck off your ass, get out of your house, and get out there and participate in the world.
If you don’t like the world you’re in, like I talk about in my video newsletter “How To Meet More High Quality Women,” change your surroundings. If you’re single and you’re living in an area with married couples or people who have families, move to a place in a downtown area. Go some place where you can walk out your door and just meet people at random. That’s going to make you feel better about yourself and your life. You’re going to smile more, you’re going to be happier, and you’re going to be more inclined to go to the gym, to hang out with your friends, to interact with other people, and to ask women out when you meet them. It’s not going to get better sitting at home. Get out there and fucking participate in the world.
He spent thousands on dating coaching and websites, including weight loss pills and programs, but he is unfortunately the picky type, so nothing ever worked and on a daily basis. He would vent to me about how lonely he was and how he will “die alone.”
So his beliefs were becoming his reality.
It made me extremely sad, and I hated to see him like that, because I know him as a very loving, funny person.
He had no hope. It’s hard to be happy when you have no hope. That’s why I said, just getting out and mingling with other people will give you hope. It will make you feel better. Even if you don’t meet anybody, that’s okay. At least you interact with other human beings. It will make you feel better. Maybe you’ll meet somebody the next day, the next month or maybe it’s three years from now. Maybe there’s a lot of shit you need to do. Maybe there’s a lot of things in your life you’re working on. If you take better care of yourself and you’re healthier, you’re going to live longer anyway, so you’re going to give yourself more time.
Especially since he is such a good person, I felt he deserved to be happy.
We all do. There’s somebody for everybody. That’s reality. The way I look at the world, there’s more than just one person for you. There’s more than just one soulmate for you. There’s lots of people you can meet and fall in love with over the course of your life.
His spirit had been broken when he finally met someone he was really interested in who never shared the same feelings. He then resorted to a google search and came across your website.
He had somebody that he valued. He didn’t want to lose her. He wanted to give it the best possible chance, so he started to go to my website, came across my videos and started to recognize the things that I talk about in “How To Be A 3% Man” he was seeing in this particular woman.
He was telling me now how he truly believes your advice changed his life, as he is now entering a very promising, happy relationship with a lady he met on a dating site. He firmly believes that their relationship would not have blossomed the way it has without your advice. The lady he is dating now has apparently been single for 12 years, as she was afraid of commitment, but since he took your advice from the very beginning, he has managed to change her view on relationships, and things appear to be quite serious between them now.
I have not seen him so happy and hopeful in years. Obviously, the relationship is still new, and we can only see where it goes, but I would just like to thank you for your work and what you have been doing, because it is really helping people who are desperately looking for a companion and changing their lives for the better.
Thank you very much,
Dude, I really appreciate you sharing that fucking story, because there’s going to be a lot of people who are going to listen to this for many years. They’re going to be in the same place that your dad was, and they’re going to be scared and skeptical and thinking, “If that guy can do it, he was in a dark place, I can pull myself out of it too.”
Second viewer’s email:
I was listening to your podcast the other day about a success story, so I thought about sharing mine. I have been a follower of your work for the last year and a half. I am a 22-year-old Hispanic in my first year of medical school. When I started listening to you, I had no idea of the transformation I was about to undertake. My high school sweetheart had just dumped me, and I was desperate to win her back. I read your book only once and thinking I knew what I was doing, I lost her.
You didn’t follow the instructions in the beginning. But the way I look at life, everything happens for a reason. What happened happened, and it couldn’t have happened any other way.
When I got tired of the bullshit, I read your book 17 times!
Boom. People will do more to avoid pain than they’ll do to gain pleasure. You read the book one time, and the pain was a more powerful motivator than the pleasure was. It did nothing. But then you got ultimate pain, because you still lost your high school sweetheart. And then you got fucking serious and you read it 17 times. This is the one common thread you see in all of these success stories, 10, 15, and in this case, 17 times. The guys that read it over and over and over again, they understand it backwards and forwards. They understand the philosophy.
Everything in my book is not exactly in fucking black and white and “it must be this way.” It’s a guideline. If you just read the book once, you’re going to be using techniques and manipulation as opposed to understanding the philosophy and acting naturally. If you read it once, you’re going to act like a robot. If you read it 17 times, you’re going to be fucking smooth as silk.
I began to grow until I became the alpha male that leads and emanates positivity everywhere I go. That’s when I made a list for my perfect woman, and little did I know I was going to meet her 2 months later at my favorite restaurant.
You made a decision. You were reading the book backwards and forwards and implementing it. You were out there in the world, meeting and dating, you knew what you wanted. Whatever you focus on is going to tend to expand and draw to you just like moths to a flame.
We’ve been together for 6 months now, and she is head over heels for me as am I for her, (always remembering the courtship never ends).
You’re a fucking smart man, and that’s what happens when you read the book 17 times. You remember that chapter, and you’re able to maintain it. It fucking pounds it into your head.
Even though medical school is challenging, I am in the top of my class thanks to my newfound willpower.
You have an emotionally compelling reason to finish school. You’re doing what’s necessary. You’re doing the preparation ahead of time, and that’s why you’re succeeding.
I am really grateful, because it’s all thanks to you coach. I learned what is masculine essence; I got the girl and the career of my dreams. Please, keep up the good work.
Good fucking job dude.
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“Breakups and the unexpected loss of a job or business often feel like the end, because our identity is totally wrapped up in our relationship, career or business. When we no longer have what we identify with and build our lives around, it feels like we no longer recognize our lives, who we are or ourselves. This in reality is a great opportunity, because we now have a clean slate to create and execute a great grand new vision, purpose and set of goals to become and achieve. Everyone must have a purpose and a reason to get up and do what we do every day, even if that’s simply being a mom, a dad or just finding a way to enjoy life and be grateful for it, no matter how close or far away we are from achieving our dreams. In order to feel successful, we must be able to measure progress, no matter how small or incremental it may be. As long as you have breath in your lungs, hope in your heart and an emotionally compelling reason to get up and take action every day towards making your life more the way you want it to be, you can find happiness and reasons to be grateful for and to enjoy your life.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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