Have you ever wondered why women say they want a nice guy, but they always seem to fall for jerks? Women understandably get irritated when a man will not stop and ask for directions when he is lost. However, have you ever had a woman give you directions to somewhere? It’s been my experience that when one of my girlfriends gives me directions to somewhere, the directions are often wrong and get me lost. Thankfully, GPS guidance has eliminated most of those problems as long as you have a valid address. But if you don’t have an address, you may get hopelessly lost LOL. Have you ever taken a woman’s dating advice and had it actually work?
Women definitely have a better understanding of men and relationships, than men have of women and relationships. When it comes to the “battle of the sexes”, men are armed with pea shooters… women with machine guns. Most men are hopelessly lost and confused when it comes to women like I used to be. Since women are always focused on their emotions and protecting other people’s feelings, they often will say things to men that are confusing in hopes that the guys can take a hint and figure out women are not interested. They try to reject men in ways that let them down easy. But what often happens is men misinterpret this as a sign they have a chance. These guys then get emotionally hung up and obsessed with women they have no chance with.
A woman is not going to come right out and say to your face, “Dude, you’re butt ugly! I wouldn’t date you if you were the last man on earth.” Instead they say things like, “I’m not looking for a relationship right now. I have a boyfriend. I am seeing someone. I am involved with someone. I don’t know you that well. I don’t know you well enough to give you my phone number. You’re not my type. Etc.” and the guy thinks, “Hey, I got chance! She may become single soon and when she does, I’ll make her mine! I bet I can get her to change her mind about me!”
Women are attracted to men who exhibit and exude confident alpha male energy and presence. Men who are sure of themselves. Men who take risks and are not afraid to fail. If he wants a woman, he goes for it without holding back or fearing rejection. Since most men have been brainwashed into thinking women like “nice guys” who act like pleasers and butler’s and who bend to a woman’s every wish, these guys have no spine or backbone and act weak and needy. Women will feel sexual attraction for a guy who is a jerk because she can’t have her way with him. She only wants to be friends with the “nice guy” because he acts more like a woman or a male girlfriend than a man.
Women who have a low self-esteem, who grew up in emotionally abusive households, who have daddy issues or who are simply messed up, will stay with the jerks. Some women simply put up with the jerks because there are so many other things they do correctly that will naturally make women feel sexual attraction for them. The planet is full of feminized and weak men who have been taught and conditioned to not stand up for themselves, and to be submissive around women. Only 3% of the male population understands women, dating and how to have effortless and drama free relationships. Unfortunately, for women who are constantly bombarded by weak and needy men, the jerks often are a better and more sexually exciting option than dating a man who acts like a woman, or nothing at all.
The jerk is dangerous and takes risks. All men who act like real men, are a little dangerous and are going to take risks. They understand that failure is a necessary part of life. Men who are alive and sexually attractive to women, are taking risks, and going after what they want. Since they are following their hearts, curiosity and intuition, they are more happy, more fulfilled, more peaceful, more relaxed and more exciting to be around than men who have given up on their dreams, and who have accepted a life of mediocrity and quiet desperation. What’s a girl to do? Women just want to have fun! So when faced with the choice of dating weak beta males, or no men at all until they meet Mr. Right, the bad boy is a sexually fulfilling alternative. However, since a lot of bad boys have a good understanding of women, and unfortunately, also know how to manipulate women, many women often find themselves falling hopelessly in love with men they know are not good for them. As women become older and stronger, the likelihood of getting snowed or manipulated by a bad boy drops significantly.
Facts are facts. What women say they want, and what they actually emotionally respond to, are both often polar opposites. If you are going to take dating, pick up or relationship advice from anyone, only take advice from men and women whose relationships are all drama free and effortless. I go into extensive detail on this subject in my Amazon Kindle eBook “How To Be A 3% Man”, which you can download to your PC, Mac, iPad or Smartphone in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by clicking here.
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