In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss two different emails from two different viewers. The first email is from a woman who shares a book review she posted on her Facebook account encouraging her female friends to buy my book. She describes the epiphanies she had while reading it, and how it helped her to better understand herself and her relationship choices. The second email is an update from a viewer for whom I answered two previous emails in my video newsletters titled, “Fearing She’ll Forget You,” and “Time Is On My Side.” He details how his career has taken off, and how learning to value himself and his time has dramatically and positively impacted his income and success with the ladies. He details what his success with women is now like, and how much better his attitude is towards dating and life in general. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the bodies of their emails:
First Viewer’s Email:
Good Morning!Happy Monday and blessings to all! I’d like to start this week with a book review. It’s called, “How To Be A 3% Man,” by Corey Wayne. I stumbled across this book by accident, (In my experience, there’s no such thing as an accident. Everything happens for a reason. If you seek, you will find. In some way you were seeking to fill a knowledge gap you had, and that led you to my work), but I was instantly hooked. I spent all weekend reading it. The book is actually written for men. It teaches men how to literally hook up or fall in love any woman he wants, ha-ha. Ladies, put your ego and judgment aside. (From time to time, women respond negatively to one of my videos, but they really just haven’t taken the time to take in what I’m saying. As Steven Covey said, “Most people listen with the intent to respond, not to understand.” Oftentimes, people will have an emotional reaction to something I said, without understanding the context in which I’m saying it or without understanding my book.) I’m not betraying you by publicly telling men about this book. What I discovered in this book is that you will learn your core needs as a woman, and therefore be able to communicate better with your boyfriend, husband, lover or whatever, what it is that you deeply need/want, and how he can give it you, (Men and women speak in different languages. Women think in emotional terms, and guys tend to think logically. Understanding how the other person communicates can really close the gulf, so you can understand one another), enabling you to a loving, and forever “drama free,” relationship. (If you’re in a relationship with somebody, you’re there to help each other grow and become more. You’re there to give and meet each other’s needs. Men who understand women don’t argue with them. See the Greta Van Susteren interview clip with Melania Trump below, as an example of what this kind of relationship looks like.)
Girls, read this book! Trust me! I now understand things about myself that I never did before. And I know based on my interactions with women all of my life that most of us are also clueless of what really turns us off and on in a man, in the short and long term. (The majority of women think they want a guy to pursue them. However, most of the time, the guys they actually date don’t do any of the things women say they want.) You know how very few men have that instant hook on women, while most don’t? How some guys, regardless of their looks and economical status, still get any woman they want. Well, this book will explain why. It’s simple psychology, but it is totally different than what we think. You know how everyone says that men take longer to fall in love than women? False!!!! It’s the total opposite actually.Read the book girls!! Ladies, by knowing what ticks you, you have an advantage against the expert pick up artist/players, because you can now block it off. (For the ladies, you can use what you learn in my book to tell the difference between the guys that get it and the guys who are running game on you.) But to me, the best part about reading this book is that, you can teach a man who’s “perfect on paper” to treat you like the princess and lady you are — the one willing to commit to you and give you his all. The problem is that he doesn’t have that “wow” factor on you. (In other words, you don’t have chemistry. You can do this as long as the guy is open to being coached. You have to do it in a way where you just make a suggestion.) He doesn’t awaken in you that chemistry and crazy desire for him. Well, after reading this book, you will know how to subtly turn it on by yourself and teach him how. Yes, did you read what I said?? You can teach the perfect guy who will die for you, but you don’t want even his “good mornings,” how to make you crazy head over heels for him and keep you there forever! (If he’s close minded, then don’t try and fix somebody who doesn’t want to be fixed.) And it will take less time and effort than investing your energy/time turning a player into a relationship guy. (Guys want to do the right thing, but society has screwed up the sexual polarity. Nowadays, men are taught to act more like women, and women are taught how to act like men.)
Corey Wayne has literally hacked the “girl code!” Thank you for this book. You’re helping humanity with this.
Have a blessed week!
Second Viewer’s Email:
Corey,I just set up a monthly donation to your site for all the help you’ve given me. Mine was the first email you answered in, “Fearing She’ll Forget You,” two years ago, and the first email in, “Time is On My Side,” about a year and a half ago. (It’s cool to hear about your progress over the past two years.) How very far I’ve come since I wholly embraced your book. I’ve highlighted it, transferred all of the wisdom to index cards, and over time, committed the index cards to memory. (Read over my old Instagram quotes, at coachcoreywayne, and that will give you a similar experience to reviewing flash cards.) I’ve also made YouTube playlists of all of your videos, and I may have even recorded the audio into hours and hours of mp3 files that I listen to at the gym, in transit, and during the more menial, tedious tasks involved in my law practice. I’ve gotten to the point that, when you read a sentence from an email, I can anticipate your response before you say it. I’ve also hit my stride, and to quote the old 80s Matthew Wilder song, “ain’t nothin’ gonna to break my stride.”
About 18 months ago, just after being sworn into the Bar, I followed my mentor from the big law firm I clerked at to his new boutique law firm, where I am doing substantive legal work and making arguments at a much faster clip than I ever could have hoped to in big law, where I’d likely still be doing document review for the next several years. (When you’re awesome, you do well and you love what you do and have a passion for it, people will notice that.) Work is intellectually stimulating, and I find myself not minding putting in late and weekend hours, in order to strengthen arguments and find more and better research results. My work is a personal 10 out of 10, I love it, it is meaningful, and I’m putting my science background to work helping to lower the cost of generic pharmaceuticals for consumers. (It sounds like you’re doing noble work dude. Good job.) The billable hour has also vastly changed how I value my time. I’m getting regular and generous raises and bonuses. (Smart business owners know, if you have great people, you pay them better and treat them better than anybody else will, and they will stay with you forever.) I’m at the gym regularly, have a personal trainer, I’m eating well, have my first half-marathon coming up in May, and want to get back into boxing and Brazilian jiu jitsu that I gave up for law school.Most of all, I’ve finally accepted in my core that I have tremendous value in and of myself, that I’m a prize, that I don’t need anything or anyone outside myself, that I have nothing to prove to anyone, that I come first, and that women – as well as friends, colleagues, and associates – can come and go as they please, and I live for myself and answer to no one. If there’s one thing that’s more amazing than the number of men who don’t get it, unfortunately, it’s the number of women today who don’t get themselves and don’t get what they emotionally respond to. Some can’t fathom a guy not getting in touch between setting a date and the actual date. (That will tell you they’re needy and insecure.) Some try to get way too exclusive way too fast. Some don’t understand why I wouldn’t want to just be their friend after we’ve already had sex. Some try to make “coffee” or “lunch” dates and, of course, when I try to change it to the evening, I get silence. (When a woman only wants coffee or a lunch date, they’re giving you the friend vibe. They want you as their emotional tampon.) And the sense I get from other women is that their time is generally more valuable than a man’s, or a man is a servant, and they get upset when I can’t capitulate to schedule changes. (Your time is valuable, and if they treat you like your time is worthless, then they go to the back of the line.) Getting numbers and setting dates has become very easy, and ultimately, I just move on to the next if it doesn’t work out for whatever reason. (You’ve got to keep circulating.) Is this all tied to their interest levels? (It has to do with her level of attraction.) Or did you find that as the quality of your life, your wisdom through experience, your options, etc. all increased, it was that much harder to find women on your level? (There are just so few of them out there. The good news is, when you come across them, you don’t fuck it up with them because they won’t put up with needy and insecure bullshit from a guy. They want the best as well. When they find a guy who has his shit together, they will really make the effort.) Or have most modern women just completely shed their feminine nature and “don’t get it?” (Most women are better at the game and manipulation than guys are.) I’d love your perspective on what you experienced, with respect to women, as you continued to evolve, grow, and challenge yourself. (When you take care of you, the universe will deliver the perfect person to you.) I’ve reached outcome independence with respect to any particular woman, and ain’t nothin’s gonna break my stride. I’m just wondering what the future has in store, vis-à-vis women, now that I’ve reached one summit and start climbing the bigger mountain beyond it. (You will meet more people who are growth and success oriented the better you become.)
All the best,
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“Most of what we have been taught about life, relationships and success is flat-out bullshit or totally wrong. Society teaches us we should conform and not try to stand out too much or create waves. The reality is, we were created to be spectacular, stand out and reach our full potential. As Steve Jobs said, “Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you and you can change it, you can influence it.” The world is in dire need of leaders who stand out, follow the beat of their own drum and who tear down the old paradigm of limited ways of thinking, creating and being. The only things standing in the way of you reaching your full potential are the story you tell yourself about what you can’t do, filling in your knowledge gaps and taking the time to master your gifts, skills and talents. By mastering and perfecting your passions into skills, you can use them to add value, by providing a useful product or service. The more value you add, the higher your income earning potential will grow.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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