How you can become a better man, so you can attract a younger, hotter and nicer girlfriend after a breakup!
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a thirty-eight year old guy who got cheated on by his ex-wife who left him for her boss. He was broke, depressed and had to watch another man move in with his wife and start raising his kids.
He shares how my work helped to turn his life around, so he could make more money, improve his life and attract a hotter, younger and nicer girlfriend. It’s another great success story that illustrates that if you apply what I teach, learn from your mistakes and keep grinding towards your grandest goals and dreams, eventually you will succeed like never before! My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.
Even though this was a horrible thing to happen to him four years ago, when you look at it now, he completely upgraded and transformed his life for the better, all from what he learned in How To Be A 3% Man and Mastering Yourself. So we’re going to go through and see what he did to turn things around in his life, and how great things are and his current relationship with his hot girlfriend.
I hope all is well. My name is Bob and although I never thought I’d be writing you, here I am. I’m a 38 y/o divorced veteran. Your work has changed my life for the better, and I’d like to share my story with you. The impact you’ve had on me has been tremendous. I originally started following your work back in 2017. At the time, I was divorced, depressed, and broke.
Well, the good news is there’s nowhere to go but up from there. Because when you hit rock bottom and you recognize that your life strategy is not working for you, then you get to find the cheat codes in life, “Mastering Yourself” and “How To Be A 3% Man”. And if you apply it, like I say all the time, even if you think I’m full of crap or totally full of shit, if you apply the things I teach, eventually they will work for you.
My ex-wife had an affair with her boss a couple years prior, and when I found out about it, she chose him.
Ouch. Pain is life’s way of telling you that you’re doing something wrong or maybe you have people in your life or relationships that need to dissolve, so something grander and greater can be born and become a possibility. Because it’s all about personal peak performance — optimizing your personal life and optimizing your professional life and your social life, for that matter. Getting up every day and loving your life and loving yourself and the people that are involved with you more and more, finding more ways to have fun and learn something as you go through the seasons of your life.
It’s a constant, perpetual dedication to the discipline and the fundamentals of the science of high achievement. In other words, using superior life strategies that most people won’t don’t know and simply won’t take the time to learn and practice and master it.
He was also married with children, but that didn’t stop him from contributing to the destruction of my family.
Well, I mean, at the end of the day, karma is going to get them both. Eventually, at some point, one or both of them are going to cheat on each other, and then you can sit back and laugh at the whole thing and be the great example for your kids, because you’ll be the happy one. Whereas, your ex-wife and her boyfriend are presenting a low integrity relationship and way of showing up in life, and you simply are the better man.
Once we divorced, they moved in together and started raising my kids. Unbelievable, I know. Before the separation, I tried everything I could to save my marriage. I acted needy and that didn’t work. I cried to her and poured out my heart, which also didn’t work. I wrote letters, got angry, made threats, etc. At the end, nothing I did worked.
You never try to keep somebody who doesn’t want to keep you. You’ve got to give other people the opportunity to choose you. And if people aren’t choosing you, keep focusing on optimizing yourself, your life, your social life and meeting new people. The reality is, over the course of a decade, whether it’s women, you might meet one to three that you really click with, and you really like and who like you. And the same thing with guy friends, meeting new guy friends that you click with and you jive with, you might get one to three of those a decade. They’re really hard to come by.
Good people are hard to come by, because if they weren’t, we wouldn’t appreciate them. But because they’re very rare, when they do come along we make that extra effort, because quite frankly, they deserve it and so do we. With the right people, they’ll make a mutual effort. When you give to a giver, the giver gives back. When you give to a taker, the taker just sucks.
Back to 2017, I was working a dead-end job making $12 an hour…
Okay, so I’ve got to say, if you’re making $12 an hour, you need to be reading, “Mastering Yourself” and applying what it teaches in here to optimize your professional career — to growing your gifts, your skills, your talents and your reserve of knowledge. It’s about how to get any job you want. Anyone that’s watching this video that still makes $12 an hour, you need to read “Mastering Yourself.” It’s totally for free, it doesn’t cost anything. All you’ve got to do is subscribe to the email newsletter at UnderstandingRelationships.com, do what it says to do, and eventually you’ll find a better job that pays you more money, what you think you’re worth. And then you can put in your two weeks notice and leave your $12 an hour job or lower paying job, whatever it happens to be.
You get paid based upon the value that you bring to the marketplace. And oftentimes, for a lot of people, it just means looking for another job. Do it in your your spare time, on your lunch hour, or do it before you go to work, or after you get off work, or on your breaks be banging the phones. The bottom line is, anybody that’s watching this video should be making way more than $12 an hour. And if you’re not, it’s because you’re not trying hard enough. And if people get butt hurt, I don’t care, because all this stuff is right here for you to use. I’ve got people that are teenagers that are following my work, and they’re making more than $12 an hour, because they simply are applying better success principles than most people.
So, if you’re not happy with your hourly wage, it’s up to you to do something about it. Don’t wait for the government or some lying ass politician to tell you that they’re going to make sure you get a raise. If somebody’s not paying you what you feel you’re worth and what you want, go find somebody who will, and keep searching until you find somebody who will. It’s simply a matter of time, and the strategies are in my book, “Mastering Yourself.” You can read them for free at UnderstandingRelationships.com. All you’ve got to do is subscribe to the email newsletter. Do it now.
…doing security and trying to figure out how my life became so screwed. I stumbled upon one of your videos on YouTube and started to binge watch. Your material seemed so scary to me.
Well, your comfort zone is where you’re most uncomfortable.
Don’t chase women? Don’t pour out all my heart and feelings? Surely this bald white man didn’t know what he was talking about.
I know. I’m just an average, pasty white guy trying to do extraordinary things out here on the Internet. I don’t look like I’m supposed to look like, whatever people’s ideal is of the perfect person or a successful person. I’m just an average guy trying to do extraordinary things. The difference between me and regular people is I simply apply better success principles than most do. I put them all down in “How To Be A 3% Man” and “Mastering Yourself,” and I allow everybody all over the world to read it for free. Go out and apply it and get a better job, then come back and buy a book or throw me a tip. Throw me $10, or $200, or $1,000, $2,000, whatever it happens to be, whatever you feel it’s worth.
If you go read a free book and you make an extra ten grand a year because of how you negotiate for your salary, or you get a new job, throw a five-spot my way, tip the valet guy. Look at me as like the valet dude. I’m not any more important than you or anybody else. I’m just more efficient, because I have better success principles that I apply. That’s it. And I give them all away, so you’ve got no excuses. Anybody that whines, I don’t want to hear it.
But yet, I couldn’t stop watching. I eventually found your book and bought the audio version. I binged your book over and over again and it made me realize that a lot of the concepts that you present is how men naturally are.
Yep. If you don’t like it, cry to the big man upstairs. I didn’t make women that way. I didn’t make men this way. I’m just telling you how the world works, whether you want to admit it, or not.
We were designed to be leaders. We were designed to be strong. It’s society and the media programming that makes us men act like neutered puppies.
Yeah, and a lot of the oligarchs are behind that as well — little fucking worms that they are.
Anyway, I’ve been following the principles in both your books, and although I’ve made some mistakes, I’ve also made a lot of progress in my life. My ex is still with her boss, but I’m okay with that.
Yeah, she’s his problem. If she’s not happy with him at some point, guess what? She’ll cheat on him too. Or vice versa, if he gets tired of her, he’ll cheat on her and leave her for somebody else.
I never thought I could let go, but I have. I wish them the best.
Well, it didn’t serve you, because you needed to let go of that so you can find something better. Because, quite frankly, that’s what your kids really need. They need a man who has got some integrity and shows them a great example of what it can be like. Because you’re studying this stuff, obviously, your ex and her new bitch ass boyfriend ain’t.
It didn’t really hit me about how much your work changed my life until a month ago when I met a 22 y/o Colombian model on a dating website.
Twenty-two. That just sounds really hard. I’ll send some Kleenex for your grief therapy.
She is extremely attractive, and I felt I had no chance with her.
Come on, man.
Still, I applied the principles that you taught me.
Because at the end of the day, if you’re not used to it and you’re applying the things in here, just like you said, it’s scary. It’s like, are you kidding me? That’s the exact opposite of what I thought I should do. So, he did it. And it worked.
I match her energy when we text. I don’t over pursue, I have not tried to lock her down, and I always let her come to me.
“You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free,” that’s by Thich Nhat Hanh. That’s probably one of the most brilliant statements and the wisest statements I’ve ever heard in my life, especially when it comes to relationships, especially when it comes to women.
I did a video, “Dare Her To Find Someone Better.” Literally, go find a better guy. Find a better guy who can treat you better, and be more fun to be around, and who you’ll grow more and laugh more with than me. Go ahead, find somebody else. I dare you. And if she does, “Hey, good luck. Don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out. I’ll find somebody better eventually.”
She told me about her ex-boyfriends and how they try to control her with money.
Yeah, one of the worst things you can do with women is try to control them. They’ll just bounce on you. It’s like trying to control the weather, like trying to control Mother Nature. It’s like, good luck with that.
They always tried to make her commit to kids and marriage. It was scary, because she described the man I used to be. Although I like her a lot, I always try to stay in the moment. I’ve never brought up kids, marriage, or anything related. My reward? She’s head over hills for me. We constantly have sex 5-6 times per day.
Man, I’m really sorry about that. I’m really sorry that I screwed your life up with sex five to six times a day with a hotter, younger woman. You poor baby, I know you’re struggling.
She always wants to be around me. She always chases me. After a few days of hooking up, she confronted me to ask, “What are we?”
Latin women are amazing. I’ve dated a lot of them. They’re pretty passionate.
Before that, I hadn’t given it much thought and I was just having fun.
Hang out, have fun and hook up, it’s a simple formula. Nothing about a relationship, and yet she’s bringing up a relationship. Despite the fact that every guy tries to lock her down and you didn’t. And yet, now she’s trying to lock you down. That’s the way it’s supposed to be.
That’s the way it was in the old movies in the old days, when men and women acted like men and women. Prime example, “It’s a Wonderful Life,” that corny old black and white movie. It just does a beautiful job of capturing that. Also, one of my favorites, “Charade” with Cary Grant and Audrey Hepburn, that’s just such a great movie.
Here is this beautiful model that is constantly hit on every day by other men, trying to lock me down. Best of all, she acts like a woman and lets me be a man.
Well, this is your birthright, bro. This is how you’re supposed to be.
Anytime she tries to test me, I step back and ask myself, “What would Corey do?” Besides this relationship, my financial stability and health are in a much better place now, especially after following your smoothie advice.
I know, I know. I wish more people did the smoothies and the green juice, but it is what it is. And I thank you for actually being a man and having the balls to do it. And the rest of you guys, come on, man!
I know this was lengthy, but I just needed to tell you that you are appreciated. Thanks so much for all that you do.
Have a great day!
Well, cheers to you, bro. Welcome to the 3% club. Good job. And if you have a situation in your personal or your professional life, and you’d like to get my help with it, go to UnderstandingRelationships.com, click the Products tab at the top of your screen and book a coaching session with yours truly.
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