I spend a lot of my time teaching guys to focus on their mission and purpose in life. Action breeds confidence and courage. Inaction breeds fear and doubt. In order to be great at something, you must first have a deep love for it and a burning desire in your heart to become it or to create it.
It’s next to impossible for a man to feel excited and fully alive if he is spending the minutes of his day taking action doing things he does not enjoy or even hates. When a man encounters challenges or obstacles in his way on the journey to achieving his grandest goals and dreams, it forces him to grow and become more in order to overcome his challenges and obstacles.
It is in the process of taking action on a consistent and daily basis that over time he will notice he is starting to make more and more progress towards achieving his grandest goals and dreams. This gives him more confidence to take even more action which gives him even more results and brings him closer to realizing his grandest goals and dreams. Masculine energy grows through challenge. Masculine energy grows through repetition. Repetition is the mother of skill.
The best way for a man to turn on his natural sexual attraction switch which will make him instantly more sexually attractive to women is, to become obsessed and immersed in taking action on a daily basis doing something he loves. When a man takes passionate and repetitious action doing something, he will become really good at it. He will become very confident and excited when he talks about doing it to other people. He will be happy. Women find this incredibly sexy in men.
Feminine energy grows through praise. A man has the power to make a woman feel alive, sexy, beautiful, appreciated, celebrated, adored, etc. by simply but authentically, praising in her what his heart finds beautiful. The problem with most men as I discussed in my article “Why Complimenting Women Doesn’t Work” is, their complements tend to come off as bribes for sex, instead of authentic expressions of their hearts. When guys who are as insecure as I used to be start applying what I teach in my book, I teach them to not offer any compliments at all. Why? For guys who feel just as bad and awkward around women as I used to, just talking to a woman or looking at a woman is scary as hell and can be emotionally overwhelming. I teach a guy to take baby steps to work up to giving complements only when he feels he is ready. Since women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear, it’s better for guys initially if they leave out the compliments until they have the confidence to offer them as an unattached gift from their hearts.
It is amazing to watch a woman melt and feel attraction for you when you offer a sincere authentic complement from your heart. Just a simple, “I love your lips!” given without any expectations but as simply an acknowledgment of what is, creates a safe and comfortable environment for her to reciprocate a complement about you if the attraction is mutual. Women love men who celebrate their beauty and amazingness. Women know that men like this will ravish them and make them feel like goddesses with no strings attached. Relationships with these kind of men who get it are effortless.
As a man, you have the power to meet a woman and have an instant amazing connection; and only a few minutes after meeting for the first time, you’re headed back to your place to make amazing passionate love! But what usually happens for most men and women? One or both of them feel awkward and the guy usually does not know enough to make her instantly feel comfortable to where all of her barriers and resistance come down and she sleeps with him. It usually takes the third or fourth date. Repetition is the mother of skill. The more comfortable a man becomes in his own skin, being the man that God designed him to be by becoming great at his mission and purpose in life, the easier it becomes for him to charmingly ask women for what he wants. The more interactions you have with different women, the more it will build your confidence and the quicker you will get to a place where you feel totally comfortable around any woman no matter how hot she is, and can simply be yourself and women will feel sexual attraction for you.
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