The reason why complementing women doesn’t work for most men who are trying to attract a woman they like is, their complements come off as “bribes” instead of authentic expressions of the heart.
Most men are screwed up in some way, nobody is perfect. However, our imperfections are our gifts as they give us something to work at improving so we can become better men for the women in our lives, or the amazing goddesses we have yet to meet!
Jim Rohn once said, “I’ll take care of me for you, and you take care of you for me.” For guys who are like me, and come from dysfunctional families where one or both parents, or even the entire family (like mine) doesn’t know how to maturely interact with one another in a loving, open, affectionate and healthy way, we simply don’t have the skills or sensory acuity to interact with women in a natural way until we spend the necessary time to learn.
Guys who grow up in healthy loving families don’t have to spend the time like I and many of my clients have to in order to learn how to properly interact with and understand women. However, guys who are naturals with women are usually totally messed up in other areas of their lives that we are strong and balanced in. Success comes easy when you know what to do, or have a good plan to follow. It also helps to have a great coach like myself, who knows what you don’t know. By learning from me, you don’t have to make all the costly mistakes that I have and can therefore, learn and implement what I teach in a fraction of the time and cost it took me to figure out and learn what really works. It’s called success modeling. Modeling the success of others so you can get the same results in a fraction of the time!
When I was younger and still totally screwed up emotionally, I had no idea how to talk to women or carry-on a simple conversation with them. So if I offered a complement, it usually came off like it was a bribe or something I was uttering to get something I wanted from them (sex, affection, love, romance, a date, etc.).
If a guy is just starting out to learn what I teach in my book and he does not have the confidence to walk up to any woman he wants and say to her, “I want you! You’re amazing! Let’s go sit down somewhere where you and I can have a drink and chat.”, then he should not give any compliments to women initially. It’s better if he follows the steps and uses the (no rejection risk) subtle questions and tests of a woman’s interest in him that I detail in my book to set up dates, get phone numbers, etc.
Masculine energy grows through challenge. Feminine energy grows through praise. If you compliment a woman at the appropriate time and with an authentic expression of your heart, it will cause attraction and make a woman want you more because of your sincerity, honesty and authentic heart. However, offer a compliment at an inappropriate time or moment, and you will cause her to feel like you’re just saying it to get in her pants. Therefore, you will turn her off and she will reject you. The difference that makes the difference is very subtle.
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