Masculine energy grows through challenge. Feminine energy grows through praise. The best way to light a woman up and make her feel sexual attraction for you, is to acknowledge her beauty, femininity, sex appeal, amazingness, etc. with an authentic expression of your heart. Say exactly what you feel without fear… and most importantly… without expectations! Most men hide their true intentions when they meet a woman they like.
I wasn’t always able to walk up to a woman who I thought was stunning and acknowledge her beauty. So for a long time when I was learning to overcome my own insecurities and weaknesses as a man, I used a lot of low risk of rejection questions to gauge a woman’s level of interest in me. Over time, as I saw the techniques work, this built my confidence. Eventually I got to the place where I am now. If I see a woman and I think she is amazing, I must acknowledge it.
So what happens when you see a goddess at the gym who is being trained by a guy who looks like he could break you in half just for looking at him wrong, and you are unsure if he is her boyfriend or not? A few hours ago when I was at the gym working out, this perfect dark haired beauty was sitting across from me doing a different exercise on the same universal gym. She was being trained by a guy she obviously trusted and respected, and who looks like the mighty Hulk! However, I caught her checking me out as he was training her. This told me that she finds me physically attractive, but I am not sure if he is her boyfriend, or a friend who has the hots for her. So what did I do? I paid respect to him. After I finished my workout, I had to walk by the machine he was training her on. I walked over to him and said, “Dude, you’re doing a great job of training her! She looks amazing!” He smiled, and she let out a very sweet, feminine and appreciative “thank you!” Then I continued walking towards the exit.
So what does this accomplish? I am respectful to him and give him a compliment on his training by noticing how amazing she is. To her this shows her that I am very confident and have a lot of balls. It also shows that I have no fear and will let nothing stand in my way of celebrating her beauty. It’s a gift from my heart indirectly to her. The fact that she piped up and said “thank you” communicates that she likes me noticing her. So how will this help me get her?
What do I have to do to find out if I have a chance with her? Nothing. I have seen her in the gym before, but never up close or near me. I walk where I want to walk in the gym. I don’t go over to beauty, but if I encounter beauty in my path, I must stop and briefly acknowledge it from my heart. Now if this girl is single and available and really does like me, the next time I am in the gym she will find a way to come near me and either say hello directly, or she will look in my direction in hopes that I engage her in conversation. I don’t date just anyone. Unless I can see that there is a strong mutual attraction between me and a woman, I’m not interested. That’s simply my standard. I’m not into mediocrity or just sleeping with someone to get laid. I want to make love. Mad passionate love. When you get spoiled by the hottest women in the world who adore you, you simply will have no desire to spend your time with women who do not make you feel as wanted and desired as much as you want and desire them. If you know it is simply a matter of time before the next Ferrari comes along, you’re simply not going to settle for all of the mopeds you can ride which are everywhere. Why? A moped will get you to where you want to go, but you don’t want anyone to see you on it LOL. I know, I’m awful. I simply have no interest in settling for mediocrity, when I know that if I wait just a little while longer, someone spectacular is going to come along. Why? Because that is what always happens to me. As I grow, the quality of the women and relationships I am able to have continues to get better and better.
I want to be amazed when I touch and examine every delicious part of my Goddess. Her golden brown and flawlessly tanned skin. Skin so soft it feels like silk! Lips so plump, that when they meet yours… it’s ecstasy! She smells like cotton candy. The way she lights up and smiles with an endless joy every time your eyes meet. When you are together it seems like you are both in a reality distortion field. Everything in life seems more magnificent! Colors are brighter. Songs are more moving. Being in the sun together as you notice how the Sun glistens off her golden skin is like heaven on earth. When making love, you both lose track of your individuality, where one begins and the other ends; its divine oneness with each other. Why settle for mediocrity when you can have magic instead?
So the next time you see a woman who catches your eye, celebrate her beauty! Acknowledge what you see and feel without any attachments to an outcome. Just offer the gift of your heart acknowledging her beauty. You will make her smile, you will make yourself smile and everyone who is a witness will also smile. Acknowledge her beauty, and if she likes you and is available, she will let you know.
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“Love is the attempt to form a friendship inspired by beauty.” ~ Cicero