The process of seducing a woman is more of an art than an exact science. Since women are always going to be testing your strength as a man to determine if you are confident enough and worthy enough, you must be aware of when and how these subtle tests of your strength by women happen.
The more tests of theirs that you pass, the sooner and closer you bring them to the point where they feel safe and comfortable enough to open up and receive you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. The more tests you fail, the more roadblocks, obstacles and additional tests you must pass to get them to open up to you; the likelihood of you seducing them plummets the more you fail.
There is a proper time to come on to a woman. If you come on too fast, she will make you slow down. As long as you do not get upset and instead practice infinite patience with her, you will pass her tests and she will let you seduce her. You must always respect and monitor a woman’s level of comfort and safety. The more comfortable and safe she feels, the more she will let you get away with. The less comfortable and safe she feels, the less she will let you get away with. The key is knowing when to back off and for how long, until you make your next charge so to speak. It’s kind of like jousting. You take a run at her and something happens. You either score or get rebuffed. If you get rebuffed, you take a little time to fix your armor, tighten your saddle up and then you get back on your horse and take another run at her. When a woman tells you to stop or to slow down, you must respect her wishes and comply. It’s a take it or leave it attitude. Either way, you are cool with what happens. Never try to force things. Take two steps forward, relax and take one step backward.
When a woman makes you pause or stop, then it means you are exceeding her boundaries of what feels safe and comfortable. It simply means to slow down or pause for a few moments. You take the time after she has pushed you off of her, maybe tightened her bra back up and zipped her pants back up to just lay there and caress her as you talk for a little bit. Getting her to talk more and giving her the space to feel safe and comfortable again shows that you will not force things, or force her to do anything that she is not ready to do. Each time after a few minutes have passed and you start kissing, touching and making out with her again, you slowly take another run at undoing her top and unzipping her pants. Each time you take another run at her, you will get a little further. You just do this long enough to where she drops all final resistance to you and lets you penetrate her.
Be ready for all of the excuses that pretty much every woman uses LOL! Such as, “I don’t want you to think I do this all of the time.” “This doesn’t happen very often.” “I don’t want you to think that I am like this with every guy I meet.” When a woman says those kind of things it means that the “slut alarm” has been going off inside of her head, and she is using these kind of statements to justify her allowing herself to continue to get turned on and letting you continue seducing her until you go all the way.
It’s very important if you want to sleep with a woman on the first date or every date, that you make sure over the course of an evening that you take her to at least three or four different places. Why? Because women usually drop their resistance and sleep with a guy on the second or third date on average. By taking a woman to three or four different places, this will give her the experience of having had three or four dates with you in one night. Most men only take women to one place. Usually dinner and then back home again. Predictable and boring.
The best way to proceed on a date is to start out by meeting her at a place (or taking her to a place if you are picking her up) to have drinks and maybe an appetizer. Then going to someplace like a wine and cheese bar for your second place. Then on to a nice dinner for your third place, and your fourth-place could be a cigar bar, pool hall, miniature golf, etc. Your final place is to take her back to her place or your place to seduce her the rest of the way in bed. Since women like sex just as much as men do, they will let you seduce them as long as you don’t talk them out of it.
During the course of the evening as she becomes more comfortable and gets used to you opening the car door for her and her getting out of it at several different places, she will touch you more, stand closer to, laugh at your jokes more and make it easier for you to seduce her. She basically becomes friskier and more touchy-feely as she feels more comfortable and safe.
How do you tell when she is ready to be kissed? When you both are standing close to one another, look into her eyes and then down at her lips for a second or two. Then look back up into her eyes for a second or two and then look back down at her lips again, and then back into her eyes. If she is thinking about kissing you too, she will look at your lips and then back into your eyes. If she does that, then kiss her!
All of this and your ability to seduce her, takes it as a given that she has high romantic interest level in you to start out with. Dates as I like to explain to men, are simply fun filled romantic opportunities for sex to happen. If you want to seduce a woman, then don’t take her to the movies or go on lunch dates. You want to have time to interact together and to talk and ask her questions making sure she is doing 70 to 80% of the talking. Because she is having so much fun and you are doing everything right in backing off at the right moments, she will continue to allow you to seduce her.
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“Seduction of a woman is a marathon, not a sprint.”-Coach Corey Wayne