Women Want A Man Who Is A Challenge

Women like men who are a challenge to them. Guys who they can’t always get their way with. When a woman is getting to know a guy, she will test him usually by trying to see if she can jerk him around a little bit and if he will just sit there and take it. When a woman starts to mistreat you and you take it, she will lose respect for you. If a woman does not respect you, she will never love you.

Every guy that is screwing up with women he is trying to date makes the same mistakes as other guys. Instead of setting definite dates, they call and expect the woman to be direct and make all the decisions. This is the last thing women want. Women want a man who is direct, confident, knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to ask for it.

When I was trying and failing miserably with women, I always needed to know exactly where I stood with them. If they did not do the things I expected in the time that I expected them to… I would get upset, fearful, needy, insecure and generally do things that would cause women to correctly assess that I was weak, needy and therefore not a dominant male or a good catch.

As I discuss in my articles women want to be in a love story, what women are attracted to men, the ultimate alpha male, how to sexually attract women who are out of your league, how to project strength and confidence to attract women, how to make a definite date with a woman so she doesn’t break, how to go with the flow with women, etc. women want a man who acts like a man, and knows how to treat a lady.

When a guy acts needy and uncentered around women, it causes them to feel wishy-washy on the inside as well as lowering their interest level in him. When women are around needy and uncentered men, they don’t feel comfortable or trust their masculine core because these men seem awkward and unsure of themselves around women. They don’t know how to act around or talk to women. Women want to be comfortable and have fun. Guys that get this make it easy for women to be themselves around them. They therefore, want to stay around guys who they can be themselves with. To women, dating and interacting with needy guys is a drag, hassle and awkward. Can you blame them for getting turned off?

The following is an e-mail I got from a reader who was dating a girl that seemed to really be into him at first, however, he did a ton of things wrong that turned her off and now she does not return his phone calls. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Dear Corey,

I met this girl at a wedding of her cousin (my bf) and hadn’t seen her in years. We ended up hooking up and she said she had a crush on me growing up (awesome) as did I. She got my number through her sister and texted me saying here is her number (80% interest level to start with) not that I asked for it haha. We texted and set up a date but she canceled and didn’t answer for a week (never continue to try and contact a woman when she still has not responded to your last text, email, voicemail, etc.-YOU MUST give her the space and time to respond-otherwise you will appear needy and she will lose interest in you slowly over time) cause her grandpa died. We didn’t talk through next week and then started again setting up a date for Saturday. We went out Fri (sounds like she changed the plans on you at the last minute-this was a test which you failed and went along with if it was not for a good reason) instead and she was very flirty and we kissed and she later texted I hope you do like me cause I like you (since her interest was so high to start out, you could do a lot wrong before completely turning her off where her interest level went below 50%). She went to Michigan not telling me (she owes you nothing. You are not her boyfriend) or answering texts (you chased too much and continued to try and contact her even though she was ignoring you) and for another week we didn’t talk. We started talking again and she asked me to a wedding saying its on short notice but her friends weren’t all bringing dates and were deciding so if they were gonna bring dates would I come (NEVER agree to be backup plans for anyone. Tell her “I really want to see you, but lets just make plans when you know you are going to be free” and then turn down her invitation). She said they decided not to but would call me after to meet up which she never did (she has lost respect for you at this point. She kept testing and you kept failing. She could totally jerk you around and you would take it). We talked for another week and when I asked her if what she was up to for week and if she wanted to do something she said work Fri work Sat during day but gonna be by me later and I said hope to meet up. I didn’t call or text and found out she was at a bar w family and didn’t call me when she knew i was kinda close (she didn’t want to see you). I texted her next day” i don’t know whats going on and I’m not a relationship guy (you are communicating you want a relationship with her. Totally out of sequence and inappropriate discussion with only 1 date) but like you and don’t know if you are shy or not interested (weak statement-a dominant male always knows where he stands because he looks at a woman’s actions. You communicated to her that you do not understand and are probably not very successful with women). I thought we had a good time when we went out and you told me that you liked me (she meant that in the moment she said it, but you kept acting needy and insecure which turned her off and lowered her interest level in you) then nothing happened. I know you have crazy work schedule and had a long relationship (ended year and half ago after 4) but just wanna know what is going on (bringing up her ex has nothing to do with you two. Bad move on your part. BTW-nothing is going on now, hence the silence from her). That was a week ago and i have yet to hear from her (you probably never will. Never call, text message or contact her again. If she contacts you, don’t respond until the next day or on Monday if its a weekend. Set up a definite date via text by texting her the day after you hear from her. She has been rude and dismissive to you. You trained her to treat you this way, if you have any chance with her, she will contact you. If her interest is below 50%, you will never hear from her again. When you’re out… you’re out).

I’m sorry if this email is long and hope you have advice.

Tom

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”-Nelson Mandela