I read a great book several years ago by author John Eldredge, titled “Wild At Heart.” It’s a fantastic read and I highly recommend that you download it to your Smartphone, Kindle, PC, Mac or iPad. This is from the Amazon Kindle product description of his book: “God designed men to be dangerous, says John Eldredge. Simply look at the dreams and desires written in the heart of every boy: To be a hero, to be a warrior, to live a life of adventure and risk. Sadly, most men abandon those dreams and desires-aided by nothing more than pressure to be a “nice guy.” In this provocative book, Eldredge gives women a look inside the true heart of a man and gives men permission to be what God designed them to be-dangerous, passionate, alive, and free.” Be The Hero… Always!
Women desperately want to fall in love with a man who is a little dangerous and risky. A man who goes for his dreams despite the odds against his success, because his heart compels him to. When a woman becomes submissive to a man, she can totally let go and let the man have his way with her. To ravish her passionately! She wants to be completely penetrated by his love emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. Women instinctively know that a man who has the balls to risk it all in the pursuit of his dreams and goals, will usually have the confidence and strong masculine alpha male presence to eventually succeed. If he has the confidence and internal determination to see his vision and dreams through to its successful conclusions, then he also has the inner strength to break through all of her emotional barriers and tests of his strength to penetrate her with his love; no matter what she throws in his way.
Men who are successful with women, are also successful in their lives, careers, businesses, etc. at getting what they want. Men who are unsuccessful with women, are many times very frustrated with the lack of success in their own lives. That is why when I start phone coaching with a new client, I spend a lot of time on helping them to become more successful and advance in their careers, start a new business, help them turn their existing business around, etc. It is essential to a man’s overall happiness and sense of success and well-being, that he is fulfilled in his life’s purpose and mission. I help men dig really deep so they can discover… or… rediscover, what is most important to them and what they want to accomplish over the course of their lives.
The majority of men and women in the world are working jobs that they hate, and usually are in relationships based on security or settling, instead of truelove. Men who are dangerous and risky are leaders in some way. The word lead means to go first. That’s why in high school a lot of girls have crushes on football players, and other athletes. Masculine energy is all about purpose, drive, direction and mission in life. Feminine energy is all about opening up and receiving love. Women want to be dominated by a man in a loving way, but not in an abusive way. Women will submit and give a man anything he wants as long as he creates an environment where she can feel safe and comfortable. Any time she feels that things are moving too fast, she must know and feel that he will respect her putting the brakes on and hang back for a little bit until she feels more comfortable. Then a short time later, after he has taken two steps back metaphorically, he takes one step forward to see how far he can get with her. She may say no and put up a little resistance, to which he responds with respect and infinite patience. He never gets irritated with her. He loves her; and her comfort and feeling of safety is important to him. As long as a woman knows that she can put the brakes on at any time, and you will back off a little bit and be patient with her before you take another run at her to see if you can get to the next base, she will let you do anything you want to her.
When I was in elementary and middle school, I took a lot of crazy silly risks. My friends and I used to climb to the top of one of my friends backyard trees. This was about three stories high off the ground. My friend’s mother who owned the house, never had the tree trimmed or the canopy thinned out and therefore, the canopy was thick enough and dense enough to hold our weight. So what did we do? We climbed to the top of the tree and jumped onto the canopy. We would ride and slide all the way back down to the ground on the canopy like some giant natural tree slide. It was a blast! It was dangerous as hell, but we knew that tree like the back of our hands. We climbed in it daily. We built tree forts in it. We always put jeans on, long socks, sneakers and tucked our shirts in to avoid getting scratched by the branches.
When I was in middle school, my friends and I used to roam the backwoods with our BB guns and shoot things. 30+ years earlier, my dad, his brother and friends used to roam the same woods with their 22 rifles when they were my age. Unfortunately, our corrupt busy body political class has legislated away most of our freedoms to do those kinds of things today.
Be dangerous. Be bold. Be daring. Go for your dreams and be willing to take risks despite the odds. You will feel more alive and fulfilled that way. Plus, it’s the key to become your most confident and sexually attractive self that will drive women crazy for you. Be her hero. If you are single, be a hero. Be a leader. Be a good example, and more women will notice you and feel sexual attraction for you.
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“Progress always involves risk. You can’t steal second base & keep your foot on first.”-Frederick Wilcox