Girls just wanna have fun! Women like sex just as much as men do. If you would like to casually meet, date and sleep with as many amazing women as you can find, the first thing you should do is let go of your expectations of how things should be. Throw out from your vocabulary any talk about relationships, dating, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc. and do not bring the subject up unless you are responding to something she has brought up about the subject.
Most men worry about the subject of dating, relationships and putting a label on what she means to him, and what he means to her instead of just going with the flow and having fun with her. Look at it this way, unless a woman brings up the subject of relationships or boyfriend/girlfriend, then it is too soon to be talking about or thinking about the subject. A woman will bring it up when she is ready.
So your job as a man is simply to create romantic opportunities for sex to happen. By being mysterious where you don’t offer your whole life story or tell her exactly what you have planned for the evening, but instead you only tell her things about you that she asks about and let her discover the evenings plans as the evening progresses, you will increase her sexual attraction towards you throughout the evening. You make sure she is doing 70 to 80% of the talking by asking her questions about who she is, what her interests are, what she likes to do for fun, funny things that have happened to her in her life, etc. If she has been doing 70 to 80% of the talking during your date, by the end of the evening she may acknowledge this by saying something like “oh my God, I’ve been talking so much and you know everything about me, but I hardly know anything about you.” Then you know you have succeeded at being mysterious. This makes her work to have to get to know you. Since women are curious like cats and most men never do this, her interest level will rise by being mysterious.
The following is an e-mail I got from a coaching client of mine who just had a huge breakthrough weekend out on the town with one of his buddies. He is the truck driver who has been struggling tremendously as he tries to implement what I teach. It only took him about eight months (better late than never LOL) to work up the courage to go out and apply what I have been teaching him. So what happens? He gets the same results that every other guy who has applied what I teach gets. What’s that? Success! My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
Hey man how ya doin? (pretty damn awesome!) Doin alright here. This may sound retarded, but how would a dude go about celebrating the “little victories”? (simple, write down your victories and wins in your success journal. Write down how good it made you feel to have the successes, what was good about it, what you learned, how it built your confidence, etc.) I went out with my best mate Saturday eve to a benefit put on by his sister. We mostly acted like jackasses gettin loaded, being loud and laughing. (that is why women felt very comfortable interacting with you and your wingman. Your party-like, nonjudgmental, drama-free and carefree atmosphere made women feel safe and comfortable to be their outrageous fun selves. You and your wingman were “playing full out” which gives women permission to do the same. As you keep focusing on having a good time instead of trying to chase and meet women, you created the perfect environment where women will approach and hit on you and your wingman. You simply have to say… “yes… no… maybe… I’ll think about it… etc.” regarding accepting and playing along with their aggressive advances towards you. You acted like this kind of thing happens all the time when you are out with your friends. Therefore, women treat you like a guy who always has lots of women touching and clamoring for his attention. They were trying to win you and get you to notice they were into you so you would make a move. Women help you when they like you. They liked your cocky fun jackassery). Great fun! I kept my composure well and looked manly (it musta been the Ted Nugent shirt haha). Got a lot of compliments, too. Lessee I`ll give ya a rundown quick..got 2 phone numbers (one a hot Puerta Rican), sloppy kissed n groped/got groped with 2 hottys, got my nuts massaged on a bike ride (free-ballin!), made some new friends, and some college hotty put her feet on my face and told me to smell them pretty dogs (shoulda got her # too). (I would have gently grabbed her foot, kissed the top of it and then said, “your feet are really nice, but I’d rather kiss your lips… bring those luscious lips of yours over here and give me a little sugar honey” with the cocky and charming James Bond smirk). Anyway it was fun, and only proves to me that I should put myself out there more (How long have I been sayin that?). Fuckin` A. So, how do I go about celebrating these little accomplishments? How about moving forward from here? Do it again,right? (yep, that was only one evening of one day of your life. On to the next adventure. Do it again. Rinse… recycle… repeat). Oh, and that lil Puerta Rican has been contacting me a lot. I asked her on a date and got one even though she got a live-in boyfriend. Pretty cool if ya ask me (playing with fire there bro. But overall? You did great! Awesome job! I’m proud of you!).
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