Exercising Emotional Self-Control

How to maintain your emotional self-control and composure in order to keep women sexually attracted. As I have discussed in numerous previous articles, chasing women and not giving them the time or space to return your calls or miss you, will lead to them having low interest and rejecting you. As I discuss in my book when you first start dating a woman, a man should only call her once per week to ask her out on a date. Over the course of several weeks as you do more things right than wrong (hopefully), she’ll start initiating contact. She won’t want to wait three or four days to hear from you when she’s waiting for you to call and set up the next date. So what most women do is call you just to say hi, to say they were thinking about you, to tell you what an awesome time they had on your last date, etc. The real reason they are calling you is they are hoping you will take the initiative and set up the next date to see them so they don’t have to wait to see you. As she falls more and more for you, she will contact you more and more to help facilitate getting together more frequently. For some men, this is a pretty tall order. They delude themselves into thinking by chasing a woman and blowing up her phone to arrange multiple dates each week, that they can force her into falling in love quicker. Unfortunately, 99.999% of the time this behavior always leads to rejection and heartbreak. The following is an e-mail from a reader who I’ve already answered several e-mails for. However, he has not been taking my advice, but instead has continued to chase and try to force things. Therefore, he just got the “let’s just be friends” speech. He is distraught and wonders what his next move should be. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Corey,

I just finished watching your video and reading your article answering my latest questions. Thanks again for your time. Well to be honest, me and my girl are not together no more because of my mistakes, and not being knowledgeable about this stuff. Now I totally know that I turned her off completely. (At least you own up to it being your fault.) Now I see no hope. If I want anything to change I have to make those steps that you were discussing in your videos. I have to act different, more developed as a man, less needy, more mysterious, etc. I don’t know how I can’t understand these simple steps you were telling me, and that she was telling me. (Bullshit. You understand them. You just choose not to. You must participate in your own rescue. You simply allow yourself to be run by your irrational emotions and feelings. You were too emotionally invested in acting and showing up in your relationship with this girl to change. It’s like the race car driver who loses control of his car and instead of staring and looking at where he wants to steer towards, he instead looks at the wall and drives himself right into it destroying his car.) I just can’t help it. (Bullshit. You simply decided not to listen to what I suggested. Therefore, you got rejected and are simply trying to blame it on not being able to “help it” which helps you avoid responsibility for your actions.) I’m too desperate and a lot of negative thoughts come to my mind which are not letting me try what you teach. (Bullshit. You decided not to try what I taught because you felt you knew better.) I try not to be like that, damn!!! (“Try not! Either do, or do not! There is no try.” ~ Master Yoda.) Should I stay in contact with her? (Are you fucking kidding me? You’re actually asking me this after I’ve already taken the time on multiple occasions to point out what not to do, i.e. chasing her and trying to force things, etc.? Let’s review: 1. First you turn her off, and she’s nice enough to tell you what you’re doing wrong, in hopes you will LISTEN TO HER and take corrective action. I confirm what she’s saying. 2. Then she wants time apart as you continue to try and smother her out of your own neediness. 3. She gives you even more chances and tells you to grow a set of balls and act like a man and NOT TO CHASE HER. Which you obviously continue to do. 4. Your continued chasing and acting needy causes her to give you the “let’s just be friends speech.” 5. Now you’re asking me if you should chase her some more? Seriously? If you keep doing what you are doing, the next thing she will do is get a restraining order because you are acting like a stalker!) Should I move on? (Ya think?) I know it is hard, but I don’t know what to do. (Bullshit. Here it is again: 1. read my book 2. Start meeting & dating as many new women as you can to improve your skills. 3. You need LOTS OF PRACTICE or you will never get any better. 4. By meeting & dating dozens of new women every month you will be able to perfect your skills of seduction.) Thank you, I hope you read this. (Read my book before you send me any more questions. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Bob

“Everything happens for a reason. Things go wrong so that you learn to appreciate them when they’re right. You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself… and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” ~ Nicole Durham