Destroying the myth of the race barrier & how it relates to successfully attracting & seducing women. Every man who is unsuccessful with women has his own reasons why he thinks he’s unsuccessful. Any area of your life that is not where you want it to be will have a story you created around the reasons why you think you don’t have what you want in life. We all bullshit ourselves in some form or another when it comes to doing things we know we need to do, but don’t because they make us feel uncomfortable. Our story or our reasons become our excuses we use to not take any action to help ourselves or to improve our situation. Then when life doesn’t change and it still sucks week after week, month after month and year after year, we can point the finger at and blame someone or something outside of ourselves as why our life is not the way we ideally want it to be. The following is an e-mail from a reader who believes the reason he is unsuccessful with the kind of women he really wants, is because of some elusive race barrier that he believes is keeping him from the goddesses he wants in his life. The real problem is that the strategy he is using to try and attract women sucks. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
Hello Coach Corey,
How do I overcome the race barrier? (Stop giving a shit about it; stop talking about it. Watch what Actor Morgan Freeman has to say about racism. He has an enlightened perspective. The only people talking about racism are the shallow jackasses in the media trying to stir shit up to get ratings and viewers so they can sell advertising and make a profit. They only seem focused on trying to keep people upset at each other and acting like immature five year olds. “Haters don’t really hate you, they hate themselves because you’re a reflection of what they wish to be.” – Tony McDaniel.) I am an african-american male and in no way am I like the stereo types portrayed in the media. (Racism is an illusion. Why? The “racists” are simply human beings who project their own self-hatred and self-loathing onto people based upon skin color, intelligence, societal status, class, wealth, beliefs, worldview, religion, political beliefs, etc. By projecting what they hate about themselves onto another, it allows them to avoid responsibility for their own actions, shortcomings and failures. It’s always someone else’s fault. They use racism as a reason to blame others for their own self-inflicted failures and unhappiness. Politicians manipulate public opinion and use shame or guilt to convince voters to vote for them, or to hate or marginalize a certain group of people for their own selfish political gain.) I’m a regular dude and maybe a bit of a nerd, but I am attracted to all women so long as they are beautiful, confident and know what they want. Sometimes I feel like I might have to work twice as hard to get a beautiful asian woman, caucasian woman or get latin women to take interest. (That’s just the story you use to bullshit yourself to justify not taking any action to help improve your situation. You must participate in your own rescue.) I’m not bad looking. I have masculine features, I may just need to drop a few pounds but then that’s about it. I’ve read your book and it’s helping me to become more in touch with my masculine energy, but any advice on how to overcome any race barriers? (Most women are not going to like you and want you. It’s a numbers game. The more women you talk to and interact with, the quicker you will learn to tell the difference between a woman you have a chance with and one you don’t. Eventually you will only talk to and attract women who like you. Then it becomes effortless. Project strength and confidence to attract women. Get busy improving your social skills so you can meet and date lots of women to practice your skills on and learn to master the 3 methods of seduction. Repetition is the mother of skill. Get busy. Time to bust a move! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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