How to get women in bars, nightclubs & other public social places to notice you & approach you first for a date! In this article I’m going to share with you some of my best techniques and strategies so you can create a life and lifestyle that causes beautiful desirable women to approach you first for a date. Make sure you click through and read all of the articles I have highlighted in blue hyperlink text below; you’ll need the specific techniques I detail in them to successfully employ this strategy. If you’d like to meet more women so you have plenty of women to practice what I teach in my book on, then you need to stop worrying about how to get women to notice you. Men who are successful with women and who have busy and successful lives are not looking for women. They’re looking for ways to make their lives easier so they can spend more of their time having fun! It’s in the daily activities of going about their lives and succeeding at their purpose that they encounter women who find them attractive along their journey. Women can sense and feel a dominant male when he walks into a room. Where ever dominant men go, they are usually the center of attention.
Just like the captain of the football team is popular and everyone goes over to see him and catch up on what interesting things he’s gotten into lately, if you carry yourself and behave in this way you’ll cause strangers everywhere to respect and gravitate towards you. Men who you don’t know will come up to you and shake your hand just to pay respects to you and your dominant male presence. It’s really bizarre the first few times this happens to you and you experience this personally! When you carry yourself like you’re someone who’s really special, content and happy within himself, you will have the same presence as the captain of the football team or a celebrity. Most men who are unsuccessful with women scour the landscape looking for women like a thirsty man in the desert looking for water. How they think, act and behave communicates scarcity and lack. If you have more than enough of something in your life, you don’t need to go looking for more. As a matter of fact, the last thing you need is more. The following is an e-mail from a reader who wants to know how to get women in bars and nightclubs to notice him instead of ignoring him. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
I really like your clips on the women front. I’m Will, 26 and based in London. I’m like yourself, very sociable. I’m also into my comedy and sports. At the moment, I’m working in the city and ironically live with two flat mates who are women; no sparks on either side, but I am single.
The problem I need help with is, since my first love when I was 20, she was 27 at the time and had to go back to Paris. I’ve been in and out of relationships. I seem to keep finding myself with women I’m not that keen on in terms of attraction, but seemed to see as easy. So I gradually go into a relationship. (In other words, you keep settling for mediocrity because it’s easy. The downside is, it’s not very fun, fulfilling or exciting either.) Ironically, these women seem to chase me as I come across as easy going and not nervous when I speak to them as I’m not into them. (You should treat all women the same, especially the ones you like. A man who loves women is loved by women. Treat all women like your girlfriend. Be sweet and refer to them as honey or baby. Use pickup lines that don’t sound like pickup lines to start conversations. Ask women their opinions on things. Ask them their opinions on what you read here on my website, or in my book! That will get them interested in talking with you! Women LOVE to talk about dating and relationships! They’ll appreciate you more and try to help you by offering advice; they LOVE to give their opinion on things. Strike up conversations with people in line wherever you go. Why? It gets you used to talking with people and makes you realize most people are friendly and happy to chat to pass the time standing in line, etc. Then, when you turn around and a total 10 is standing behind you, its easy to chat her up about any random subject because you have developed this skill with all the other random people you have chatted with daily over the past several months as you were practicing and preparing. It becomes just like breathing. Once you talk to and interact with enough women, you’ll start to see who really likes you and who’s just being friendly. Then, eventually you’ll look in a woman’s eyes and her yours, and you’ll both be feeling the same attraction and connection. It will be unmistakable. You’ll know exactly what to say because you have rehearsed it with hundreds of random strangers and women previously, so you already know what to look for and do to succeed. It’s effortless!)
I really want a girlfriend who is beautiful inside and out, but I find in bars and clubs these women are either in a relationship, or not interested in engaging in conversation. (I never approach women in bars or nightclubs. When I do go out, I go out with friends to have a good time by ourselves. We focus on having a good time and making each other laugh. By having the proper body language and physiology, women will approach you. Read my article, How To Get Women To Approach You First and do what it says the next time you go out with your buddies. It will cause all of the available single women to approach you and your group. Why? Because they will perceive you and your group as the most dominant men.) How do I get these women’s attention? (You don’t. You make them try to get yours! You should also set up an online dating profile like this to get 2-3 super high quality women per month contacting you first who match your criteria of the perfect woman for you. This will give you plenty of women to practice what I teach on so you can perfect your skills of seduction.) I’ve decided to turn a leaf and be a reacher not a settler. (Great! You should start by reading my book. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
Look forward to hearing from you.
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