What do I mean by this? Cats tend to come and go as they please. They do what they want, when they want and with who they want. Dogs on the other hand, are very loyal and always are at your side no matter what. Dogs will do what they are told such as: sit, lay down, roll over, etc. When you tell a cat what to do, they pretty much ignore you and do whatever the hell they want LOL.
When you call a dog, it happily comes to you. When you call a cat, it will usually give you a look like, “are you serious?” Men are very logic and reason oriented. If you want them to do something you must give them step-by-step instructions. They usually are not good at reading between the lines to figure out what a woman is really trying to say to them. When a woman is in a relationship with a man who does not understand women, she has a choice. She can either tell him in a logical way and with step-by-step instructions what she wants and how she wants to be treated, or she can become single again until she finds a man who does understand women. Why? The average man is too lazy and egocentric to admit they need help with women. Therefore, they will change nothing and continue to fail.
Cats are curious by nature and come and go as they please. If they become bored, they will leave and go exploring to find something that is interesting to them. So how can this help you sexually attract the women you want and keep them attracted? If you chase a cat, it will run away. If you chase a woman, she will run away. However, if you give a woman the space to come and go as she pleases, she will come to you when she feels like it. Usually when she starts to doubt that you really want her.
What I used to do when I was constantly getting rejected by the women I wanted, was I came on too strong and acted needy. In a way I was acting like I needed and was seeking her approval. Since women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear, you must give a woman the space to feel the depth of her emotions/feelings for you. Women will like you more and find you sexually attractive if they think that they like you more than you like them. That is why a woman will call you or text you at work during the day just to say hi. She may not have heard from you, or she simply misses you and wants to hear your voice. In a way it is a test to see how much you really love her. When you confirm how much you love and adore her by being grateful and happy to hear her voice, after you hang up she will probably be thinking about you all afternoon because you were sweet to her and validated her feelings for you.
This is really important in the courtship: If you call or text a woman, you must be strong enough and patient enough to wait until she gets back to you. If you can not hold out and wait until she contacts you when she feels like it, this will communicate to her that you are weak and needy and lower her interest level in you. This will cause her to back away even more. When a woman does this, most men will chase her even harder which confirms to her their weakness and unsuitability as a mate. Most single women have several guys calling them and wanting to take them out. They will always fall for the guy they can’t have their way with and the one who does not chase her when she ignores him. It’s all about feeling safe and comfortable. When a guy acts needy or tries to control her and make her do what he wants, women run from these guys! Why? Women know that needy, insecure and control-freak men become stalkers and abusive boyfriends.
Men who see themselves as a catch don’t chase women. Why? They don’t not have to. Women are calling them and trying to catch them and make them theirs. It’s always best to make sure when you are dating a woman that she calls and contacts you 70 to 80% of the time. The phone, texting, e-mail, etc. are for setting up definite dates. Not for giving out information or trying to get to know someone over the phone. The mistake most guys make is that they talk women right out of going out with them over the phone. Why? Men usually tell women their whole life story over the phone. Instead of in person, and slowly over time in response to her being curious about you. Its better to lets her ask about you then for you to volunteer everything about yourself. When a woman learns everything about you over the phone, she has nothing to be curious about. Your life is like an open book. This is not a challenge to her and just like a cat, she will get bored and go look for someone else to be curious about.
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Its always better if a woman thinks that she likes you more than you like her.