Women NEED To Wonder About You!

Here’s why women need to wonder where they stand with you in order for them to feel more attraction for you. It’s counterintuitive and difficult for most men to grasp the concept that women will start to like you more and feel more attraction for you when they’re not talking to you or hearing from you. Men are visual creatures. We see a beautiful woman and are instantly thinking about sticking something inside of her. If she’s hot and sexy we usually want her instantly. With women however, they need time and space away from you to wonder about you so their feelings can develop. A woman must have the time to feel her feelings for you as well as contemplating the possibility that she may lose you. She needs time to talk to her girlfriends about you so she can become uncertain of where she stands with you. When she becomes uncertain she will usually reach out to you to gain some certainty, or to make it easy for you to ask her out on another date. When you ask a woman out on two different occasions and she rejects you both times, you must never bring it up again or ask her out again unless she brings it up first; even if she is calling you. Why? If she really wants to see you, but you don’t bring it up anymore when she contacts you, she’ll bring it up. If she doesn’t, then it means she does not want to see you. Only two possibilities exist: 1) she brings it up and then you make a definite date or 2) she stops calling you. You either get her or someone better. The following is an e-mail from a reader who got dumped by his girlfriend because of weak and needy behavior. For the last 9 out of 11 days she has contacted him, but hasn’t brought up getting together. In a moment of weakness he writes me again looking for justification to start chasing her even though that is what got him rejected in the first place. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey,

Me again, your advice and knowledge on making people improve themselves is second to none, you are a true humanitarian. So to review, I started seeing this girl 9 months ago. I made tons of mistakes, neediness, possessiveness, etc. She gave me the “Let’s Just Be Friends” speech to which I gave her the getting your ex back speech. I then asked for two dates over the course of a few weeks and got rejected both times. I truly walked away, because her actions demonstrated low interest. (Good job! The hard part is having the balls to stay committed to what you have done/said and to not in a moment of weakness and neediness start chasing her again.)

Now out of the past 11 days she has initiated contact with me 9 times. I keep politely telling her that I’m busy and that it’s nice talking to her and for her to keep in touch. I keep the conversation to a maximum of 5 to 15 minutes by always asking a few questions. The other day she got nasty because she was trying to push me to converse more with her and I didn’t play ball. I then sent her a text along the lines of how to make a woman submit to you. Next day she gets in touch again and says “ok” and starts a conversation and rings me on skype. (Good! When women start to treat you harshly, you must stand up for yourself and not take their crap. If you allow them to mistreat you then you are training them to always be this way with you. Women have to know that if they push you too far you will walk and never look back. If you allow it to continue she will lose all respect for you. Women don’t respect men they can walk all over. If they don’t respect you, they can NEVER love you!) So once again I tell her that I’m busy, keep in touch, bye. The other day I turned my skype to invisible and I kinda felt she came online looking for me because she knows when I finish work, but she thought I wasn’t online. (You don’t know that! It’s not all about you!)

I was thinking of telling her that I adore her and love her and I’m sorry for the hurt blah, blah, blah, but due to you not having any enthusiasm in having physical contact with me I would rather spend my time with other girls that love seeing me and being with me. If or when you do change your mind about seeing me then give me a call, I’d love to see you. (Why? You already did this. She’s turned you down TWICE for dates because she was not interested in seeing you. What’s changed? NOTHING!!! Has she brought up seeing you or getting together? NO. So unless she brings it up FIRST, then you are not going to ask her out. She’s obviously getting frustrated with you and your unavailability, but you are acting like a guy who is bored with her and who is busy with other women who are actually wanting to see him and seduce him. He has no time for time wasters. Until this girl brings up getting together, she’s a time waster. She blew her chance. Men who are successful with women only ask women out on dates who say yes when they ask. They don’t keep asking after getting turned down twice, or they’ve been dumped like you have. Why would you want to go back to trying to force things to happen with her when that approach has only gotten you banished to friends zone??? The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. Besides, science has proven women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.) Quite frankly it’s getting really boring having to say the same thing over and over again, as always your advice is very much appreciated. (Bullshit! Translation: “Corey, I’m feeling really weak and needy and I want you to tell me it’s ok to start chasing her again even though that approach doesn’t work and already got me rejected in the first place.” Dude, you need to grow a set of balls! She’s frustrated now. That’s a good thing. Why? She can’t figure you out and you seem to be really busy and have little time for her. She’s going to do one of two things: 1) Throw in the towel and bring up doing something together, to which you should make definite plans if she does or 2) she will stop contacting you. You should be practicing your skills on new women so you can improve your game and master the 3 methods of seduction. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Kind Regards
Mario

“Impatience never commanded success.” ~ Edwin Chapin