If your wife or girlfriend is uninterested in sex or always has trouble getting wet, when before she was always initiating sex and always dripping wet any time you put your hands down her pants, this is the sign of a woman who does not feel safe and comfortable in the relationship. It means that she may be angry with you, have low interest, you may have done something to hurt her, etc.
A man is responsible for the environment and the direction of the relationship. After all, a man will penetrate his woman physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. If he has stopped courting her, there is financial stress, he argues with her or simply does not know how to break down her barriers when she is upset, she will shut down to him emotionally and physically. She will lose her interest in sex.
When a man does not take care of what he needs to take care of the relationship (managing money, keeping his word, understanding and communicating with her effectively, etc.) she will doubt his masculine core, pull away and test. She will become bitchy.
Your job as a man is to recognize when your woman shuts down to you so you can open her back up to you through communication. Ask her what’s wrong? Tell her she seems a little distant and that you want to know what’s in her heart? Say things like… “tell me more, don’t leave anything out, I want to understand where you are coming from, what else?, etc.” you will know when you’ve got to the root cause of the issue and have resolved it to her satisfaction. She will give a sigh of relief and probably say… “I feel so much better! I’m so glad we talked!” Until you hear those words, you need to keep digging and getting her talk about her emotions and her feelings without trying to solve the problem. For women, talking about their problems helps them resolve and work through them. Getting them to talk will also reveal if it is something you have done to hurt them. I go into a lot of detail on this subject in my book.
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