I know ugly but successful rock stars, movie stars, professional athletes, etc. get beautiful women all the time, but what about me? I’m just an average Joe, can I really learn to sexually attract women who are out of my league? If you find or have found yourself asking these very same kinds of questions, then this will be the most exciting article you will ever read!
If you take the time to survey enough women, you will find that looks is usually third or fourth on their list of the qualities that they find most sexually attractive in men. What is usually the number one trait that women find sexually attractive in men? Confidence. What is confidence? Confidence is nothing more than doing what you know how to do in a given situation, and doing it to the best of your ability. Repetition is the mother of skill. You should do the things that you are not very good at over and over until you can do them well. That will build your confidence and make you feel confident. Why? In action breeds fear and doubt. Action breeds confidence and courage. Women are sexually attracted to men who have the confidence and courage to go after what they want, DESPITE the fact it probably scares the hell out of them and they might not succeed. Confident men take action in spite of their fears. Their confidence and persisting without exception towards their goals and dreams communicates to women that they are also confident enough and would persist without exception in their love for their women. These men have the strength to break through the barriers that stand in the way of their success. Women assume these men have the strength to love, break through and penetrate the emotional barriers women put up when they are protecting their hearts. A man who penetrates life with his sheer will and conviction will also have the strength to penetrate his woman emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.
Men who are timid and too afraid to pursue what they really want in life, are perceived as being too weak to break through their woman’s emotional barriers, and open them up emotionally when they have shut down emotionally. Women simply assume that these men do not have what it takes to properly love and support their women or be a good stable provider if they were to have children with them. From a biological perspective, weak and timid men will produce weak and timid offspring that will be unsuccessful at finding a mate and therefore, unsuccessful at passing their genes on to the next generation. When a man approaches a woman, but inside he does not feel he is worthy enough for her, she has no choice but to respond in agreement with his belief and physiology that communicates unworthiness.
Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. Women who you think are drop dead gorgeous, I may find average, ugly, unattractive or uninteresting. Like attracts like. Human beings are naturally attracted to other human beings who have a similar facial structure. Therefore, none of us find exactly the same characteristics sexually attractive in others. We are all completely unique and have different interests and body types that we find attractive. The key is to decide what you really want. What your HEART compels you to desire or create. If it’s what your heart truly wants, you will feel a burning desire inside to be it, or to become it. Anything other than what your heart wants is a false mental projection of your mind. If you chase or do what you think you should instead of what you FEEL you should, you are making a conscious choice to destroy any chance you have for true happiness, success and fulfillment. Choose wisely!
The following is an e-mail I got from a reader. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
Yeah… and some of the BIGGEST PRICKS I know.. I DO NOT want a woman who finds these PRICKS attractive.. (These two statements tell me that you are jealous and envious of other people who you perceive as being more successful or having more financial success than you do. This tells me that you have a scarcity/poverty mindset. Alpha males sincerely want the best for other people. They are happy and grateful for their success and wish to help and facilitate the uplifting and success of others. Not all alpha males are the “pricks” that you are jealous and envious of.) If this is what it takes.. I don’t want no part of it.. (Translation… “Wow, you mean I might actually have to do some work on myself to become a more successful man, and therefore become happier in order to attract the kind of woman that I really want and deep down know I deserve? I know that women like men who are successful and striving to be the very best version of themselves that they can be, but that would get me out of my comfort zone and mean that I am responsible for my own happiness and success. It’s much easier to blame other people for my circumstances than to take some responsibility for my own actions or lack thereof, and participate in my own rescue. I am afraid I do not have what it takes. That I will fail.”)
God, how I HATE these “business-big mouth-pricks”. (No you don’t. Actually, you wish you were one of these “business–big mouth–pricks” yourself, but you are unsure how to become one. It sounds like a lot of work to you. So you make excuses and bullshit yourself into blaming everyone and everything outside of yourself for your own self created problems.) If that is what women are attracted to.. screw that, I would rather be alone… (Translation… “that sounds like a lot of work! But I am a lazy guy and do not love myself enough to take any real sustained kind of action towards the things I want in my life.”) That ‘alpha-male prick”… God, I hate these pricks with a passion… (Translation… “God, I’m so jealous and envious of successful people!”) have a nice day..
P.S. I STILL believe it is ALL pre-determined. (Translation… “the reason I say it is all pre-determined, is because that is part of the story I have created to bullshit myself so I do not feel guilty about the fact that at least until I wrote this e-mail to you, I have been too lazy and too unmotivated to do anything to really help myself or benefit my situation.”)
Its ALL about “looks”.. you may wish to add THAT in your next book! (Translation… “it’s all about looks” is another tool I use to bullshit myself so I don’t feel guilty about not taking any action to help myself. It allows me to keep the lie going that I am helpless to do anything to improve my situation and overall happiness.”) or, it can be summed -up with one sentence.”If you are NOT Brad Pitt” forget the woman of your dreams…” THE END. But, have a nice day! (All you have to do is ask women this simple question… “What are your top three most important characteristics or traits that you find sexually attractive in men?” Ask several dozen women this question. What will be the number one thing that they all say most often is most important to them in a man? I guarantee you confidence will ALWAYS be higher on the list then looks. You can verify that yourself, and once you do you’ll realize you can no longer bullshit yourself into not taking any action to improve yourself and your circumstances. In life you are either a passenger or a pilot, it’s YOUR choice. If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll continue to get what you’ve always got! That’s something to think about!)
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