Women love men who have set compelling goals and are relentlessly taking action to make them a reality. That’s what an alpha male does. Masculine energy is all about purpose, drive, direction, focus, pursuing your goals, etc. Vibrant, passionate, excited alpha males are interested in being at their best personally.
Masculine energy grows through challenge. Men do not feel fully alive unless they have a compelling vision for where they want to go, or what they want to create in their lives and are taking action to make it happen. Men grow and become more by stepping outside of their comfort zone and pushing up against their fears and limiting beliefs to break through and succeed despite tremendous odds against them.
Women find these men exciting. They’re going places. Men who are drifting through life working a job they hate (usually working only as hard as they need to in order to keep from getting fired), who don’t have any real goals or dreams to aspire to, are a turnoff to any woman. Men like this are impotent in their lives and usually just as impotent and unexcited about their family, spouse or girlfriend. A woman wants to be filled up by her man’s love and presence. A guy who is not very excited or enthusiastic about life in general is going to be a drag to be around. A woman does not want to be the reason why a guy pursues his purpose in life. They want the guy to chase after his own dreams because they are compelling to him. When a guy is enthusiastic about his purpose… his wife, girlfriend or women he is dating will get excited to be a part of his life and love and encourage him to be his best.
When a woman has to constantly kick her man in the ass to get him to pursue his dreams or take the actions he needs to take, this causes her to move out of her natural feminine essence and into her masculine side. She may love and support him at first because he’s going through a tough time, but there comes a point when he needs to pick up the torch and participate in his own rescue. This causes a woman to not trust his masculine core, shut down to him emotionally and physically, lose sexual attraction towards him, destroys her level of comfort and causes her to not feel safe. Women need to feel safe and comfortable if they are to open up and receive your love.
People who have the will to live and who are excited about their future, will take whatever consistent daily action they need to take in order to achieve their goals and realize their dreams. People who do not have the will to live or who have given up, will usually do nothing to help themselves, take care of their body, go back to school to finish their degree, start a new business, etc.
The following is an e-mail I got from a reader. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
I saw your “follow” on Twitter, which I am sure is in abundance, but just seems like I should make this email.
After being laid off, I moved from MD to ME for career opportunity leaving all family and friends behind, having emergency surgery on a man’s most private part, wife having emergency surgery for thyroid cancer spread to lymph node (cancer is caused by the over-acidification of the bodies tissues. Read my articles “death begins in the colon“, “rediscovered: the fountain of youth“, “circulation is the key to a healthy body” and “how to maintain your ideal weight“. You should also get regular Network Chiropractic Care adjustments by a Doctor certified in Level 3 Care. The health and life benefits are INCREDIBLE! I discuss them at length in my article “How To Become More Confident & Sure Of Your Actions“. You also need to read Dr. Robert O. Young’s books “The Ph Miracle” and “Sick and Tired: How To Reclaim Your Inner Terrain.” Without your health, its infinitely harder to truly enjoy your life and reach your goals.) and being told I need reconstructive surgery pertaining to above that has only 65% success rate, I have fallen into an abyss (you have put yourself there. You must participate in your own rescue) that is destroying my once undeniably remarkable sensitive relationship (you stopped doing the things that made your relationship successful. You also need to fill in your knowledge gaps regarding understanding women and how to turn things around in your relationship by reading my book. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships. Also read this article of mine: “women want you at your best“) This all occurred since Jan. of ’09.
Oh, and I have a beautiful, smart and healthy 2 year old, that I am actually maintaining a good relationship with (awesome! Another reason to create a compelling future for yourself and your family. Read my article “goal setting that works“), but as he gets older I need to have my health sustained and physical activity. I am not the baby-step guy, I take on mountains with only success in mind, but I think I need to know how to take baby-steps (Read my articles “how to discover your purpose in life” “what’s your greatest dream?“, “do you bullshit yourself?” and “how to turn your life and business around“.
How do I get back to realizing that life is a gift and even when things seem bad, someone is dealing with worse? (create a success journal by writing down everything you are grateful for in life every morning upon awakening. Read my article… “you must crave success“) Knowing I am what I was and not a fading statistic? (stop acting like a fading statistic. Start living and creating the life of your dreams by choosing emotionally compelling goals and dreams. Resolve to pay the price it takes to get what you want in life no matter how hard things seem. Most importantly? You must take consistent daily action to achieve your goals and turn your life around. Taking consistent and passionate action towards your goals and dreams demonstrates to everyone in your life through your example that you have the will to live. Women are most attracted to men who are passionate about their purpose in life and taking action to make it a reality). I need my career due to how I was raised (Do you love what you are doing? If not, you should be working on the side to build and do what you want until you can safely transition out of what you were doing, and into what your heart compels you to do), but my wife is done with my lack of my old self (you have not been demonstrating a compelling vision for your life, or your family. You have impotent goals. That is, goals that do not inspire you). and I cannot let her down, let alone myself (Great. Then demonstrate thru your actions that you really mean it).
Sorry if this is long, but I still believe there are always those moments in life where help is there and it’s just a matter of recognizing and determining how it can help (Invest in yourself. You should book a paid phone coaching session with me by clicking here so I can help you put together a compelling life plan for yourself and help you breakthru the things that are holding you back).
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